This Redditor turned to the community for advice after he inherited a life-changing fortune from his parents. He doesn’t want anyone to know about it but is unsure how to proceed.
Sad Reality
It’s sad that material things blind many people on this planet. People get greedy for money and sometimes forget to pursue more important things, like a genuine connection and bond with others.
This is precisely what OP (Original Poster) fears.
His Inheritance
OP’s parents died 15 months apart; when they did, he inherited a relatively large sum of money.
He received over $785,000 from his dad and a middle-class home from his mom.
The Problems That Plague His Mind
However, he doesn’t want anyone to know about this fact. He said, “The thing is, I don’t want my friends or my current girlfriend to know about my financial situation.”
In Case of an Emergency
One of his reasons is that he wanted to use the money—or at least a few thousand dollars—toward an emergency fund. He then wants to save the rest for his future kids’ college tuition.
OP’s Financial Situation
He shared that he has no debt and wants to use the house for personal use. He currently lives in a “cozy” apartment by himself but would probably soon use the house he inherited.
Justifiable Fears
However, what he really fears is the possibility that his friends and girlfriend will use him.
OP shared, “I’m afraid that if anybody found out, they would try to use me or get me for my money.”
What Do I Do?
OP wants people to see him for who he is—not for the money he obtained.
So, he turned to the community to ask for advice on how to move forward.
What the Community Thinks
People remind OP that if his friends and girlfriend were genuine, he shouldn’t have these fears to begin with.
A user said, “If you’re worried that your friends or your girlfriend would use you for your money, you should dump the friends and the girlfriend and get new ones. That’s a super weird trust issue to have but still want to keep these people in your life.”
Relationships Should Be Built on Trust
Redditors reiterate that all relationships should be built on trust, and if OP doesn’t have that in his friends and girlfriend, then he might have to think about whether he wants to keep them in his life or not.
“You’re not an a**hole for wanting to prevent potential beggars, but if you don’t have trust in your friends and partner to not try to take advantage of you, you may want to re-evaluate your relationships,” said one Redditor.
Part of the Grieving Process
Another Redditor also mentioned a good point when he said that OP might just be grieving and facing personal issues.
He said, “You guys are all so quick to jump on his friends and his girlfriend—maybe OP is the one with trust issues of his own. I don’t know OP, his girlfriend, or his friends, but I imagine that OP is dealing with some s**t, losing both parents at the same time, the only people in the world he can truly, truly count on. I think it’s all just part of the grieving process. Do s**t on your own timeline, OP. Do what you need to do for you.”
Money Changes People
People say that OP shouldn’t easily distrust his friends and girlfriend, but he was right to be cautious and want to avoid future conflicts.
“Money changes people, and knowing you’re suddenly rich will affect how most people act toward you. This doesn’t need to be such a bad thing, but I understand wanting to avoid it,” wrote one Redditor.
What would you advise him to do? Would you also want to keep the inheritance a secret?
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