She Refused to Donate the $725,000 Inheritance She Received From Her Grandmother to Charity. Her Cousin Says It’s “Blood Money,” but She Thinks She Deserves Every Cent of It!

This Redditor received a life-changing inheritance but is being pressured to give it up. Should she follow her cousin or decide what to do with it by herself?

100% American

Image Credit: Shutterstock / New Africa

OP (Original Poster) started off by saying that she was born in South Africa but emigrated to the United States when she was only a few months old. So, for her, she is “totally American.”

Apartheid Supporters

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Roman Samborskyi

However, she came from a family of Apartheid supporters. When the conflict ended, everyone “basically bailed for America.”

She wrote, “My parents and aunts and uncles eventually were educated and came around, but my grandparents, while being very sweet and loving to me, were true believers in what Apartheid stood for.”

Fortune Built on Blood

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Andrew Bassett

Her grandparents made a small fortune in South Africa by investing and owning businesses in the Apartheid area. Though they also made a ton of money in the United States, it doesn’t change the fact that they had money because they were White and well-connected in South Africa.

Saying Goodbye to the Matriarch of the Family

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Sasha Turkina

Sadly, OP’s grandmother passed away before this story was posted. Though she was old, she lived “pretty lavishly” until the day she died.

OP noted that she lived in a “very exclusive” retirement home in Southern California, so she figured no money wouldn’t be left for their inheritance. She thought she’d only receive some family heirlooms.

Jaw-Dropping Amount

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Mix and Match Studio

However, to OP’s surprise, she was actually thousands of dollars richer!

She wrote, “My head about popped off when I saw the number me and my cousin will split. It’s about $725,000 each. Money that will literally change my life.”

Two Sides of the Spectrum

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cookie Studio

Though OP and her cousin would be getting the same amount in terms of inheritances, they do not have the same financial standing.

OP explained that her parents’ business failed, so she wasn’t “nearly as well off” as her cousin. To put things into perspective, she shared that she’s married, lives in Rancho Santa Fe, and will be “just fine without this money.”

Refusing the Cash

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Rawpixel.com

Because her cousin’s already wealthy, she doesn’t have any need for her inheritance. So, she claimed she would donate 100% of it to charities in South Africa.

Uncalled-for Criticism

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Julia_585

Since they got their inheritance, OP’s cousin has been pressuring her to do the same.

She wrote, “She is seriously chiding me that if I plan on keeping it, then I am taking advantage of blood money built on racism.”

Money That Could Change Her Life

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Dusan Petkovic

However, OP’s hesitant, as she’s not as wealthy as her cousin. As opposed to her cousin, the money would do her a lot of good.

She could pay off her student loans, make a downpayment on a house, invest, and more.

Torn Between Two Sides

Image Credit: Shutterstock / LightField Studios

OP said she knew and understood where the money came from. Even so, she couldn’t “possibly imagine” giving it away.

Not Any Better

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cookie Studio

Additionally, OP isn’t sure if donating money to charities in South Africa would do much good, either.

She wrote, “I have no idea what charities are like in South Africa, and family friends we have that still live there say that corruption has taken over everything from the government to charities, and I’m better off just keeping it.”

I’m Just Human

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Cookie Studio

OP understands her cousin’s point. But at the same time, she’s just human; she’s finding it hard to let go of the inheritance that would most certainly improve her life.

She said, “Man, is it hard to say goodbye to that much money that will change my life.”

The Community’s Reactions

Image Credit: Shutterstock / oasisamuel

Redditors wanted OP to remember that no matter what, the money’s hers. No one should be able to influence her into making a decision that doesn’t sit right with her.

One of the top commenters wrote, “I’d just like to repeat this. Not the a**hole. Your money, your choice.”

Then, another said, “Not the a**hole. Let’s make this super duper extra crystal clear: your money, your choice! Choo choo, all aboard the karma train.”

Hilarious Suggestions

Image Credit: Shutterstock / VH-studio

Then, some jokingly suggested that OP share her money with people on the thread.

“Not the a**hole. But in case it’s still not clear and the weight of this decision is too much to bear, I’ll make it for you. Deposit it into my account, and I will bear the shoulder-breaking weight of this life-altering decision. I am no hero; I’m just doing what any person would do,” joked one Redditor.

It’s Not Your Responsibility!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Roman Samborskyi

All jokes aside, some Redditors reassured OP that she shouldn’t be the one to shoulder other people’s bad decisions and actions.

