This Redditor had been shelling out a lot more than her boyfriend. So, she couldn’t understand him when he said he couldn’t afford to help out more, even when he just inherited a huge fortune!
A Huge Fortune
OP’s (Original Poster) boyfriend inherited $1,000,000 the year before this story was posted—after his mother died.
She said, “Both cash and investments. We would both rather have his mom back, but that’s not possible.”
Never-Ending Unemployment
Her boyfriend, however, can’t seem to get out of a slump. She mentioned he’d been unemployed many times over the past 10 years.
An Agreement
Because of his financial situation, OP and her boyfriend agreed to split rent and utilities unevenly, with OP covering two-thirds of the amount and her boyfriend paying the rest.
Apart from this, OP’s boyfriend also used her car whenever he needed it. She said he’d buy their groceries, but she paid for most of the things they needed.
Time to Pay More
Now that her boyfriend had more money because of the inheritance, OP believed it was time for him to contribute more to their household, especially rent.
For the longest time, she’d covered two-thirds of it, so now, she wanted them to split it evenly.
Her Requests
OP asked her boyfriend to pay his equal share. She mentioned that it would be around $650 more than he’s paying now.
However, when she brought it up, her boyfriend said he could do an additional $250. This meant OP would still have to cover $400 more than him.
Disagreements and Arguments
What OP’s boyfriend said hurt her feelings, leading them to fight. However, it seemed their argument wouldn’t end there.
Boyfriend’s Complaints
OP’s boyfriend recently started complaining that he was the only one going to Costco and that he “shouldn’t have to purchase so much.”
However, for OP, she’s not asking for anything other than what he should rightfully pay; he’d even bought some things for himself already. She shared, “He has made some small purchases for himself lately—speakers and collectible skates and snowboards.”
Can He Really Not Afford It?
Whenever OP brings up this issue, her boyfriend always uses the same excuse—that he couldn’t afford to do this or that.
She said, “I’m not asking for anything more than household expenses. I know he can afford to do more, and it hurts that he doesn’t think he needs to.”
Separate Living Arrangements
OP resorted to asking her boyfriend to check how much it would cost him to live alone. She mentioned that it would be around five times more than what he is currently paying—with utilities and such already included.
Subsidizing His Lifestyle
OP is starting to feel like her boyfriend is using her.
She wrote, “I think he is subsidizing his lifestyle at my expense, and he doesn’t think he needs to contribute money because I don’t ‘need’ it.”
Plans for the Future
She would love to start saving for the future and her retirement. At the current rate she and her boyfriend are going, though, her plans seem blurry and out of reach.
With that, she told her boyfriend that if he didn’t want to pay his share of the rent, he should move out and find his own place.
The Community’s Reactions
For Redditors, it’s high time OP kicked her boyfriend out!
A top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. Kick his a** out. He’ll start paying his own way real quick.” Another wrote, “Either he pays his fair share or kick him to the curb. But you’re the dummy; I’m going to go with everyone sucks here because subsidizing his life is what you’ve signed up for.”
Wake Up!
Others exclaimed that OP should wake up to the reality that her boyfriend is just using her.
“You ‘think’ he is using you to subsidize your lifestyle? Oh no, OP. He is using you. He’s a freeloading, greedy cheapskate. Put him and his million dollars on the curb and go live your best life,” commented one Redditor. One person said, “More importantly, why do you have a boyfriend that’s constantly unemployed? I have no sympathy for people that sign up for this. You have chosen to be with someone that’s lazy and uninspired! You have been subsidizing his lifestyle!”
Walk Away!
Redditors suggested that it’s time for OP to walk away from her boyfriend, too, especially with how he’s treating her now that he’s become a million dollars richer.
One commenter, “Right? The dude is literally a millionaire, and he’s still asking OP to cover his bills. OP, walk. He will obviously be just fine since he could literally go buy a house for cash tomorrow. You, on the other hand, he will happily drain of every penny if you let him. Isn’t 10 years of mooching long enough? Are you really going to sacrifice your retirement for someone who has a million dollars? Time to wake up and smell the coffee.”
What would you tell OP? Do you believe it’s time for her to move on?
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This post first appeared as Her Boyfriend Inherited $1,000,000 But Refused to Split Rent in Half. She Already Pays for Two-Thirds and Other Expenses. He’s Definitely Just Using Her for Money! on Quote Ambition.
