She’s furious that her husband’s grandmother showed up unannounced when they had already set a date for her to visit the baby. She didn’t let her enter, but now her husband’s mad!
Can’t Wait a Second Longer
OP’s (Original Poster) husband’s grandmother had been commenting on her Facebook posts, expressing her desire to visit them and see her baby.
So, OP reached out and set a date for her to visit.
However, the day this story was posted, she suddenly showed up at OP’s front door. OP was surprised as it was not the date they had planned.
Excuses or Blatant Lies?
When she said this, OP’s husband’s grandmother said that she just got the dates “mixed up.” Since she already drove 30 minutes to get there, she wanted to go inside and visit the baby.
Not Gonna Happen
But instead of stepping aside and letting her in, OP stood her ground and told her she was “busy.” She further added that “today didn’t work” for her.
Her One Day Off
OP shared that she had had a “busy week,” and the day her husband’s grandma visited was her “only day off.”
She wrote, “I wanted to spend time with my baby, not share her.”
All Planned Out
Furthermore, OP just wanted the solitude and peace of being alone, which was precisely why she planned a different day for her husband’s grandmother to visit.
Waiting for What Seemed Like Forever
As this was happening, OP’s husband was out running errands. The whole time, OP just left his grandmother waiting outside on their porch!
A Furious Husband
So, when OP’s husband returned, he immediately got upset. He told OP that she was being “rude” and that she should’ve just let his grandmother in.
Tension in the House
The moment OP’s grandmother went inside, she “grabbed” OP’s baby from her. Angry, OP immediately told her to “give her baby back.”
OP wrote, “She ended up leaving after a few minutes.”
That’s What Plans Are For
OP’s husband is furious, but she argues that she didn’t want any visitors that day.
Now, he’s “pretty annoyed” with OP because it was “not his grandmother’s fault” that she got the dates mixed up.
In Her Nature
In an edit, OP explained that her husband’s grandmother, OP’s father-in-law, and her husband’s other grandmother are all the same.
They would all “regularly” show up to OP’s house “unannounced.”
Ignoring Her Boundaries
OP had already tried so hard to set “boundaries” and told them that she “didn’t like unexpected visitors,” but they didn’t listen.
A Valid Reason
Given this, it was clear that OP’s husband’s grandmother’s actions were not a one-time thing. So, she said, “That is the reason I snapped.”
The Community’s Reactions
While OP was voted “not the a**hole” by most Redditors, some brought up the fact that perhaps she was a bit too harsh on the old lady.
A top commenter wrote, “My father never showed up at the right time or on the right day after my mother died. He was later—more than 10 years—diagnosed with dementia. While I understand you wanted to have ‘your day,’ I don’t know that it would have hurt to let her hold the baby while you made tea before scooting her out the door again. Driving a half hour each way can be a bit harder for some older drivers.”
The same woman added, “While you weren’t necessarily an a**hole, you certainly weren’t kind, compassionate, nor did you show grace. If I were your husband, I would be deeply offended on my family’s behalf.”
Well Within Her Rights
However, some also think that OP is in no way wrong in this scenario and people shouldn’t pity her husband’s grandmother.
One user said, “Come when you’re invited or when I have at least been given a heads up. I want my house to be at a certain standard of cleanliness, like not Amazon packages sitting in the doorway. I am extremely uncomfortable if people’ drop in,’ and my house doesn’t look like I think it should.”
Another wrote, “If she can drive herself there and drive herself home, she didn’t really ‘get left outside.’ She chose to stay there and not go home. Why do people always treat the elderly like incapable children?”
It’s Basic Courtesy!
Some Redditors even argued that OP shouldn’t be considering anything close to dementia. The fact of the matter is that she should have had the basic, common courtesy to show some kindness.
“You don’t have to consider dementia; just have a basic level of courtesy and be able to realize that everything is not always about you. I also hate, with a passion, when people show up at my place unannounced. I need time to prepare for company, both mentally and generally. I’d like to give my house a once-over as well. Nonetheless, if someone does show up, I show them a basic level of hospitality and at least invite them in, ask if they want a cup of tea, and say I don’t have much time or whatever, so they leave pretty quickly. This is just the most basic level of courtesy to a person that you know,” said one woman.
She added, “The fact that this was an older woman—your husband’s grandma—makes your behavior even ruder. I’m finding it difficult to believe that there are actually people in the world who are as self-absorbed as you appear to be.”
Do you think OP acted like a jerk? Do you have anything to say to her?
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