140 Toxic Family Quotes on Letting Go & Moving on

Read and reflect on these top 140 toxic family quotes to give you better insights into the importance and value of family.

Growing up in a toxic family is difficult, and it can lead to serious conditions such as depression, anxiety, and physical abuse.

We’ll never know who is going through something like this.

There is no such thing as a perfect family, but it will be perfect in some way as long as there is love between members.

Join us as we go over some inspirational, motivational, and relatable toxic family quotes. Learn by reading!

Start reading the full list here.

And don’t forget to check out these encouraging quotes and family quotes.

Best Toxic Family Quotes

1. “Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be home because the foundation doesn’t exist.” – Anonymous

2. “The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behaviour of others.” – David W. Earle

3. “You don’t get to choose your family, but you do get to choose how they’re allowed to treat you.” – Anonymous

4. “Your heart knows when you have given too many chances.” – Anonymous

5. “It’s not flesh and blood, but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.” – Jonathan Schiller

6. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.” – Lyanla Vansant

7. “Sometimes, it’s necessary to temporarily distance yourself physically from toxic family members for the sake of your well being if they prove to be too toxic to be around them.” – Anonymous

8. “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you as you are to them.” – Desmond Tutu

9. “Families always have these unspoken dramas and when at holidays, everyone is supposed to sit down and pretend that none of that is happening.” – Richard LaGravenese

10. “How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.” – Anthon St. Maarten

11. “There is healing in telling. There is healing in exposing abuse. There is healing in being truthful. There is healing in knowing you are not to blame. There is healing in standing up for yourself. There is healing in setting boundaries. There is healing in self-love. Hold onto hope that you will recover.” – Dana Arcuri

12. “Fear of breaking family loyalty is one of the greatest stumbling blockages to recovery. Yet, until we admit certain things we would rather excuse or deny, we cannot truly begin to put the past in the past and leave it there once and for all. Unless we do that, we cannot even begin to think of having a future that is fully ours, untethered to the past, and we will be destined to repeat it.” –  Ronald Allen Schulz

13. “Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented.” –  Sherrie Campbell

14. “When someone is rude and toxic, remember it’s not about you. It’s a reflection of their inner state.” – Anonymous

15. “It’s okay to cut toxic family members out of your life. Blood ain’t thicker than peace of mind.” – Anonymous

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Motivational Toxic Family Quotes

16. “The only way to defeat a toxic person is not to play.” – Anonymous

17. “Family is where you’re meant to be most free, don’t let blood chain you down.” – Michelle Meleen

18. “The black sheep blazes the trail for other family members to follow when they finally see the wolf.” – Anonymous

19. “When you walk away from a toxic family, you begin the journey of finding your true people.” – Anonymous

20. “Parent-child relationships aren’t created at birth, they’re created in life.” – Anonymous

21. “Without communication, there is no relationship. Without respect, there is no love. Without trust, there is no reason to continue.” – Anonymous

22. “You didn’t choose your family, but you can choose how to define family.” – Anonymous

23. “You don’t have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don’t deserve a place in your future.” – Anonymous

24. “The longer we ignore red flags, pretend they don’t exist, the more we disconnect from ourselves.” – Sherrie Campbell

25. “If you can stand up to your family, you can stand up to anyone.” – Anonymous

26. “Saying ‘no’ to a toxic family member shows that you understand what family truly means.” – Anonymous

27. “You have the right to put up a fence between you and your family, and the choice whether to include a gate.” – Michelle Meleen

28. “Saying ‘no’ to family doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you an honest person.” – Anonymous

29. “When we are raised in toxic families, we often go through a time period, and for some of us, a lifetime of repeating the toxic patterns we were raised in with other people in our lives. We do this until we decide we’ve had enough pain and choose to genuinely examine our patterns and stop the craziness for good.” – Sherrie Campbell

30. “Every person is built like a computer, and the delete key is there for a reason.” – Anonymous

Also read: Toxic Mother Quotes, Toxic Father Quotes

Toxic Family Quotes That Will Encourage You

31. “Love them, but don’t let their drama affect your life.” – Anonymous

32. “The best revenge against toxic family members is not fighting back.” – Anonymous

33. “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.” – Kimber Waul

34. “If the family you choose before your birth no longer supports your path towards fulfilling your true destiny, it is never too late to find a new tribe.” – Anthon St. Maarten

