OP’s (Original Poster) mother-in-law had no respect for her and her husband’s privacy. However, after showing up unexpectedly and demanding she get the master bedroom, she felt like enough was enough!
An Unexpected Visit
OP had been married to her husband for nine months when this story was posted. She shared that they lived in a different town from his parents.
However, her mother-in-law showed up unexpectedly on the Friday this story was posted.
For OP, her mother-in-law wasn’t all that bad. Sadly, she wasn’t the best either.
She wrote, “She is okay-ish but has no respect for her son’s privacy and, by extension, mine.”
With her unexpected visit, OP’s mother-in-law declared she was staying the night. That was fine with OP, but it wasn’t her mother-in-law’s last request.
When it was time to go to bed, she suddenly requested that OP and her husband let her sleep in their bedroom—the master bedroom. She also wanted to lock their bedroom door because “she can’t feel comfortable enough to sleep without locking the door.”
I Don’t Think So
For OP, her mother-in-law’s request was “bizarre,” so she “politely declined” her request. She then suggested alternatives, like the guest bedroom, couch, or air mattress.
OP’s mother-in-law didn’t like any of the options she gave. Instead, she gave OP those options!
OP’s husband agreed with his mom, but OP adamantly refused. Because of this, an argument between her and her mother-in-law ensued.
OP wrote, “During the argument, I pointed out how I didn’t want to be kept out of my room and away from my stuff, but she lashed out at my husband saying, ‘Don’t you just stand there! Say something!’”
Instead of standing by his wife, OP’s husband told her to let his mom have the room for one night. On the flip side, OP reiterated that what she had mentioned before were the only options she had for her mother-in-law.
She said that if she didn’t approve of any of those options, then OP could book her a room in a hotel.
Are You Kicking Me Out?
Her mother-in-law was immediately offended and accused OP of kicking her out. She started crying, and this made OP’s husband upset.
Eventually, OP’s mother-in-law left at midnight, and her husband blew up. He told OP she had “disrespected” his mom, who was a “guest” at their house.
Her husband told her she had treated his mom “poorly” and reminded OP that their bedroom was not just hers but his, too.
OP wrote, “He said I acted horribly to her, causing her to stay at a hotel in the middle of the night.”
Suddenly, OP’s husband decided to leave. He went to book a room in the same hotel his mom was staying at and turned his phone off for the rest of the night.
The next day, OP’s mother-in-law went home and told her whole family about what had happened. Then, they all contacted OP to “berate” her.
They also called her behavior toward her mother-in-law “abhorrent” and “loathsome.”
Her husband did not calm down overnight and was still mad at her.
She said her husband was “complaining” about how OP “kept trying to ruin his relationship with his family and push them away.”
Redditors Speak Their Minds
Redditors advised OP to take a step back and reflect on their relationship.
A top commenter advised, “Not the a**hole. Girl, I would get a divorce ASAP. These kinds of relationships never last for a long time. He is not able to see the disrespect his mother is giving both of you guys. Run!”
She’s a Control Freak!
Some users also noted that OP’s mother-in-law probably wanted to lock the door so she could snoop around.
“She probably did room checks on her husband when he lived with her, and she’s dying for the snooping fix,” said one Redditor. Another commented, “It’s either that, or she’s such a control freak that this is her way of marking her territory. She needs to feel important so badly, and the only way she feels that can happen is if she stomps all over her son’s new wife’s boundaries. She probably wants to snoop too, but I think the former is probably the main issue. Needless to say, she’s f****** cuckoo! Not the a**hole!”
We’re Glad You Stood up for Yourself
Some were glad that OP stood up for herself. Even so, they advised her to reconsider her marriage.
One Redditor said, “The mother-in-law is an a**hole, and so is OP’s husband. Nine months of marriage, and he is willing to allow his mother to sleep in their bed? What kind of man would allow this to happen? He’s a mommy’s boy and hasn’t gotten off the nipple yet. He probably slept in the same room as his mommy. So happy OP stood up for herself. She needs to get a divorce because that’s the only way she will get rid of this overbearing woman. It will only worsen if she stays. Not the a**hole.”
What would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? What do you think of what her husband did?
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