She Banned Her Father-In-Law From the Wedding After He Said He “Doesn’t Like That She’s a Girl” and That Their Engagement’s “A Joke.” Her Wife’s Upset, but He Deserves It!

This Redditor had had enough of her wife’s dad spouting hurtful nonsense about her and their relationship. She uninvited her from the wedding, and we think she’s right!

Their Engagement Dinner

Image Credit: Shutterstock / SeventyFour

OP’s (Original Poster) name is Jeana, and she’s a 32-year-old who was at her and her wife’s, Zoé, engagement dinner. They made a toast to new beginnings during the dinner, and everyone happily clinked drinks except for Zoé’s dad.

If Looks Could Kill

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

Instead of doing what everyone else was, he just stood there with his arms crossed. He was also “staring daggers” at OP!

What’s That For?

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

Jeana couldn’t understand what the look was for, so she looked at Zoé, who was busy talking to her brother.

Unplanned Eavesdropping

Image Credit: Shutterstock / ilolab

Twenty minutes in, OP overheard a conversation at the end of the table where the “older people,” like their parents and grandparents, sat.

Jeana heard her mom say, “Excuse me?” Then, she heard Zoé’s dad say, “It just isn’t natural.”

The Confrontation

Image Credit: Shutterstock / RollingCamera

OP immediately went over to them to ask what was going on, but the whole table just remained silent.

Then Zoé’s dad told Jeana that he was happy for them but “doesn’t like that she’s a girl.”

What Does That Mean?

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Koldunov

She asked him what he meant by that. However, she didn’t expect what he said next.

OP wrote, “He told me our whole engagement was a joke.”

If That’s What You Want

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cookie Studio

Zoé’s dad started looking around for some backup. But OP just laughed at him and told him he shouldn’t come to the wedding if he felt that way.

You Can’t Tell Me What to Do!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / StoryTime Studio

After hearing what Jeana had to say, he immediately got upset and told her she “couldn’t tell him what to do, and he’s going to go anyway.”

OP is furious! She said, “I put my foot down and said, ‘No, you’re not.’”

I’ve Had Enough

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

Jeana shared that she’d been keeping everything in for years. Zoé’s dad had been talking down on her and Zoé’s relationship for years, but she wasn’t letting it go this time.

Any Regrets?

Image Credit: Shutterstock / fizkes

However, she now regrets what happened because, after the party, Zoé’s mom told her that her whole family won’t be attending the wedding. After all, she banned her husband.

Was I Wrong?

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cast Of Thousands

Zoé is also “extremely upset” with how everything unfolded. OP mentioned that she’d been crying since they got home.

So, OP asked, “Am I the a**hole for uninviting him?”

Redditors’ Opinions

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Primakov

Redditors said that OP’s not the a**hole. However, there are varying opinions on how she could have handled things.

One said, “Not the a**hole. Ask Zoé why she cares so much about people who do not love or respect her. Her father is h*********, his family members who are currently supporting him are h*********. And as hard as this is to hear, if Zoé can’t understand that, then maybe she doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship with you, as she doesn’t really respect you or herself.”

But another disagreed, saying, “This would be a breathtakingly cruel and hostile way to approach a woman OP claims to love—a woman who is currently facing a possible estrangement from most of her family. Asking ‘why’ she cares about her father is deliberately obtuse. The answer is always going to be ‘because he’s my father, and I still love him.’ That doesn’t just shut off immediately because he doubled down on his bigotry. That’s not how humans work. OP would have been much better off having a private conversation with her fiancé about his wedding invite instead of publicly uninviting him and pouring gasoline on the match. Now there’s a far bigger emotional mess to contend with, and her fiancé can no longer be sure if she can count on OP’s trust and support.”

Welcome to the Real World

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cast Of Thousands

Many Redditors agreed with that statement, saying that commenting on the thread differs from living in the real world.

“Absolutely agree. Anyone who is actually living in the real world and not ruling from the Reddit judge’s bench knows that familial and especially parental relationships are endlessly complex. It does not boil down to ‘Oh, you don’t like who I am? You’re out!’ This is the only family she has, and this decision is not something someone else can make for her unilaterally. Reddit will not be her family when she’s completely isolated. We are not just our s***** preferences, so there are a lot of complex emotions from losing your family for only one part of your whole being,” said one user.

Your Role

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

People also had mixed emotions about what OP’s role should be. Some say she should support Zoé, while some say she was right to put her foot down.

