He only wants to be vigilant and take all the precautions so he doesn’t get contaminated by others’ bodily fluids. However, his wife believes he’s taking things too far and is simply being ridiculous!
My Wife Is a Gynecologist
OP’s (Original Poster) wife works at a hospital as a gynecologist. Because of her line of work, she recently mentioned that she was exposed to many bodily fluids throughout her workday.
Proud but Uncomfortable
OP is proud of his wife, especially of how important her work is. However, he’s uncomfortable about lying beside his wife on the bed when she gets home from work without showering.
An Unnecessary and Unreasonable Request
He had already brought up his issues with his wife.
However, OP shared, “I’ve asked her to take a shower before coming to bed, but she thinks it’s unnecessary and feels like I’m being unreasonable.”
I’m Taking Precautions
His wife argued that she wears gloves and takes all necessary precautions to “avoid any contamination.” OP’s wife also adds that her scrubs are changed daily.
Still Uneasy
Even with his wife’s explanation, OP still feels uneasy about lying beside her without her showering first. He added, “I don’t think it’s an unreasonable request for her to take a quick shower before bed.”
His Idea of a Resolution
The couple couldn’t find a compromise. His wife still refused to shower, and OP still refused to sleep beside her, knowing she hadn’t showered.
So, OP decided that sleeping on the couch in the living room would be his best option.
You’re Being Ridiculous!
OP shared that his wife thinks he is “overreacting” and is “being ridiculous.” However, OP doesn’t want to back down.
He mentioned, “I don’t want to compromise my comfort and health.”
Redditors’ Opinions
Though most Redditors lean toward OP not being the a**hole in this story, a handful of users still thought he was wrong for pulling something like that on his wife.
Trust Your Wife; She’s a Doctor!
Some of those who said that OP was the a**hole in this story told him to trust his wife’s knowledge and expertise regarding this issue.
They argue that she’s a doctor and, therefore, knows what she’s saying. One said, “Your wife is a literal medical expert. Trust and respect her expertise.”
She Changes Her Scrubs!
Some pointed out that OP’s wife probably wore scrubs, gloves, masks, shoe covers, and more.
A user commented, “You’re the a**hole; gloves, masks, scrubs, shoe covers—what exactly is exposed? Do you think she’s naked while delivering babies or doing pap smears? And, well, she is a doctor, and I would think she’d know if there were particular risks to you.”
You Guys Are All Wrong
However, on the flip side, most of the community is on OP’s side. They said that showering and changing out of one’s clothes is the SOP for people working in hospitals.
The First Thing You Should Do Is Shower!
A top commenter explained that her mom was an L&D nurse, and it was their protocol at home that she would first shower before doing anything else.
He said, “The first thing she did was take a shower when she got home. Every day she worked. This is with all the precautions of gloves, masks, Hazmat suits, shoe booties, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a quick shower after coming home. And nothing wrong with staying away from someone until they do. You were free to ask, and she was free to say no—while accepting the consequences of refusing. You sleep on a lumpy couch, and she sleeps alone.”
Hospitals Are Filthy
Redditors also said that OP’s concerns are justified. After all, hospitals are filthy and are filled with different kinds of viruses.
One shared, “Your wife works in a hospital, and trust me; those places are filthy. I have worked as a nurse in the hospital setting, and I would immediately get out of scrubs and have a shower when I got home, but if I also knew I had body fluids on me? Yes, I would shower. Not the a**hole.”
What Are Your Thoughts?
Who do you side with, OP or his wife? Do you think OP was overreacting?
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