110 Absent Father Quotes to Understand Their Role Better

These absent father quotes will give you an idea of how growing up without a father affects your children. 

Fathers are people who play a significant role in a child’s life. They are one of the pillars in developing a child’s well-being as they are responsible for providing, protecting, and teaching them about life. 

A father’s absence leaves a deep impression on a child’s stability. Learn how their absence affects them emotionally and psychologically and how it makes it difficult to cope with life. 

Let’s jump right into it.

And don’t forget to check out these moving on quotes and encouraging quotes.

Best Absent Father Quotes

1. “A child needs both his parents to be a complete individual.” – Anonymous

2. “Fathers have a unique and irreplaceable role in the lives of children.” – George W. Bush

3. “Having kids doesn’t make you a father. Raising them does.” – Anonymous

4. “Anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad.” – Anonymous

5. “Fathers, you are the head and strength of the family unit. If you are not in place, there is a weakness in the link.” – Anita R. Sneed-Carter

6. “It is a wise father that knows his own child.” – William Shakespeare

7. “The absent are never without fault, nor the present without excuse.” – Benjamin Franklin

8. “There’s nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody else—except a father to their own child.” – Anonymous

9. “If a man cannot be a father to his own child, there is nothing worse than that.” – Anonymous

10. “An absent father needs to realize his child’s needs before it is too late.” – Anonymous

11. “Father plays a crucial role in the upbringing of a child in the society.” – Anonymous

12. “Respect to all moms doing double duty because of men failing to do their part as a dad.” – John Mark Green

13. “A bad father never has a good son.” – Latin Proverb

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Quotes to Show How an Absent Father Affects the Family Dynamics

14. “Dear absent father from the mother of a daddy-less daughter, I just want to say—thank you and you are welcome!” – Anonymous

15. “Just remember when you are ignoring her, you are teaching her to live without you.” – Anonymous

16. “Your child feels let down and loses hope in you when you leave them.” – Anonymous

17. “A child will always want his or her father to be around.” – Anonymous

18. “As old as she was. She still missed her daddy sometimes.” – Anonymous

19. “A father may turn his back on his child, but a mother’s love endures through all.” – Washington Irving

20. “When your father is absent, you have to believe in yourself.” – Anonymous

21. “However busy a father is, he will find time for his child.” – Anonymous

22. “My father was absent and he was a hero to me.” – Greta Scacchi

Absent Father Quotes That Will Break Your Heart 

23. “Father’s Day is so hard for me.” – Anonymous

24. “I look for you everywhere I go hoping to bump into you but I never see you you’re not there you’re never there.” – Anonymous

25. “A letter to the father who doesn’t know how awesome I am.” – Anonymous

26. “Hey dad, I did it without you.” – Anonymous

27. “The hardest thing you’ll ever do is comfort a crying child when their other parent doesn’t come to see them.” – Anonymous

28. “Boys want to grow up to be like their male role models. And boys who grow up in homes with absent fathers search the hardest to figure out what it means to be male.” – Geoffrey Canada

29. “I remember when I was the twinkle in my daddy’s eyes. Then he left one day without saying goodbye.” – Anonymous

30. “Don’t forgive him. Forgive yourself for believing there is something lacking in you because he wasn’t there.” – Iyanla Vanzant

31. “Daddy’s in the army, there’s a war in Vietnam. Mama kept us going with her sewing and a prayer. It’s hard to be a family when your daddy’s missing.” – Crowell Church

32. “Some kids are able to become independent without the presence of their father.” – Anonymous

33. “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” – Sigmund Freud

Quotes That Focus on a Child’s Disappointment Toward Absent Fathers

34. “Someday you’ll cry for me like I cried for you. Someday you’ll miss me like I missed you. Someday you’ll need me like I needed you. Someday you’ll love me but I won’t love you.” – Anonymous

35. “My dad broke my heart way before any boy had the chance to.” – Anonymous

36. “No, I will not beg or bribe anyone to be involved in my children’s lives. If you don’t come around, it sucks to be you.” – Anonymous

37. “One day, you’ll be alone and regret not being there. You’ll regret the birthdays and holidays missed. You’ll regret not watching her grow up and being in her life you’ll regret everything and by then, it will be too late.” – Anonymous

38. “There should be an anti father’s day. A bad dad’s day. That way I could truly say, ‘You are the best.’” – Anonymous

39. “I decided to put as much effort into contacting you as you do with me—that’s why we don’t talk anymore.” – Anonymous

40. “If she could put the hollow ache that haunts her into words, she would tell him, ‘I miss the father you never were.’” – John Mark Green

