This 24-year-old was faced with a dilemma when her parents demanded she continue paying them rent. She’s already moving out and shouldn’t have to pay them a cent anymore!
It’s Only Right
OP (Original Poster) is 24 and currently lives under her parents’ roof. So, it’s only right for her to pay them rent.
Starting Anew
However, the year this story was posted, she would be transferring to a new college. Since it’s in a different area, she’d have to live there and move out.
She noted that it would be her first time to “officially” live alone.
You Need to Keep Contributing
However, OP recently discovered that her parents, especially her dad, expected her to keep paying them rent. She would have to pay them as usual despite moving out and not staying with them.
Her Own Bills
Now that she’s moving into her own place, though, she would have bills of her own to take care of.
She wrote, “They do pay for my cellphone since the line is cheaper when bundled into the family plan, so I’m willing to pay them the $20 to $30 a month for that. But otherwise, I’ll be paying for all my own needs while living on campus.”
She’s Self-Sufficient
OP further added that her parents did not pay for her college education; she’s using financial aid. She said that they only paid for OP’s school supplies and books since they promised to help with them while OP’s in school.
She shared, “I really appreciate them doing it. However, they’re all one-time expenses, and my parents have always said they don’t expect to be paid back for it.”
What Am I Paying For?
OP’s moving out, so it wasn’t clear to her why she should be paying them any more rent. Her current rent payment contributes to money used for food and bills.
But she would not be “partaking in any of that” once she moves out. She added, “The only thing I’ll be using that’s covered by them is my aforementioned cellphone and a streaming platform that I only rarely use.”
Her Fixed Income
Since she was on disability benefits, OP’s income is “very fixed.” She doesn’t have a lot of extra money to continue paying her parents rent while taking care of her own responsibilities.
A Big Chunk
She currently pays her parents one-third of her monthly salary for rent. Then, OP uses the second third on bills she pays for herself and for things she actively uses or does.
So, she’s left with around $250 for the rest of the month.
Needing Answers
Now, OP’s not sure about what she should do.
For OP, her situation’s quite messy, and she’d be grateful for any thoughts and advice the community could offer. She asked, “Would not paying after moving out make me an a**hole?”
The Community’s Reactions
Redditors told OP that she shouldn’t fret. It wasn’t her responsibility to help keep her parents afloat; if anything, parents are supposed to be there to help and support their kids.
One man wrote, “No, you are not an a**hole; you were sweet enough to pay for staying there. As a parent, we are supposed to take care of our kids, not the other way around. Live your life and save where you can. Congratulations on your new place. Your parents can handle their own bills; they were fine before you helped and will be fine after.”
Black Holes
Others noted the sad fact that some parents view their kids only as sources of money.
“D***, not OP, but I needed to read this. What I took away from the comment above is that I could even pay for everything, and it would still not be enough. Some parents are just black holes,” shared one Redditor.
You Don’t Owe Them Anything!
Some Redditors took it upon themselves to do some background checks on OP’s account, and they found that it seems OP’s being financially and emotionally abused by her dad.
This woman said, “Just read some of OP’s old posts. Her father is or has been abusing her financially and emotionally. OP, you don’t owe him anything, and I hope you get away safely. But bring all your things and be prepared for him to throw a tantrum, cut contact, threaten you, and/or throw away any of your remaining things.”
It’s Just Wild
People also couldn’t understand why OP had to pay rent for literally “nothing.” She won’t be living or eating there, so it wasn’t her responsibility.
One Redditor pointed out, “Not the a**hole. That’s insane to think you should pay ‘rent’ for renting nothing. Yeah, keep paying your phone, but that’s it.”
Another suggested, “Maybe look for an individual phone plan. Not sure where you are, but you can get a plan for $25 a month. You may not need to be bundled with the parents. Then they can’t use it as a control.”
They Should Be Ashamed of Themselves!
Redditors also called OP’s parents out, especially her dad, for trying to take advantage of OP.
“Your parents, especially your father, should be ashamed of himself trying to take advantage of you. You’re paying your own tuition, paying rent, your part of the phone, and your personal expenses. You don’t have anything to give,” exclaimed one woman.
Another commented, “Not the a**hole. Asking you to pay rent when you don’t live there is an unreasonable expectation. Also, if you don’t want them holding the books and school supplies over your head, use what you would pay in rent to buy them yourself.”
Do you think OP deserved to be treated this way? What would you tell her?
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This post first appeared as She Refuses to Continue Paying Her Mom and Dad $250 for Rent After She Moves Out. Some Parents Are Just “Black Holes,” and Hers See Her as a Walking ATM! on Quote Ambition.
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