35. “We arrive and depart this life alone. Every moment in-between is a unique opportunity to experience as much love and belonging as we can possibly muster. Instead, we obsess over petty differences and turn our backs on those we are supposed to love.” – Anthon St. Maarten

36. “When we start life without knowing healthy love—including what it is, what it looks like, and what it feels like, we find it incredibly challenging to find healthy love later in life. After all, we don’t even know what we are looking for.” – Sherrie Campbell

37. “My friend, you are not alone. No matter what you’ve suffered, the abuse was not your fault. You didn’t cause someone to hurt you. Not as an innocent child, teenager, nor as an adult. Let that sink in. It’s not your fault.” – Dana Arcuri

38. “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.” – Sherrie Campbell

39. “You can trod me in this very dirt, but still, like dust, I’ll rise.” – Anonymous

40. “Because ‘I love you’ is not the reason for manipulation or abuse.” – Anonymous

41. “Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.” – Anonymous

42. “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people, ‘that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister’, toxic is toxic. You are allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.” – Bynnada

43. “Ask yourself, ‘will you do this to your family? If not, why let them do this to you?’” – Anonymous

44. “Love yourself enough to walk away from lies and dramas.” – Anonymous

45. “You don’t heal in a place where you get hurt.” – Anonymous

Also read: Toxic Sister Quotes, Toxic Parents Quotes

Relatable Toxic Family Quotes

46. “I don’t wish I was born in a different family, I wish I was born in a real family.” – Anonymous

47. “You may feel guilty for leaving your family behind, but you’ll never regret moving forward.” – Anonymous

48. “A toxic family is even worse than a toxic relationship.” – Rohan Chouhan

49. “These people were meant to raise me, instead, I’ve had to raise them right out of my life.” – Anonymous

50. “I may be the black sheep of the family but at least I am me and not a fictitious white sheep I am not.” – Anonymous

51. “I wonder why I feel I am treated like an enemy in a place where I am supposed to be welcome.” – Anonymous

52. “Toxic people condition you to believe that the problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to the abuse.” – Anonymous

53. “I was born into this family but all I got was hate in a place where I was supposed to get love and acceptance.” – Anonymous

54. “Brother or sister has no meaning if they treat each other like their worst enemies.” – Anonymous

55. “The people I looked up to for comfort are the ones who make me depressed.” – Anonymous

56. “It’s so sad that even people closely related by blood can betray each other.” – Anonymous

57. “How can you say you are my family when all you did is malign me as if I am your worst enemy?” – Anonymous

58. “I do not hate my toxic family members. I also do not need them.” – Sherrie Campbell

59. “All I wanted from you was love and acceptance, but all I was given was hate and rejection.”   – Anonymous

60. “It’s just that, you will never be good enough for certain people no matter how much love you give them.” – Anonymous

Quotes About the Signs of a Toxic Family

61. “You’ve been lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trusting issues, that’s lessons learned.” – Anonymous

62. “Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you the right way.” – Anonymous

63. “How to tell if someone is not good for you? You being yourself feels like a betrayal.” – Anonymous

64. “Words don’t cover up actions.” – Anonymous

65. “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.” – Anonymous

66. “Families must be built on love, trust, and acceptance but dysfunctional families have no such traits, which is why they are what they are.” – Anonymous

67. “A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any.” –  Sherrie Campbell

68. “They say they love you but they treat you like the worst criminal on earth. Shame.” – Anonymous

69. “Too much fighting and drama in a place where love, peace and harmony must be the norm.” – Anonymous

70. “A family that treats you like an enemy is no family to be proud of at all.” – Anonymous

71. “It’s so disheartening to see people who are supposed to love you—use you for their selfish purposes.” – Anonymous

72. “A dysfunctional family is not a family at all, it’s a toxic relationship parading as a requirement.” – Anonymous

73. “A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.” – Anonymous

74. “Toxic people do not think, operate, or play by the same rules we do, and our failure to recognize this sets us up by default for manipulation and unhappiness.” – Sherrie Campbell

75. “Dysfunctional families despise the truth-tellers and whistle-blowers. They are all about admiring the Emperor’s new clothes, and they turn on anyone who dares to mention the nakedness.” – Sherrie Campbell

