This mom had had it with her daughter having terrible hygiene. So, when she got her period, she thought it was the perfect time to teach her a much-needed lesson!
OP’s 14-Year-Old Daughter
OP (Original Poster) has an autistic 14-year-old daughter with “terrible hygiene.” She’d been trying to correct her habits but to no avail.
Attempts for Improvement
She shared that nothing was simple when it came to her daughter and her hygiene. In fact, OP would have to fight with her to get her to shower, brush her teeth, and more!
Period Pains
OP’s daughter also doesn’t clean up after herself during her period, and she said it was “disgusting.”
She said, “Blood everywhere and the constant washing of underwear.”
She’s Fine That Way
Unfortunately, OP’s daughter has no problems with her current habits. Conversely, OP had been trying to tell her that people were “going to bully her in school” if she smelled bad or if they saw stains on her pants.
Bullying Is Hard
OP also tried to warn her by mentioning that it would be hard for her to recover from something like bullying. Sadly, her daughter simply ignored her.
Time for a Much-Needed Lesson
The week before this story was posted, OP’s daughter started her period. She shared that she picked her clothing and “allowed” her daughter to wear white pants.
She said, “I wanted to see if she would clean up after herself so that the pants would be clean when she came back home.”
Letting Her Be
But before OP could even drop her daughter off at school, she saw her pants were already stained with blood. Even so, she didn’t say anything and just let her go to school as usual.
She Needs It
OP explained that it was something necessary.
She said, “She needed to learn how this type of situation would impact her social life if she continued to live like a slob.”
Coming Home in Tears
When school ended, OP’s daughter returned home “in tears.” She said that the kids were “ruthless.”
OP’s daughter was “mocked for her strong smell and the red on her pants.”
No Regrets
Even with how hurt OP’s daughter was, she seemed not to regret anything she did.
She said, “It hurt to see her like this, but I was not seeing the changes that had to be made.”
A Harsh Lesson
OP admitted that she set her daughter up for “a bit of bullying in her school.” But for her, this is a harsh lesson that she needs to learn and absorb as soon as possible.
Redditors’ Reactions
Redditors are horrified at how cruelly OP had treated her daughter, especially since it was deliberate.
“You’re the a**hole. You allowed her to be humiliated by her peers at school. You actually picked her clothing? You did not simply fail to point out the risk of her clothing color choice; you actively chose white pants. You caused her to be humiliated,” stated a top commenter.
That’s Abuse!
People were furious, and some pointed out that what she did was a form of abuse.
One person said, “OP is abusive. Set her child up to be mocked. What an awful thing to do.” Another said, “What a terrible mother. Does she actually like her daughter? Does she know how hard her life can be in hs because of this s***? There are other ways to teach a lesson. She’s the mother of the year.”
Irreparable Damage
The community also called OP out for causing irreparable damage to her own child. After all, as she stated, it was hard to recover from any sort of bullying.
A Redditor wrote, “I don’t think she realizes how bad bullying can be and how much it can affect kids. How ruthless kids can be, and how it usually gets worse and worse. How someone, once bullied, will usually become the favorite punching bag for everyone. OP, do you know there are kids that hurt themselves because they cannot take it? You’re not just the a**hole, but you are a bully and potentially seriously harming your child! You’re the a**hole.”
Another pointed out, “Especially since autism often comes with problems in social understanding. The daughter mostly didn’t understand how much her hygiene affected others. There were so many other ways. But OP chooses humiliation and that her daughter will end up getting bullied for this for a long time as if she doesn’t stand out with her autism enough.”
You Failed
For the community, OP is a failure of a parent.
A user wrote, “You failed as a parent. We never set our kids up for failure. We never intentionally throw them to the wolves. We are here to help, to teach, to love, to guide, and to set them up for success. It is well known that autistic girls face added challenges to menstruation. Clearly, you need to address this core issue. It is likely time to explore different products. Please consider period panties as part of the solution set. And, please educate her and empower her to try a variety of options and settle on what she feels best with.”
What do you think of what OP did? What would you tell her?
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