His mother wanted him to give up his inheritance and give it to her, even when she already had the bulk of his grandmother’s estate. When he refused, she started threatening him!
Something’s Wrong With Grandma’s Will!
Toward the end of OP’s (Original Poster) grandma’s life, his mom thought that a family friend deceived her and had his grandmother write 50% of her estate to that said friend. His mother got 6%, his 2 cousins got 14%, and he got 30% of the estate.
For better context, OP explained that the estate is worth around $400,000 to $450,000 in total.
Winning the Other 50%
OP’s mom and the family friend had a six-month court battle, where the latter settled on $75,000. His mom was also tasked to pay for her legal fees.
However, it was not the end of OP’s mom’s money-grabbing tactic. He shared, “The 2 cousins felt bad for my mom and signed off their collective 14% to her.”
Greedy for Everything
Now that their family friend has settled, OP’s mom sent him a letter from her lawyer asking him to sign off his 30% to her, saying she would “take care” of him and that he could “trust her.”
OP added, “She also guilted me in the past to sign off everything, telling me how hard this court case has been and that she has had a hard year.”
Offering a Truce
But things didn’t go as his mom planned when OP sent her a text message saying he wouldn’t be signing the paper but was willing to work something out as long as it was in writing. However, that doesn’t mean that OP thinks it’s right for his mother to try and guilt him into giving away his inheritance.
A Threat From His Mom
Now, OP’s mom is threatening him with lawyers, telling him that “this whole ordeal will be expensive.” They even told him that mediation starts soon, so he “better get a lawyer.”
Guilt-Tripping Her Own Son
OP’s mom even had her best friend message OP about the whole situation. He told him that his mom was “heartbroken, disappointed, and devastated” that OP decided to take this route.
But OP wouldn’t back down, saying, “I told him that I’m very disappointed in her, and I don’t think a mother should be trying to take away everything from her son like this and that if she wants to make it work, she should put it in writing.”
A Tainted Relationship
With everything that has happened, OP thinks his relationship with his mom has been ruined.
But OP is “ticked off” at how his mom tried to guilt him and made him the “bad person” for wanting to keep the gift that his grandma gave him.
A Remembrance of His Grandmother
OP explained that his grandma loved him a lot, and he would even spend every summer with her as a kid. So, in a way, the inheritance was a piece of her that OP wanted to keep.
Making Use of the Money
He also shared that he plans to use his inheritance to start a business. OP wouldn’t be wasting it away and knew that the money would “go a long way.”
Redditors Speak Their Minds
Given how things were unraveling, some Redditors suggested that OP contact a lawyer to know and protect his rights. They also told him not to let his mom step over him.
The top commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. Contact an attorney and find out what your rights are. Take their advice as to how to proceed. Don’t let her bully you into signing away a gift your grandmother left you. Good luck.”
Another person added, “Agreed. Not sure where you live, OP. But I’m an attorney in the US. If she files a lawsuit to take something that was granted to you properly, she can be responsible for your attorney’s fees and court costs. Get an attorney in your area and make sure your rights are protected. Not the a**hole.”
Don’t Push It
Some comments stated that OP’s mom would have a much harder time fighting in court trying to get her son’s inheritance compared to what happened with the family friend.
A Redditor said, “Not the a**hole. Your mom will have a much harder time convincing a court that you, the grandchild, somehow hoodwinked your grandmother out of her money than some unrelated person. If your mom doesn’t want to deal with the stress of it, the solution for her is easy: don’t do it. Just let you have the 30%.”
The same person added, “If she’s in such a bad state that she needs it, couldn’t she just ask nicely? The fact that she’s threatened a lawsuit suggests that she’s rather selfish, and she just wants the money to herself because she feels entitled.”
Don’t Sign Off!
The community believed that OP’s mother didn’t have a case, which might be why she kept threatening OP.
“Do not sign over your inheritance. The only reason she’s guilt-tripping you and then getting her flying monkeys to guilt-trip you as well is that she doesn’t have a case. Her promise that she’ll take care of you and to trust her is empty. You know any money you sign over to her is never coming back to you,” a commenter said.
The same Redditor wrote, “Mediation is not a lawsuit, and her threats about how expensive it’s going to be and how you need a lawyer are just hot air. The will is on your side. The mediator will see this. You’re not the a**hole.”
A Better Look At Her Priorities
There are Redditors who pointed out that money seems to be more important to OP’s mother than him, so there’s nothing else he can do now but face her with a lawyer.
A commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole at all. By the way, at this point, I think you should accept that your mother has made her decision that the money matters more than you do. Get a lawyer. All contact goes through the lawyer.”
Family Isn’t Always Trustworthy
Some people shared their experiences about how their families screwed them up and used their money.
“Not the a**hole. It’s your inheritance. Just because it’s your mother doesn’t mean you should trust her; it’s kind of bad to use personal experiences, but my mother took all of my inheritances and college funds and blew them,” someone shared.
Should OP sign off on the inheritance? What are your thoughts about his mother?
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This post first appeared as He Refused to Give the $135,000 Inheritance He Received From His Grandma’s $450,000 Estate to His Mother. Now She’s Guilt-Tripping Him, Hounding Him for the Money, and Threatening to Sue! on Quote Ambition.