This man thinks he has all the right to sell their family heirloom so he can afford his expensive wedding ceremony. However, his brother and their family members think he’s acting spoiled and selfish!
Wanting a “Lavish” Wedding
OP (Original Poster) and his soon-to-be wife plan to get married soon, and they both expressed that they wanted a “lavish” wedding at a winery in another state.
They admit what they want is quite “ambitious,” but the couple believes their wedding is the most important day of their lives, and they want to go all out.
The couple wants to make their wedding as memorable as possible. However, though they both have stable jobs and a good amount of savings, they admittedly think that it’s not enough to pay for the grand wedding they’ve been dreaming of.
Not Giving up on Their Big Day
Even if they knew they couldn’t afford it, the couple doesn’t want to give up on having the lavish wedding they’ve always wanted.
So, they tried thinking of other ways they could pay for it.
A Family Heirloom
OP shared that his father passed away a couple of months before this story was posted and that he left him a treasured, “five-figure” family heirloom. He hinted that he was not big on family traditions, so even if it was “nice to have,” he was not attached to it.
OP said he had other things to remind him of his dad and didn’t need the family heirloom. So, after discussing it with his soon-to-be wife, they decided to sell it.
Opposition From His Brother
However, OP had a younger brother who put a lot of value into history and the family heirloom itself. He was upset that their father had not left it to him.
OP said it had been traditionally passed on to the first-born son, so it wasn’t left to his younger brother. However, since OP and his fiancé didn’t plan on having children, his brother might have assumed that the family heirloom would be his eventually.
A Furious Best Man
OP’s younger brother is his best man, but when he discovered OP’s plans to sell the ring, he was furious and refused to participate in their wedding!
OP shared, “He thinks my wife-to-be and I are behaving like spoiled brats.”
A Domino Effect
Aside from this, OP’s brother had also convinced their other relatives to boycott his wedding. He said, “With our parents having passed away, this means that virtually none of my family will attend the wedding, which I’m really upset about.”
I Did Nothing Wrong
Still, OP believes he had all the right to do what he wanted with the family heirloom. He said he legally owned it, so it was up to him to decide what to do with it.
OP thinks that his brother is just upset because selling the family heirloom means destroying any hope he had of one day inheriting it. On the flip side, he’s also thinking about his other relatives’ reactions.
In his post, he said, “Since my uncle and cousins agree with him enough that they’re not coming to the wedding, I’m not so sure I’m in the right. Am I the a**hole?”
The Community’s Thoughts
Redditors disagreed with OP and said that his actions show that he’s being very inconsiderate.
A top commenter said, “You’re the a**hole. You are being very selfish and short-sighted.” Another replied to remind him that “once you sell a family heirloom, it’s gone forever.”
People were also appalled by how much OP wanted to have a “lavish” wedding.
One said, “Technically, you can sell it because it’s yours, but you’re the a**hole for caring more about a ridiculously lavish wedding that will break the bank than you do for your relationship with your brother or your dad’s tradition. If your dad had known that you were going to sell it, he would have left it to your brother. I hope your lavish wedding is worth it to you.”
Redditors also wanted to remind OP that making his party a priority over his relationship with his family is a terrible move.
A woman commented, “If you sell the item, don’t be surprised if it ruins your relationship with your brother forever. All for what? So you can brag about your wedding to friends while looking at pictures that don’t include anyone on your side of the family.”
Do you think OP will change his mind? How will you convince him to do otherwise?
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This post first appeared as His Family Refused to Attend His Wedding After He Sold the “Five-Figure” Family Heirloom He Inherited From His Late Father to Pay For His “Lavish” Big Day on Quote Ambition.