Toxic Family Quotes That Talk About Closure

76. “In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

77. “Cutting people off doesn’t have limits. Family can get cut off too if they are causing you stress. Eliminate any negativity in your circle.” – Anonymous

78. “Learn to cut your losses fast if you realize you are just being used for their selfish motives.” – Anonymous

79. “Family or not I will cut you off. That saying ‘but that’s family’ means nothing if a family is toxic and means you are no good.” –  Morgan Sharee

80. “Cut them out if all they want is to use you for their personal gain.” – Anonymous

81. “If all they bring into your life is pain and misery, you need to start cutting your losses fast.” – Anonymous

82. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.” – Lavon Fr

83. “You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, selfish, and unforgiving. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of you.” – Anonymous

84. “Some of the hardest people to cut off are family members. But sometimes, they are the main ones that need to go.” – Anonymous

85. “Leave when you need to. In 10 years, you will look back and realize it’s the best decision ever.” – Anonymous

86. “Things only get better when you cut off the worst.” – Anonymous

87. “You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.” – Tara Westover

88. “Complete separation and time away allow us to recover and to remember, perhaps even finally establish how to express who we really are. We are people who are deserving of love, good fortune, and acceptance. We cannot get to this point in our recovery if we don’t let our toxic family members go and focus on healing ourselves.” – Sherrie Campbell

89. “It is important to understand that loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with that person, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation.” – Sherrie Campbell

90. “If it’s hurting you more than it’s healing you, love yourself enough to let it go.” – Sherrie Campbell

Sarcastic Toxic Family Quotes

91. “Healthy families provide all this and more. On the other hand, for those of us who were raised in toxic family systems, the concept of home is quite different. Home equates to the creation of fear, anxiety, a lack of acceptance, and a lack of unconditional love and support.” – Sherrie Campbell 

92. “I have to endure one more holiday with my family, I might have to become a Jehovah’s Witness.” – Anonymous

93. “Giving birth doesn’t make you a parent, me choosing to call you Mom (or Dad) does.” – Anonymous

94. “Some people play victims of crimes they committed.” – Anonymous

95. “We erroneously believe that if we try to be good enough, successful, or perfect, maybe our toxic family members will change their minds about us.” – Sherrie Campbell 

96. “You can’t change someone who can’t see an issue in their actions.” – Anonymous

97. “If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.” – Anonymous

98. “Biology shouldn’t be destiny.” – Anonymous

99. “Toxic family relationships spoil all other relationships unless you remove the poison before it’s too late.” – Anonymous 

100. “I was born into this family and all I got was a bad attitude.” – Anonymous 

101. “Without this validation, children learn to give in to what others seem sure about.” – Sherrie Campbell

102. “If our parents were toxic to us, why would they be any less toxic and dangerous to our children and spouses?” – Sherrie Campbell

103. “Experience tells us that certain people are not ever going to change. This is a reality, and this is the reality we need to deal with when it comes to our toxic family members.” – Sherrie Campbell

104. “You may be my family, but I won’t let you get away with your toxic behaviour.” – Anonymous 

105. “If toxic mothers are not getting the attention they crave from their children, they experience their children as inconveniences who stand in their way of doing what they want to do for themselves.” –  Sherrie Campbell

Valuable Toxic Family Quotes

106. “We as their children don’t realize we’re being manipulated because we believe the lies our toxic family members tell us, convinced everything is our fault and that we are the ones who are broken and destroying our family members.” – Sherrie Campbell

107. “Toxic family members will see expressions of forgiveness as weaknesses to exploit. Don’t give in to their tactics this way. If you need to forgive them for your own healing, then do it, but keep it to yourself.” – Sherrie Campbell

108. “Our toxic family members may tell us they love or hate us, but they only do so to provoke a strong reaction out of us.” – Sherrie Campbell

109. “I had to start the process of grieving the loss of my hope—the hope that kept me going back again and again for my family’s love.” – Sherrie Campbell

110. “Our toxic family members are totally unable to act with reason.” – Sherrie Campbell

111. “Wherever there is a major deficit in parental love, the child will—in all likelihood—respond to the deficit by assuming itself to be the cause of the deficit, thereby developing an unrealistically negative self-image.” – Sherrie Campbell

