She was shell-shocked when she learned her husband planned to leave their marital house to his daughter, leaving her with no home! She’s furious, but it turns out she doesn’t have any right to it!
When I Die
OP, a 47-year-old woman, and her husband, who’s 65, have been married for 10 years. After her husband’s retirement party, they knew they had to start talking about his will, estate, and inheritance.
So, during their conversation, OP’s husband informed her that he would leave their marital home to his 30-year-old daughter in his will. This information left OP feeling completely blindsided and shocked.
A Life Without Him
OP is aware of her and her husband’s significant age difference and that she will most likely outlive her husband by many years. She will also probably have to spend the last decades of her life alone.
She added, “So I was really upset but also angry to learn I will most likely be kicked out of our house after my husband’s death and left homeless.”
Because of her outburst, OP’s husband reminded her that the house was previously owned by his late wife. Then, he said she inherited the house from her parents—OP’s husband’s former in-laws.
For that reason, he told her that she couldn’t possibly expect him not to leave the house to his daughter.
Claiming It Like It’s Her Own
She responded that although that was the case before, the house now belongs to him, and as his wife, OP has a right to her marital home. She even reasoned that it wouldn’t be fair for her to be kicked out of her home after she spent so much time and effort redecorating it and making it her own.
She said she doesn’t want to become homeless after he dies because she’s a housewife and has nowhere else to go. Aside from that, she also told him that he was obligated to ensure her financial security after his death.
His Late Wife’s Wishes
OP’s husband, however, said it would be “incredibly unfair” to his daughter and his late wife if OP inherited the house since his late wife would never have wanted that.
She shared that her husband’s late wife unexpectedly died at a young age, and because of this, she could never draft a will. Her husband automatically got the house per inheritance laws.
She’s Not Left With Nothing
Although the house would go to his daughter, he explained that she would be the sole beneficiary of his life insurance, and any savings left would be equally divided between her and his daughter. However, OP doesn’t think it would be enough!
She said, “I don’t think this money would be enough for me to survive the rest of my life, especially as my husband plans on having expensive cruises and holidays for the rest of his retirement.”
Eventually, their argument escalated, and they started yelling at each other. OP accused him of “screwing her over” after everything she’s done for him, including giving up her job and career to look after their home. She told him that, in return, she deserved to be compensated.
Making an Informed Choice
He snapped back and said that he never asked her to become a housewife and that it was 100% OP’s choice. He added that she knew the risks and benefits and made an informed choice as to what to do with her life.
OP’s husband continued, saying she knew he’d leave her a “reasonable inheritance,” and if she wasn’t happy with it, she should return to work. She shared, “I told him I never knew that I wouldn’t get the house and that it’s too late for me to return after being out for over 10 years.”
A Not-So-Obvious Contribution
Aside from that, OP told her husband that he is an “a**hole” for leaving her “stranded” like this, saying this is not what she agreed to. She even accused him of being a “s***** pr***” for not recognizing her contribution to their family.
OP wrote, “He laughed at me, saying I never had any kind of financial contribution, as we hired cleaners and housekeepers to do most of the chores and if anything, I was a drain by all the money I spend.”
The End of the Argument
At that point, OP was so enraged and in tears that she screamed at her husband for being cruel and locked herself in the guest room. She kept asking herself whether she was wrong to want their house if her husband died before her.
Realizing Her Mistake
Thankfully, OP soon realized how wrong she was. So, she decided to apologize and start looking for a job that she would enjoy and allow her to build her savings.
Even after everything, OP refused to divorce her husband and take half his assets.
Sweeping Her off Her Feet
After all, she didn’t marry her husband for money and didn’t even know he was wealthy until six months after being in a relationship with him. In all honesty, when OP met her husband, she was already tired of dating and so “jaded” with men after being cheated on.
But then he swept her off her feet with his thoughtfulness, kindness, loyalty, and how their socio-political opinions matched. OP said that she and her husband saw the world similarly, and she never thought she would be with someone much older, but he was everything she ever wanted.
OP also shared that she used to work in customer service, and her last job was as a 999 call handler, which provided her with a minimum wage and took a toll on her mental health. Her husband encouraged her to find a job that she would enjoy instead since he saw how the job stressed her out.
She added, “Although I did intend to find a more relaxing job, honestly, yeah—I enjoyed being at home and pursuing hobbies and doing things at my own pace. I admit it was a really comfortable life, and I let him financially take care of me and become financially dependent on him. It was way easier than the grating and the grinding.”
The Only Home She’d Ever Known
OP said that she’d grown really attached to the house and wouldn’t have done that if she knew it wouldn’t ever be hers or would be kicked out of it at some point.
She said, “I honestly didn’t know it belonged to his late wife’s parents, and I was just so shocked and blindsided. I just thought his wife’s name was on the deed as she was the main earner at that time.”
The Right Thing to Do
But now, OP realizes she’s at fault for assuming things and acting entitled. For that, she will apologize to her husband and stepdaughter.
Redditors’ Two Cents
People believed that OP is the a**hole in this story and said she has no right to claim things that obviously aren’t hers.
The top commenter wrote, “‘I put so much time into this house.’ Yeah, 10 years out of the daughter’s 30. And all you did was redecorate. You picked a guy who came with a house already. You didn’t go house hunting. You redecorated what a dead woman left behind. And then acted super rageful over being told who was the rightful owner. I get that her job was stressful, but she landed herself in a honeypot of a marriage with a guy who didn’t demand she stay home or that if she did, she take care of things. Seems she spends more than she should, and she’s feeling bitter that she’s not in the kind of ‘take care of me’ relationship she thought she was. I hope she cleans up her act and goes back to work.”
The same person added, “Daughter is 30; it’s been 10 years, so daughter was 20. Yeah, this woman found a wealthy widower and wanted a trip on the Gravy train. She left her job when they got together to supervise the house staff and called it a contribution.”
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Redditors have also questioned OP’s so-called family contributions since she didn’t do anything except decorate the house.
A Redditor commented, “I don’t get it. You left your job to do what exactly? You mention your ‘contribution’ to the family, but what was it? You had housekeepers and cleaners, and it sounds like you didn’t raise his adult daughter. So without some concrete’ contributions,’ it’s unclear what you’ve been doing for 10 years.”
Someone then said, “She really messed this up. She was in her 30s when she met a wealthy man. She should have used her new cash cow to build herself up instead of wasting it on presumable knick-knacks for a house that isn’t hers and lavish trips. It sounds like he could have funded for her to go back to school and gain more knowledge so she could enter the workforce above minimum wage or even start her own business or something. You can’t be a housewife with no kids and no actual housework being done. At this point, she kind of sounds lazy and entitled. I can’t imagine living without some type of goal or purpose to work towards—especially knowing her husband was old and would most likely bite the bucket before she did.”
What do you think? Should OP inherit his husband’s late wife’s house?
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This post first appeared as Her Husband’s Leaving Their Marital House to Her Stepdaughter When He Dies, Saying It Was His Late Wife’s. But She Accused Him of “Screwing Her Over” and Leaving Her “Homeless!” on Quote Ambition.