One user said, “Not the a**hole. OP, you are not responsible for bad things other people did. Whether they support Apartheid or not, you are not responsible for other people’s choices. If you lawfully inherit money that you can use to make your life better, then make your life better.”

The same person said, “Keep that money, and you are looking at a much brighter future. Your cousin is a m**** for giving away her fortune based on idiotic and worthless status signaling. All the impotent virtue signaling in the world will not undo a single bad thing from the past.”

Do you think it’s only right for OP to keep her share of the inheritance? Would you keep it if you were in OP’s shoes?

More From Quote Ambition

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

This Redditor turned to the community for advice after being called out for being a horrible woman for not wanting to raise a baby born from her ex-husband’s affair. Was she wrong to refuse?

She Refused to Raise an Affair Baby After Her Ex-husband and Wife Died. Now Her Former Mother-In-Law Calls a “Horrible, Evil Woman!”

An Entitled Woman Refused to Vacate His Assigned Seat on a Five-Hour Flight. So, He Kicked and Yanked the Chair Every Two Minutes, Ensuring There’s “Extra Turbulence” All Flight Long!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

He got annoyed when a woman wouldn’t budge and get off his assigned plane seat, saying she was “already comfortable.” So, he devised a plan to make sure she’d regret every second of it!

An Entitled Woman Refused to Vacate His Assigned Seat on a Five-Hour Flight. So, He Kicked and Yanked the Chair Every Two Minutes, Ensuring There’s “Extra Turbulence” All Flight Long!

She Left Her Cousin’s Wedding and Took Her $1,000 Gift Back After the Groom’s Family Ruined Her Dress for Being “Inappropriate.” They Want the Money Back, but It’s Too Late

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

OP (Original Poster) was stoked to attend her favorite cousin’s wedding. However, little did she know it would become one of the worst experiences of her life yet!

She Left Her Cousin’s Wedding and Took Her $1,000 Gift Back After the Groom’s Family Ruined Her Dress for Being “Inappropriate.” They Want the Money Back, but It’s Too Late

A Woman Noticed Their Security Cameras Glitched Only When Her Husband Was Home Alone. He Flipped Out After Being Confronted, but She Wants to Get to the Bottom of Things!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Krakenimages.com

This Redditor’s home security cameras kept on glitching whenever her husband was home alone. Suspicious of what was causing this, she asked her husband, but instead of remaining calm, he got defensive!

A Woman Noticed Their Security Cameras Glitched Only When Her Husband Was Home Alone. He Flipped Out After Being Confronted, but She Wants to Get to the Bottom of Things!

He Begged His Neighbors to Extinguish Their Fire So His Dying Dog Could Spend One Last Day Outdoors, but They Showed No Sympathy. So, He Ensured They Learned Their Lesson!

Image Credit: Shutterstock / Shift Drive

He only wanted to give his dog a day in his backyard before putting her down. However, things didn’t go as planned when his neighbors decided to light a fire so close to them!

He Begged His Neighbors to Extinguish Their Fire So His Dying Dog Could Spend One Last Day Outdoors, but They Showed No Sympathy. So, He Ensured They Learned Their Lesson!

This post first appeared as She Refused to Donate the $725,000 Inheritance She Received From Her Grandmother to Charity. But Her Cousin’s Criticizing Her, Saying She’s Taking Advantage of “Blood Money” Built on Racism! on Quote Ambition.

Read Next:

Karen Danao

Hi, I’m Karen, a content curator and writer for Quote Ambition; I’m also a marketing and advertising professional. Beyond the keyboard and the screen, I’m someone who’s out to enjoy every bit that life has to offer!

Poetry, philosophy, history, and movies are all topics I love writing about! However, my true passion is in traveling, photography, and finding common ground to which everyone from different cultures can relate.

With the many places I’ve been to, I found that love, inspiration, and happiness are some things that bring people together. No matter how different we are on the outside, I’m a true believer that our emotions don’t lie; if you dig deep into our psyche, we’re all the same inside.

This belief was further amplified when I joined Quote Ambition. Through the quotes I’ve read, collected, organized, and written about, I found that humans are resilient, creative, and compassionate.

We take from each others’ hearts and courage, and it’s through our individual experiences that we learn how to rise above our challenges and pain. In so many ways, Quote Ambition is a platform that allows people from all over the world to gain the inspiration they need anytime, anywhere!

You can find me on MuckRack and LinkedIn.