This Redditor not only lost her soulmate, she lost everything—her house, her job, and more. To safeguard her, her partner left her 60% of his assets. Should she split it between her and his parents?
Becoming His Caregiver
OP’s (Original Poster) partner battled stage four colon cancer and passed away less than two years after the diagnosis. He was only 32 then.
For the last 10 months of her partner’s life, OP became his “full-time caregiver.” She quit her job and dedicated all her time to supporting her partner’s needs.
Unfortunately, OP’s partner’s treatment was complicated, requiring 24-hour care. It was too much for her partner’s parents to manage, so when OP wasn’t there, she had to hire a nurse to help them out.
Her Selfless Love
OP never considered not caring for him; after all, she loved him with “her entire soul.” She wrote, “His well-being and care took priority over everything else in my life.”
After her partner’s death, OP was left alone with only a car, a dog, an urn, no job, and no home. They’d been living at her partner’s parent’s house before he had to move to the hospice, and OP said, “I hadn’t maintained friendships in the city we were in, and I had no family other than his in our city.”
The Uncomfortable Topic of Money
Her partner’s last will and how he will distribute the money in his life insurance policy have always been an uncomfortable subject for OP.
OP’s partner came from a wealthier family than hers, and they aren’t married. So, she didn’t want anyone to think she manipulated her partner for his wealth.
Leave Me Out of Your Decision
So, she insisted he made the decision about his will independently. Yet, OP’s partner was convinced that his family would never think she was after his money or that “he could even be manipulated.”
But OP was raised in a family where money is an uncomfortable topic, so she was adamant about how he should proceed with things. She eventually convinced him to leave her out of his decision.
His Last Will
Ultimately, OP’s partner left 60% of his wealth to OP and 10% to each of his four siblings. His parents were left out of the will.
He made his decision considering that OP left her job for him, had no family nearby to help, had no home, and would need help building everything back.
Aspirations for Her Future
OP’s partner also wanted her to pay off her student loan, return to school, and get another degree. Additionally, he wanted her to buy a home so she wouldn’t have to look for a rental home for her and their 80-pound dog.
His Trust in His Family
OP questioned her partner’s decision, telling him it might be better if he left them something. But he said that his family was doing okay because they “had each other” and believed that OP needed the money more than anyone else.
He was sure his family would understand his decision and “no one would complain.”
The Will’s Revelation
When OP’s partner passed, his sister was the will’s executor. When the will was read, she asked OP if she wanted to share her inheritance with their parents since her brother didn’t leave them anything.
Knowing what her partner wanted, OP said, “No, because I had asked him, and he had said no and meant for this money to be mine.”
Getting Back on Her Feet
OP loves his parents but believes that her partner did the right thing. When he passed, she had only a car, a dog, and an urn—unable to work or think.
It was only then that she fully understood her partner’s intentions. She now knew that she needed money to get back on her feet.
The Weight of His Final Wishes
Despite knowing this, OP feels guilty. Her partner’s sister thinks she’s an “a**hole” for not sharing her inheritance with their parents.
OP said, “I myself don’t know. I feel guilty, and I try to reassure myself, reminding myself that this is what he wanted.”
Bonds Beyond Blood
In an edit, OP said that her partner’s parents have never asked for money, and his other siblings never mentioned anything about the inheritance. She wrote, “They are all angels, and I love them very much.”
She also shared that she trusted that her partner’s sister did what she thought was best for their family. So, OP added, “Please be kind to his sister. Beyond what is happening with the will, she lost her brother, and she is family to me. We don’t get along, but I do believe she is a good person trying to look after her family.”
Money, Expectations, and More
In the end, OP received the money, but it didn’t bring her the comfort she thought it would. Instead, it brought a terrible sense of guilt; she felt like an “a**hole.”
The money was a lot; it was more than she used to earn in two years. She said, “I don’t know that giving away a little would make much of a difference.”
The Community’s Thoughts
The Reddit community had much to say about OP’s dilemma of not sharing her inheritance with her partner’s parents.
A top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. I am so sorry for the loss of your soulmate. If possible, get an estate lawyer to monitor the distribution. An executor is not supposed to follow anything but the intent and will of the deceased. Not saying the sister will do anything wrong, but watch your own back on this one.”
Giving up Everything for Him
One Redditor understood OP’s decision to keep the money.
The user wrote, “Not the a**hole. You gave up everything. The parents are fine financially, and you are not. I could understand if there was something sentimental, but this is money. He passed, wanting to know that you would be okay and not on the street because of him.”
His Final Gift
Another Redditor showed support for OP for sacrificing everything for her partner.
“Not the a**hole. You sacrificed everything to care for him in his final days. It is now time to build your life with his final gift to you. His family will be okay, and it’s honestly none of their business at the end of the day,” one commenter said.
What do you think about OP’s decision to keep all of the inheritance for herself? Was she right to prioritize her financial stability after sacrificing for her partner?
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