112. “In order for parents to be present to and suffer with their children, their children need three simple things from them: time, love, and attention. Toxic parents provide none of these things, certainly not in any healthy ways.” – Sherrie Campbell

113. “Saying I love you takes away fear and provides our children with the confidence, and security they need to sustain them throughout life.” – Sherrie Campbell

114. “To avoid needless misunderstandings, it is helpful to reflect back to our children what they have communicated as confirmation we have heard them correctly. Once understanding is established, we can encourage, guide, and praise them.” – Sherrie Campbell

115. “I love this quote: ‘Never argue with an idiot. People watching won’t be able to tell the difference’. When we are attacked and defending ourselves, we end up looking just as bad as our attacker, and our attacker will make sure to focus on only our reaction rather than what they did to cause our reaction.” – Sherrie Campbell

Toxic Family Quotes That Will Give You a Reality Check

116. “Like toddlers, toxic people base all their decisions on what they feel rather than on what is right.” – Sherrie Campbell

117. “You are not part of a toxic family if you walk away.” – Michelle Meleen

118. “Toxic family relationships spoil all other relationships unless you remove the poison before it’s too late.” – Anonymous

119. “A good family will see your boundaries and move around them, a toxic family won’t even realize they’re there.” – Anonymous

120. “You went through a ‘no’ phase as a toddler, as practice for when you needed to say it as an adult.” – Anonymous

121. “Ending the toxic cycle within your own life isn’t easy. When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.” – Steve Marabolo

122. “Do not be waylaid by a toxic family Whatsapp group. You fought hard to emerge as your own person in real life. Do not succumb to this new medium that replicated all the sad, toxic hierarchies of broken families. Walkout. Do it now.” – Itayi Garande

123. “Calling this a family doesn’t make it a loving home, it just makes it a hateful lie.” – Anonymous

124. “It’s sad how I can trust teachers more than my parents.” – Dawn Andrews

125. “If love is withheld, a child will look for it in a million other ways, sometimes throughout their lifetime unless they come to some sort of peace with their past.” – Sherrie Campbell

More Toxic Family Quotes

126. “Just because they are your family doesn’t mean that they know what’s best for you or your life.” – Anonymous

127. “The most challenging aspect of psychological/emotional abuse is that it is deniable by our family members and impossible to prove.” – Sherrie Campbell

118. “When you are young, they assume you know nothing.” – Taylor Swift

129. “Blood relations cease to have their use if people related by it behave otherwise.” – Anonymous

130. “Recovery and treatment center around the life-long journey of undoing the severe damage that destroyed our self-worth.” – Sherrie Campbell

131. “Dysfunctional families can’t give you love because love can’t come from people who don’t love themselves in the first place.” – Anonymous

132. “Families get dysfunctional if they are built on a faulty foundation of hate and resentment.” – Anonymous

133. “Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA.” – Temi Ade

134. “When you say ‘no’ to a toxic family, you say yes to loving yourself.” – Anonymous

135 “Tragically, your worst enemies will always come from your own household.” – Anonymous

136. “Not everyone deserves full access to you, including toxic family members.” – Anonymous

137. “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.” – Sidney Albury

138.. “Sometimes, Satan uses the people closest to you to hinder you from getting the best God has in store for your life.” – Anonymous

139. “Why didn’t I report it? Because when you are sexually assaulted by a relative, it’s terribly complicated. Initially, I felt shocked, numb, and powerless. Keep in mind, sexual assault is an act of violence; not sex. In addition, sexual assault is about power. It’s common for victims to feel helpless.” – Dana Arcuri

140. “I have come to realize since breaking free of my toxic family members that I was justifying insanity to stay connected with them.” – Sherrie Campbell

How’s Your Relationship With Your Family?

Each of us has a different relationship with every member of the family. For some of us, family is the safest place to be, while for others, it is the most dangerous place to be. We don’t have the right to judge someone unless we’ll walk in their shoes.

Don’t stress yourself over family issues, instead try to ask advice from your friends, partner or agencies. There is always a solution to every problem that we face. Always look for the bright side, no matter how flawed your family is.

To avoid being toxic in the future, remember to put what you’ve learned into practice when you have a family. It is the most valuable asset you have ever possessed.

Which quotes in the collection are your favorite? Do you have any additional quotes or sayings about this topic? Don’t hesitate to share in the comment section below.


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