41. “So you lied about what you did, how you felt, who you were, and basically pretended to be a fake person who didn’t exist, but you’re calling me ‘crazy.’ Okay.” – Anonymous

Quotes That Give Examples of How Absent Fathers Can Find a Way to Be More Present

42. “If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.” – Anonymous

43. “Real dads support their children without the law the telling them they have to!” – Anonymous

44. “Do not blame your own problem on your children.” – Anonymous

45. “To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” – Barbara Johnson

46. “Being a father but not being there for your children is a sin.” – Anonymous

47. “It is much easier to become a father than to be one.” – Kent Nerburn

48. “A father should know his responsibilities to his child.” – Anonymous

49. “You have to raise your kids, then you can be a real father.” – Anonymous

50. “If a guy has children and he has nothing to do with them, he is a douche.” – Anonymous

51. “Becoming a man means doing the right thing even though it may be hard or difficult. Boys do what is easiest. A man does what is right, whether easy or not.” – Carew Papritz

52. “My father didn’t do anything unusual. He only did what dads are supposed to do: be there.” – Max Lucado

Amusing Absent Father Quotes That’ll Crack You Up

53. “There would be fewer absent fathers if straight men were turned on only by women with whom they would not mind having children.” – Mokokoma Mokhonoana

54. “My dad was a good man but an emotionally absent father, and so I had to look for that male attention somewhere else and found it in a brother-in-law. He just happened to be an alcoholic.” – Jim Hamilton

55. “You know, if fathers just did what they’re supposed to do, half of the junk that we face in the streets wouldn’t exist.” – Nathan Hayes

56. “I come from the school of thought where a dad’s absence is something to be counted on. Now I see all the men with camouflage diaper bags and babies hanging from their chests like little ship figureheads.” – Kaui Hart Hemmings

57. “I didn’t have a father growing up, and I was raised with all women, and I didn’t really understand men. I thought they were like women, right?” – Rene Russo

Quotes to Describe the Sorrow and Struggle of Growing up With an Absent Father

58. “One of the saddest things in this world is to see a child grow up hating one of their parents because they only got one side of the story.” – Anonymous

59. “No matter how old you get. The hole in your heart created by your father’s absence still aches. Especially on Father’s day.” – Anonymous

60. “He didn’t want to be an absentee father. He didn’t want to be like his own father, who thought being a provider was his only obligation to his family.” – Maya Banks

61. “When a father, absent during the day, returns home at six, his children receive only his temperament, not his teaching.” – Robert Bly

62. “My father was an atheist, absent. He was a salesman; I was four years old when he told me that the end of life was death.” – Alejandro Jodorowsky

63. “If there’s no relationship with a father who’s absent, nobody talks about it.” – Charles B. Rangel

64. “I grew up without a father, and my mother grew up without a father and her mother grew up without a father. So we have this long heritage of growing up without fathers.” – Gloria Gaynor

65. “So many of our young women today, they’re growing up without a father, but they’re still thirsty for that and desiring positive male love.” – Hill Harper

66. “I finally did work out a very good relationship with my father, but it was rough growing up. We had a lot of conflicts, and I think it surfaced in many of my works.” – Ira Levin

Absent Father Quotes That Shed Light on How Their Absence Deeply Affects Their Children’s Life

67. “The psychological absence of fathers can be nearly as devastating as a physical absence. When fathers are alive but not a predictable presence actively participating in their daughter’s lives the relationship becomes a permanent maybe.” – Victoria Secunda

68. “Fathers, take note! Children will always remember the man who treated them with love and affection. Don’t be an absent father!” – Anonymous

69. “We know that children who grow up with absent fathers can suffer lasting damage. They are more likely to end up in poverty or drop out of school, become addicted to drugs, have a child out of wedlock, or end up in prison. Fatherlessness is not the only cause of these things, but our nation must recognize it is an important factor.” – George W. Bush

70. “A daughter needs a dad to be the standard against which she will judge all men.” – Anonymous

71. “One of the things about being a boy, especially growing up without a father, is you really don’t have that role model to teach you how to do things.” – Art Alexakis

72. “When you grew up with an absent father, you grew up dreaming and wanting. But most of all, you grew up way too fast.” – Anonymous

73. “A daughter needs her father more than anything else in the world.” – Anonymous

74. “I’ve only ever chosen men who happen to spend a lot of time out of the country, who have jobs that take them all over the world, and I think that’s interesting because my father was absent, and then home, and I’ve always been in relationships where there’s separation.” – Patsy Kensit

75. “My father being mostly absent on duty, my mother suffered me to do as much as I pleased.” – John James Audubon

