OP (Original Poster) received almost everything when one of his parents died. Now his sibling, who wanted nothing to do with them, came running back, wanting a cut of his inheritance!
The Death of a Parent and Complicated Family Issues
OP’s (Original Poster) parent, whom he referred to as P1 in this story, recently passed away, and he found out that he’d inherited most of P1’s estate. He has two siblings, S1 and S2, but his parents have been divorced for decades.
When they split, OP stayed with P1, while his two siblings stayed with their other parent, P2, and lived on the other side of the country. S1 had basically been estranged from P1, and they hadn’t spoken in over five years.
Dependent and Needy
His two siblings are unemployed and “living off of” P2. Meanwhile, OP is married, has kids, and supports himself financially.
OP shared that S2 was “by no means rich.” They live paycheck to paycheck and will “likely work until they are 90.”
The Only Present Child
Because of their family dynamics, OP was the only one who had lived near P1 for years. He was present, especially when P1’s health was declining.
He mentioned that his P1’s death was unexpected but “seemed inevitable” within the next 10 years.
Frequent Hospital Visits
After all, P1 had been in and out of the hospital for the last few years because of falls and other issues.
Throughout all this, OP’s two siblings were not in the picture. They were away, and the only one there to look after P1 was OP.
An Independent Old Man
Though old and frail, P1 was independent and refused to go to a nursing facility.
OP wrote, “The neighbor and I would keep in touch so that we could both keep a lookout for P1. This system worked as well as it could since we were able to get P1 to the hospital or call the local fall assist program to help P1 several times.”
Crypto Inheritance and More
When P1 died, he left almost everything to OP in the will. His second sibling was left with an item worth a few thousand dollars.
On the flip side, OP’s first sibling didn’t receive anything. Nothing was written for him in the will.
In on the Secret
OP explained that he’d known for years that S1 would not be getting anything. So, he’d advised P1 to give more to his siblings; otherwise, it “will cause problems.”
However, the will was never changed to include his first sibling, and when P1 passed away, S1 received nothing.
Crypto Enthusiasts
Out of the three siblings, OP’s first and second siblings were more knowledgeable about cryptocurrency and how much it was worth.
He wrote, “They both spend all day on message boards, and somehow reading that makes them think that the cryptos will make all three of us billionaires based on some crazy six-figure valuation per coin.”
Siblings’ Expectations
OP shared that both his siblings expected OP to split the crypto inheritance between them equally.
Their dad’s death and hospitalization also left some bills that needed to be paid out of the estate, and S1 is “outraged” that he wants to sell crypto during the bull market to cover the debts. It turns out that S1 expected him to pay the bills with his own money!
Demands and Intimidation Tactics
Then, immediately after OP’s dad’s death, S1 demanded to see the will. He was “so intimidating” with his demands that OP’s extended family backed out of helping him with the death and getting things in order.
Roping in Their Other Sibling
OP’s first sibling then started hounding S2 to “guilt” him into agreeing to split things evenly between the three of them.
So, OP’s second sibling visited him for several weeks after their dad’s death and helped clean out the property.
A Mediator
His second sibling had kept quiet about everything and was waiting to see how everything played out. OP’s sibling had been “great all around” about everything but soon acted as a mediator between OP and S1.
So, to get rid of the stress he was under, he told S2 to tell S1 that he would be “fair.”
Going Back on His Word
However, for OP, nothing about the situation was fair. He’s in charge of the estate and has to do all the work; on top of that, he took care of P1 on his own for years.
OP wrote, “Am I the a**hole for not wanting to split the cryptos evenly with both siblings despite saying I would be fair?”
Redditors’ Thoughts and Advice
For users, OP should adhere to his P1’s wishes and move forward. OP shouldn’t feel guilty at all for how everything turned out.
One user wrote, “Not the a**hole. You owe them nothing. You don’t owe them being ‘fair.’ All you need to do is respect P1’s wishes and carry out their will as they intended. Not doing that is disrespectful to P1.”
Another commented, “Not the a**hole. S1 hasn’t had a relationship with P1. Why would they expect anything? You did the hard parts, and now they want the ‘benefit’ of an inheritance. You could share if you want to, but I’m willing to bet they will blow through any money within months based on how you have described them.”
It’s Already Fair!
For others, the will that P1 left was already fair. OP’s first sibling didn’t help and, therefore, shouldn’t get a share of the fortune.
“Not the a**hole. As the executor of the will, it is incumbent upon you to respect P1’s wishes. You even tried to convince P1 to change, and P1 did not. That tells you all you need to know,” wrote one user.
Another person remarked, “Not the a**hole. You earned what was left to you. Keeping it is fair.”
What do you think? What should OP do?
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This post first appeared as He Refused to Split His Billion-Dollar Crypto Inheritance With His Siblings “Fairly.” He Lied and Said He Would, but They Weren’t There When It Mattered. They Don’t Deserve a Cent! on Quote Ambition.
