A woman is tired of being treated like nothing by her own father while he spoils his fiancé. She wants to move out and be independent, but her dad is stopping her from doing so!
Her Dad’s Financial Issues
OP’s (Original Poster) dad had been going through some financial issues for the past year. She said he went through a divorce, had to pay for child support, and had to get surgery—his disability checks were even put on hold!
Helping Out
Even though OP was young, she was blessed to have a decent job that allowed her to help her dad out occasionally. She said, “He would occasionally ask me for money on top of paying rent. I usually didn’t mind; I’m grateful enough to have a decent job at the age of 20.”
Using Her Money
OP then said that her dad mostly used her money to pay off important bills. However, sometimes, he would fully use her credit card with her knowledge.
Apart from that, he would also ask her to buy her siblings some expensive gifts and to pay for their dinners that she wasn’t a part of. OP added, “I basically entirely funded our Christmas as well.”
He Owed Her More Than $6,000!
OP then shared that her dad owed her a total of around $6,700. When OP posted her story, he had already been able to pay off half.
However, he still needed to pay OP around $3,000.
Moving Out and Moving In
OP said that her boyfriend recently found a new place and asked her to move in with him. She said the rent was hugely in their favor because it would just be $750 a month, which was pretty low for a two-bedroom place in their area.
Stopping Her From Leaving
OP brought up her plans with her dad. Though he never explicitly told her she couldn’t move out, he didn’t seem happy and kept bringing up reasons why she couldn’t.
One of the reasons he mentioned was that OP didn’t have a license, which OP said was her dad’s fault.
License Issue
She said her dad had kicked her out when she was 14 and forced her to live with her grandmother. Her grandma didn’t have a working car for her to drive, and she said, “Of course, I couldn’t afford driving lessons because I was paying for all of his stuff.”
When Will You Pay Me Back?
She recently contacted her dad and asked him when he would pay off the rest of the money he owed her. OP needed the money urgently.
She said, “I need to pay for driving lessons, I need dental surgery really badly, and my phone is essentially on its last leg.”
Not Anytime Soon
Sadly, OP’s dad responded by saying he wouldn’t be able to pay her back anytime soon.
To make matters worse, her dad told her he’d be raising the rent she needed to pay him the next month.
I’m So Tired
Understandably, OP is mentally, emotionally, and physically drained.
She said, “He brings his other three children on outings all of the time. He spends an insane amount of money on his fiancé. But when it comes to me? Nope. He’s giving his mother $1,000 for Mother’s Day this Sunday. But not me.”
What the Community Thinks
Redditors couldn’t believe that OP still had to pay her dad for rent while he owed her $3,000!
A person exclaimed, “Hold up. This clown owes you money, and you are paying him rent?! No wonder he doesn’t want you to leave. I wouldn’t pay him a dime till the debts are settled either through payments directly to you or through free rent.”
Cash Cow
For Redditors, OP’s dad treats her like a cash cow, which is why he doesn’t want her to move out. So, the community wished for OP to get a hold of herself and free herself from her dad’s claws.
A Piece of Advice
A person gave OP an idea of what she could do to change her life.
He said, “Stop paying for everyone else’s stuff. Take your card back. If he won’t give it back, change your bank address to your boyfriend’s apartment and get a new card. Also, move out. You don’t need his permission or approval. Get your important documents and your irreplaceable stuff out first.”
Walk Away!
OP doesn’t deserve to be treated this way, especially by her own dad. So, the community advised her to walk away.
Someone said, “Write off the $3,000. He’s a deadbeat and a manipulator. Walk away and don’t look back.”
What Would You Do?
What would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? What would you say to comfort her?
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This post first appeared as Her Dad Owes Her $3,000 and Yet Still Demands She Pays Rent. She Wants to Move Out, but He’s Against the Idea—for Pretty Obvious Reasons! on Quote Ambition.