76. “My mother was the influence on me—my father was absent. He was a diamond dealer; he was doing wonderful things in the background, and women were left at home. So my mother really was in charge of everything: the ballet, dance lessons, piano lessons, and latkes.” – Maira Kalman

77. “My parents were divorced and I didn’t grow up with my father, but I spent a lot of time around him, and his influence on me has been profound.” – Laura Linney

78. “My father started growing very quiet as Alzheimer’s started claiming more of him. The early stages of Alzheimer’s are the hardest because that person is aware that they’re losing awareness. And I think that that’s why my father started growing more and more quiet.” – Patti Davis

Absent Father Quotes on Beautiful Partings

79. “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” – Anonymous

80. “Death ends a life, not a relationship.” – Mitch Albom

81. “Say not in grief, ‘He is no more,’ but live in thankfulness that he was.” – Hebrew Proverb

82. “Dad, wherever you are, you are gone but you will never be forgotten.” – Conrad Hall

83. “There is no expiration date on the love between a father and his child.” – Jennifer Williamson

84. “It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.” – Anne Sexton

85. “The pain passes, but the beauty remains.” – Auguste Renoir

86. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes part of us.” – Helen Keller

87. “Whenever I am missing you, I also remember how fortunate I was that you were in my life. I wouldn’t trade those moments for the world.” – Cindy Adkins

88. “A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again.” – Maya Angelou

89. “The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but the love and memory of you, shall never pass away.” – Anonymous

90. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Gandhi

91. “The last thing my father told me was, ‘On your way up, take me up. On your way down, don’t let me down.’ I take it very seriously.” – Ziggy Marley

92. “My dad was my best friend and greatest role model. He was an amazing dad, coach, mentor, soldier, husband, and friend.” – Tiger Woods

93. “If there is any immortality to be had among us human beings, it is certainly only in the love that we leave behind. Fathers like mine don’t ever die.” – Leo Buscaglia

Quotes on How an Absent Father Can Influence Their Children’s Life Positively

94. “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” – Jim Valvano

95. “The words that a father speaks to his children in the privacy of home are not heard by the world, but, as in whispering galleries, they are clearly heard at the end and by posterity.” – Jean-Paul Richter

96. “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” – Clarence Budington Kelland

97. “To her, the name of father was another name for love.” – Fanny Fern

98. “What I learned most from my father wasn’t anything he said; it was just the way he behaved.” – Jeff Bridges

99. “I am not ashamed to say that no man I ever met was my father’s equal, and I never loved any other man as much.” – Hedy Lamarr

100. “Dads are most ordinary men turned by love into heroes, adventurers, story-tellers, and singers of song.” – Pam Brown

101. “Without you, there would be no me. I am everything reflected in your eyes. I am everything approved by your smile. I am everything born of your guidance. I am me only because of you.” – Richelle E. Goodrich

102. “A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.” – Anonymous

103. “Dad is and always will be my living, breathing superhero.” – Anonymous

104. “Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever.” – Anonymous

More Quotes That Talk About an Absent Father

105. “More than 72% of children in the African-American community are born out of wedlock. That means absent fathers.” – Don Lemon

106. “Only 20% of fathers who don’t live in the same house as their children are ‘actively’ involved.” – Anonymous

107. “Growing up, I didn’t know about families who were missing a father, because there weren’t any in our neighborhood. Today over a third of American children are born into single-parent homes. Is this all men’s doing?” – Timothy J. Russert

108. “A committee should consist of three men, two of whom are absent.” – Herbert Beerbohm

109. “Frequently, I go to conferences and listen to speakers decry the absent father as somehow a new phenomenon. Though their recriminations against absent or emotionally distant fathers are generally meant to help society, at the same time they are built on a lie that evolution disproves generation after generation. Fathers have often gone to war or the long hunt on the Savannah, or to work in another village or city. But only in the last decade or so have manhood and fathering been trashed completely.” – Michael Gurian

110. “Think about one of the most powerful influences on a young child’s life – the absence of a father figure. Look back on recent presidents, and you’ll find an absent, or weak, or failed father in the lives of Lyndon Johnson, Richard Nixon, Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton, and Barack Obama.” – Jeff Greenfield

How Important Is Your Father to You and Your Family?

Being a father takes a lot of dedication and patience. It will never be an easy task, but it does not mean that you can run away from your responsibilities.

Growing up without a father figure is hard, especially at a young age. It makes a big difference in the development of a child’s character. However, having an absent father does not equate to being a lesser person.

We hope these quotes were able to lighten the burden you feel and give you the courage to live life with positivity. Let the pain empower you to be the best version of yourself even without their guidance. Remember that you are capable, and you are enough.

What is your biggest takeaway from this collection? What do you think about fatherhood? 

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