She took in her half-sisters when their mom died, but in return, all they gave her was their irresponsibility and ungratefulness. So she now planned to take a bigger chunk of their inheritance!
Polar Opposites
OP (Original Poster) is a 42-year-old woman who has 2 half-sisters on her mother’s side. Her half-sisters are only 10 months apart and have always been close with each other.
On the other hand, OP is 10 years older than them and has always been different. She’s the only one who went to college and graduate school, got married, and owned her own home, which she referred to as typical “adulting” stuff.
Distinct Personalities
Unlike OP, her half-sisters like living their lives like it’s an episode of “Love & Hip Hop.”
OP says that her middle sister prefers to be homeless and “mooch off” of anyone who will allow her. Their youngest sister has a good job but constantly neglects her three kids.
Mom’s Last Wishes
Sadly, OP’s mom passed away two years before this story was posted. Before that happened, her mother told her she would have to split everything with her half-sisters.
OP wrote, “Little did we know it would be an uphill battle to actually get any of my mom’s estate. My mom named me as the executive because she knew my sisters would be lost once she died. I agreed and have been fighting with the government, her ex-husband, creditors, and lawyers for two years for us to get what my mom wanted us to have.”
Life After Her Death
OP’s half-sisters have always lived with her mom. They thought they could stay in the house when their mother died unexpectedly, but the courts “mandated it sold.”
Since OP’s half-sisters made no plans, they bounced between sleeping in cars and shelters.
Ungrateful Housemates
When OP was attending to their estate concerns, she moved her half-sisters across the country into her own home without having them pay rent. OP already had a husband and three kids in a four-bedroom house before moving her two half-sisters, three children, and a dog with them.
She said, “They never cleaned anything! They came in all night hours, waking up the whole house. They broke things in the house, stole food, and destroyed property while they were there. They had my house smelling like a weed factory.”
Unapologetic Faces
OP’s children even doubled up in rooms to accommodate OP’s half-sisters’ families, and now, their rooms were destroyed. There was paint on the walls, carpet, and furniture.
They have already moved out but haven’t taken all their stuff and just left without so much as an “I’m sorry.”
Her Sole Responsibility?
OP’s health hit rock bottom with the stress of handling and fighting the estate, flying back and forth across the country for court dates, and taking her half-sisters in. Aside from that, her husband also lost his job.
When her half-sisters were still staying with them, one wasn’t honest about her work hours, so her children have become OP’s responsibility to feed, take to school, help with homework, and even their hygiene. Everything fell on OP and her husband and on just one income.
Putting Her Health at Risk
OP’s blood pressure was also consistently high, and she became depressed and stayed in her room for a while. Her body went haywire, and she had to get a hysterectomy because they couldn’t figure out why she was bleeding so much and then found a lump on her breast.
OP added, “I told my sisters about the lump. They said I would be alright and then changed the subject.”
Money Versus Sister
Days, weeks, and months went by, and her half-sisters never asked about the lump or her condition again. Thankfully, when she had surgery, the cancer was removed entirely.
Sadly, her half-sisters only speak to her when they want to know how much longer it will take for the estate to close so they can get their money. OP says her half-sisters turned her life upside down since moving with her, and she doesn’t think her half-sisters even know what they’ve done.
My One and Only Stance!
Now, OP finds comfort in the fact that when the estate finally closes, she could take an additional cut for being the estate representative and doing all the work.
She said, “And I don’t feel like the a**hole for doing it. They are just going to smoke it up in a matter of months anyway.”
Redditors Speak Their Minds
Some people think OP is an a**hole, saying she has no legal rights to keep some of her half-sisters’ share of the inheritance.
One woman said, “You’re the a**hole because your mother trusted you to execute her will as directed, and you did not do that. Moreover, what you did is highly illegal. If and when your sisters figure it out and haul you into court, the probate judge will throw the book at you. You will not only be required to make restitution but you will also be ordered to pay interest. On top of that, if and when your sisters find out, they will have a valid tort claim against you for fraudulent misrepresentation and illegal appropriation of funds that rightfully belong to them.”
A commenter wrote, “Consult with a lawyer because if you feel entitled to keeping more just because you feel superior to your sisters, it doesn’t mean you can legally keep more. You weren’t obligated to move them in with you cross-country since they’re adults. You chose to. It sucks they were bad guests, but you knew their behavior before the fact. You’re the a**hole.”
Her Own Choices
Redditors also said that everything OP did was based on her own decisions, and she knew what her half-sisters were like, so, in the end, it’s her fault the things she mentioned happened to her.
“Yes, you’re the a**hole. Everything you mentioned was your choice. You agreed to be the executor. You moved your sister across the country. You agreed to let your sisters live with you. You agreed to store their stuff when they moved out. You admit they likely don’t know about the stress because you never told them. Yes, you had health issues. Your sisters did not cause them. None of this justifies you stealing their inheritance from them. It’s not ‘keeping more.’ It’s stealing from the estate,” someone said.
Another wrote, “Nobody asked you to take care of their kids. You chose to do that. Nobody asked you to move them. You chose to do that. You could have asked the court for a stip and order to name a new executor. You chose not to do that. Stop justifying your reasons for defying your mother’s last will and testament.”
Do as You Were Told
Some commenters said they understood what OP was trying to say and what she felt. However, they still think it’s best if she does what her mom asked her to do.
A Redditor said, “I understand why you feel you are owed this money. But do you really want to go through the drama and probable legal hassles? Split as your mom wished. The peace of mind is worth just being done with them. What they do with it is their problem. Also, make sure they know that there is no more money.”
Follow the Legal Process!
People have also suggested that if OP thinks her half-sisters owe her money and she deserves more, she should go through the proper processes instead of just taking her half-sisters’ money.
“Do it in a legit way. Total up damages to your house, the cost of having them there, babysitting hours at a standard rate for your area, the travel and legal costs, and the usual percentage an executor gets. That would be your fair extra cut. I would talk to a lawyer, too, but taking the damages and babysitting out of their share seems reasonable. Not the a**hole unless you just take it without showing why.”
What do you think? Is OP wrong for taking more than her intended share?
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