She was losing their child, but all her husband could do was leave her—for a dinner out with friends! He’s unbelievably cruel and selfish, and she won’t stand for it!
A few days before OP (Original Poster) shared this story, she got “devastating news.” When she was at her prenatal appointment, she was told that her baby had “no heartbeat” at 11 weeks.
Second Time in a Row
It was devastating in and of itself. But what made everything worse was that it was OP’s second pregnancy loss, and she was understandably “distraught.”
Let Nature Take Its Course
After giving her the news, the doctor advised OP to go home, rest, and “let her body naturally release all the pregnancy contents.” Knowing from experience, this would take around two days.
Broken Heart and Broken Body
Around two days after she went for her appointment, OP shared that the pain started to kick in. Slowly but surely, the pain also started increasing.
OP then explained that her husband had previous plans of going to his friend’s house for dinner. However, given the circumstances, she had expected him to stay at home and cancel.
However, instead of doing that, OP’s husband pushed through with his plans! At this, OP was horrified.
A Dagger to the Heart
She was already devastated by the loss of her child and the pain she was going through. So, her husband leaving her to fend for herself was just another hit she couldn’t take.
OP said, “I felt he should have stayed home with me and supported me through this.”
OP painted a picture of how painful everything was.
She wrote, “The pain was so intense I was in tears and couldn’t comfortably walk or sit.”
This Will Do the Trick!
Even so, her husband was not hindered at all. He just bought her some ibuprofen and told her he’d call to check in on her, which was obviously not enough for OP, especially given the situation.
Hearing about her son-in-law’s decision, OP’s mom immediately offered to come over and “nurture” OP. However, OP declined, saying she wanted her husband beside her during these trying times.
Sadly, OP’s husband not only left her alone while in pain, but he also failed to check up on her as promised.
OP wrote, “After four hours of no word from him, I exploded since he hadn’t been back yet. Now we are talking divorce!”
The Community’s Thoughts and Opinions
Users were simply appalled by how selfishly OP’s husband acted.
One wrote, “Medical needs aside, the emotional need is 1,000 times enough for the husband to stay home. My wife and I have had six miscarriages, all from IVF. No miscarriage is easy, but when you have to go through so many invasive procedures just to get pregnant compared to ‘normal people,’ I think it hits a bit worse. It’s not even the thousands of pounds each time, but the emotional investment knowing you can’t conceive as easily as other couples. Every single time I have been there with my wife when she needs me, even if it means taking time away from work and catching up at weird hours when she is asleep.”
Sadly, others also experienced the same thing as OP. They understand her pain and are 100% on her side.
The top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. I decided to divorce my ex-husband because he went to watch a movie we had seen three times with his brother and cousin while I was miscarrying. Do not blame you a bit. That was the end of everything for me.”
“Wish my ex knew this; he was vile. I could hardly move in pain, so I just let the blood go wherever while he went out as usual. Exes are exes for a reason,” commented another.
You Deserve Better!
Others zoomed in on how terrible OP’s partner was. In the comments, Redditors reminded OP that she deserved all the good things in life.
One user wrote, “I am really sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult and painful experience. Your feelings are entirely valid, and it is essential to prioritize your emotional well-being. You deserve understanding and support during such a challenging time!”
“Not the a**hole, but you shouldn’t argue with him anymore. He’s not worth it. Divorce him and find someone who will respect you because it’s not him,” commented another.
Then, Redditors also stepped into the shoes of OP’s husband’s friends. If they were his buddies, they’d definitely kick him out of the dinner!
Someone said, “He would not be my friend anymore. I don’t know if I’d resort to violence, but I’d certainly yell at him and kick him the f*** out of my house and tell him to get home to his wife!”
A woman agreed, saying, “Exactly this! What kind of husband leaves his wife to go through a miscarriage alone? It is a physically and emotionally painful situation. There are times when it is appropriate to cancel dinner with a friend; a medical emergency of your significant other is one of them. I would be appalled if I was the friend and he didn’t cancel on me! OP, not the a**hole; you deserve better!”
What advice do you have for OP? What would you tell her?
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This post first appeared as Her Husband Left Her to Fend For Herself While She Was Miscarrying. She Was in Excruciating Pain, but He Decided His Friends Were More Important, so Now They’re on the Verge of a Divorce! on Quote Ambition.