He thought he was right to make a statement by leaving his son’s wedding after his wife got denied a mother-son dance. However, everyone in his family believes he should make things right!
No One Could Replace His Mom
OP (Original Poster) has a 27-year-old son named Jordan. Jordan and his new wife, Natalie, met when he was only 16—3 years after his mom died.
He shared, “Jordan never really considered Natalie as his mom.”
Not Letting Her Close
Jordan refused to let Natalie in, and they never got close. He shut down every attempt to have a better relationship with her.
OP said that his son even moved out and lived with his aunt months after he and Natalie got married.
As years passed, OP said Jordan and Natalie started reconciling. They also saw each other more often.
Because of this, Jordan invited him and Natalie to his wedding, which happened a few days before this story was posted.
When OP and Natalie got there, he said everything was going well. He noted that “the atmosphere was great.”
However, this didn’t last long.
He soon found out that Jordan denied Natalie a mother-son dance. Instead, Jordan chose to dance with his aunt.
He up and Left
OP found out about this through Natalie.
He said, “I couldn’t help but feel irritated and quite upset. I decided to get up and leave, and we both left.”
Calls From Family
OP didn’t leave discreetly; many people seem to have seen him. He said he got calls from his family after they saw him leave.
Why Did You Do That?
OP also got a call from Jordan, and he told him why he did it. Upon hearing his dad’s explanation, Jordan got mad and said that it was his wedding, so it was up to him to choose who he wanted to dance with.
Jordan told OP that his aunt is basically a mother to him and that Natalie shouldn’t expect “special treatment.”
Traditions and Malicious Intent
OP tried reasoning with his son and said dancing with Natalie wasn’t special treatment; it was “tradition.”
He also wrote, “Besides that, he hurt her feelings for no reason other than for the sake of being malicious.”
Ruining His Big Day
Jordan got offended by his dad’s accusation. So, he told OP that he caused a scene and ruined his big day.
No One on His Side of the Court
OP thought he did what was right. However, he soon found out that he was alone in thinking so.
He ended by saying, “Now the family sided with him and said I shouldn’t have left no matter what.”
Jeopardizing Their Relationship
OP felt like he might be the a**hole by suddenly leaving his son’s wedding and making a scene instead of bringing it up privately.
He said he might have compromised his relationship with Jordan since it was his wedding, and the day was a big deal for him.
Redditors believed this isn’t probably the first time OP chose his new wife over his son.
One said, “You’re the a**hole. Your wife has never been his mother, and he has every right to not have a mother-son dance with her. I strongly suspect this isn’t the first time you’ve chosen your wife over your son, and that is probably why he moved in with his aunt. If you want any kind of relationship with your son going forward, I very much recommend both you and your wife apologize for throwing a tantrum at his wedding.”
Forcing Him to Accept
One Redditor also said that Jordan probably didn’t have a good relationship with Natalie because they were trying to force her into his life to replace his mom.
This person said, “For OP’s son to have moved out after only a few months, I have a feeling the reason is because OP and his wife were trying to force him to accept the stepmom as his ‘mom’ right from the start. And after all that happened, OP’s son invites them both to his wedding, and OP has the audacity to demand a mother-son dance? Then they leave when they don’t get their way? Wow, there goes any chance of them mending their relationship. You’re the a**hole.”
You Better Apologize
In this instance, it seems no one is on OP’s side. Community members advised him to apologize and try to make things right.
A woman said, “You can’t force your son to replace his mom with a woman you picked out. You’re the a**hole. You may have just locked that door forever. Apologize and grow up, and learn that just because you see something one way doesn’t mean everyone must.”
What would you do? Do you think OP could still make things right?
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