This Redditor said, “The point is, it should be up to Zoé to come to that decision in her own time. OP’s role as her soon-to-be spouse is to assist her and support her in that journey, not to railroad her into it.” But another said, “Sometimes it takes your partner putting their foot down with reference to the abuse for you to really realize how toxic it is. I’d spent years making excuses for my family’s toxic behavior before my wife had had enough. This could be the catalyst for her family to reexamine their behavior; if not, it’s better for them to sever it now than deal with it for the rest of their lives.”

What do you think about OP’s actions? Did she go too far?

More From Quote Ambition

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

This Redditor turned to the community for advice after being called out for being a horrible woman for not wanting to raise a baby born from her ex-husband’s affair. Was she wrong to refuse?

She Refused to Raise an Affair Baby After Her Ex-husband and Wife Died. Now Her Former Mother-In-Law Calls a “Horrible, Evil Woman!”

An Entitled Woman Refused to Vacate His Assigned Seat on a Five-Hour Flight. So, He Kicked and Yanked the Chair Every Two Minutes, Ensuring There’s “Extra Turbulence” All Flight Long!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

He got annoyed when a woman wouldn’t budge and get off his assigned plane seat, saying she was “already comfortable.” So, he devised a plan to make sure she’d regret every second of it!

An Entitled Woman Refused to Vacate His Assigned Seat on a Five-Hour Flight. So, He Kicked and Yanked the Chair Every Two Minutes, Ensuring There’s “Extra Turbulence” All Flight Long!

She Left Her Cousin’s Wedding and Took Her $1,000 Gift Back After the Groom’s Family Ruined Her Dress for Being “Inappropriate.” They Want the Money Back, but It’s Too Late

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

OP (Original Poster) was stoked to attend her favorite cousin’s wedding. However, little did she know it would become one of the worst experiences of her life yet!

She Left Her Cousin’s Wedding and Took Her $1,000 Gift Back After the Groom’s Family Ruined Her Dress for Being “Inappropriate.” They Want the Money Back, but It’s Too Late

A Woman Noticed Their Security Cameras Glitched Only When Her Husband Was Home Alone. He Flipped Out After Being Confronted, but She Wants to Get to the Bottom of Things!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

This Redditor’s home security cameras kept on glitching whenever her husband was home alone. Suspicious of what was causing this, she asked her husband, but instead of remaining calm, he got defensive!

A Woman Noticed Their Security Cameras Glitched Only When Her Husband Was Home Alone. He Flipped Out After Being Confronted, but She Wants to Get to the Bottom of Things!

He Begged His Neighbors to Extinguish Their Fire So His Dying Dog Could Spend One Last Day Outdoors, but They Showed No Sympathy. So, He Ensured They Learned Their Lesson!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Shift Drive

He only wanted to give his dog a day in his backyard before putting her down. However, things didn’t go as planned when his neighbors decided to light a fire so close to them!

He Begged His Neighbors to Extinguish Their Fire So His Dying Dog Could Spend One Last Day Outdoors, but They Showed No Sympathy. So, He Ensured They Learned Their Lesson!

This post first appeared as Her Wife’s Dad Insulted Her, Saying He “Doesn’t Like That She’s a Girl” and Their Engagement’s “A Joke.” So, She Banned This Homophobe From the Wedding! on Quote Ambition.

Read Next:

Karen Danao

Hi, I’m Karen, a content curator and writer for Quote Ambition; I’m also a marketing and advertising professional. Beyond the keyboard and the screen, I’m someone who’s out to enjoy every bit that life has to offer!

Poetry, philosophy, history, and movies are all topics I love writing about! However, my true passion is in traveling, photography, and finding common ground to which everyone from different cultures can relate.

With the many places I’ve been to, I found that love, inspiration, and happiness are some things that bring people together. No matter how different we are on the outside, I’m a true believer that our emotions don’t lie; if you dig deep into our psyche, we’re all the same inside.

This belief was further amplified when I joined Quote Ambition. Through the quotes I’ve read, collected, organized, and written about, I found that humans are resilient, creative, and compassionate.

We take from each others’ hearts and courage, and it’s through our individual experiences that we learn how to rise above our challenges and pain. In so many ways, Quote Ambition is a platform that allows people from all over the world to gain the inspiration they need anytime, anywhere!

You can find me on MuckRack and LinkedIn.