OP (Original Poster) couldn’t contain her anger at her family members for bullying her fiancé. They deliberately hurt him, so she believes they have no right to be at their wedding!
Test of Masculinity
OP is a bride-to-be who lived in a family that loved to tease each other.
So, since she got engaged to Tim, her dad, brother, uncle, and cousin made it a point to joke around and always “test” Tim to see what “type” of man he was.
Their Tests
OP’s family’s tests involve many, if not all, aspects of life. An example would be forcing Tim to play chess four times in a row.
They’d also slash his tires to see if he could fix it himself or if he would need the help of others like those “lazy” guys.
Getting Into His Thoughts
The guys also tried to pick at Tim’s brain. OP said, “They’d asked him questions like what joke he’d like to tell his future mother-in-law, his opinions on abortion, Jesus, gender equality, etc.”
His Skills and Mental Aptitude
They didn’t stop there. As per OP, they also tested his fishing and hunting skills.
They also tried to overwhelm Tim with hypothetical scenarios to test his decision-making skills and mental strength.
Is She Ruining the Fun?
OP said the guys didn’t want to stop; they called Tim “slow and soft,” but really, he has a medical condition—asthma. However, even with that knowledge, the guys say Tim’s just “making excuses.”
OP shared that her dad pointed out, “This is just typical stuff men challenge each other with and said that I was ruining the fun.”
A Three-Day Trip That Was Doomed From the Start
A week before this story was posted, Tim and the four other guys left for a three-day trip. However, OP was surprised when Tim returned seven hours later, telling her that her dad, uncle, brother, and cousin had hidden his inhaler!
OP was even more furious when Tim said they admitted to hiding the inhaler but pushed that it was just a challenge.
Blowing Up
The minute the guys got home, OP exploded! Then her cousin unashamedly asked whether “Little Timmy ran to her to tattle.”
You Guys Can’t Come To My Wedding!
OP was so angry that they did that to her fiancé, and they were even unapologetic about it. So, she yelled at them and told them they couldn’t come to her wedding anymore.
It Was Just a Joke!
Upon hearing OP’s decision, her brother immediately freaked out and said it was just a prank. Then, her dad said they would apologize if OP insisted.
However, sadly, he added, “Tim will have lost the little respect they’d gained for him and in their eyes will always be ‘the soft college kid’ who’s not up for the challenge.” That was the last straw for OP; she told them they were awful and left.
Trying to Make Amends
After the whole fiasco, OP’s cousin tried to sit her down to talk. Her uncle, on the other hand, has remained quiet.
Her dad was also angry and even tried looping in her mom on the issue. He was trying to make her convince OP to take back her decision.
Let Bygones Be Bygones?
Despite everything, OP has adamantly refused to take back what she said. She didn’t want to invite them to their wedding.
Her mom said she was exaggerating. She also asked her to let bygones be bygones and said that OP should not let this issue ruin her relationship with her family.
Redditors’ Opinions
People were appalled by how grown men treated Tim. They looked at their actions as a form of bullying—not a prank.
A top commenter said, “This doesn’t sound like pranking but more like bullying. Who slashes tires as a prank? Or messes with someone’s health as a prank? Just—they just seem like big bullies to me.” She added, “Pranking is meant to be harmless fun. None of these are harmless.”
Not Being Able to Breathe Is Awful!
Asthmatic Redditors also want to share what Tim possibly felt during all this.
One said, “I am a woman who has asthma as well. The feeling you get when you need your inhaler is awful. It’s not a feeling I would wish on anyone! And to also add that they’re belittling his mental health, too.”
Dangerous Decisions
Some also pointed out that the guys’ so-called pranks could have easily gotten out of hand and threatened someone’s life.
A person commented, “They shouldn’t come. Their ‘pranks’ went from wildly inappropriate to outright dangerous—they hid an inhaler from someone with asthma. Not only would I keep them disinvited, I’d go no contact completely.”
What’s Your Take?
How would you comfort Tim? What advice would you give to OP, who’s caught between her fiancé and family?
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This post first appeared as Her Dad, Brother, Uncle, and Cousin Bullied His Asthmatic Fiancé by Hiding His Inhaler. Now, She’s So Furious That She Doesn’t Want to See Them at Her Wedding! on Quote Ambition.
