This user frequently travels for work but has other plans for Thanksgiving. Her coworker got a chance to go and demanded she watch her four kids, which she declined!
OP (Original Poster) is a 28-year-old woman who works in an office but goes on business trips often. When she goes on trips, she usually takes her 32-year-old girlfriend, Sadie, and they make it a mini-vacation.
Going All Over
Opportunities to do business trips came up at least 9 times every year and lasted for 5 to 10 days each time. Her business always paid for travel, living, and food expenses, with the company paying out any extra, though that was rare because she traveled with her girlfriend.
Through the Ranks
The reason why OP has these opportunities is that she has worked her way up through her company. They paid for her schooling, and she had to work hard to get her position.
Meet the Coworker
OP had a 36-year-old coworker, Sue, who had 4 kids under 8. She had been working with the same company for 15 years, but OP considered her an acquaintance, not a friend.
Sue never missed a chance to give OP some “grief” about not having kids and told her she was “lucky.”
A Coworker’s Chance
A few days before OP made her post, she was offered a travel opportunity but had to decline because she had already planned Thanksgiving. Sue stepped up and begged their boss to let her go, which he did because it was an emergency.
Reaching Out for Help
Sue made all her arrangements and then requested OP. She asked her if she would mind watching all of Sue’s kids, to which OP said no because she already had travel plans.
Pushing and Prodding
When OP told her no, Sue took the chance to inform her that it would be an excellent opportunity for her to experience the joys of children. OP continued to say no because she enjoyed her kid-free life and refused to travel with children.
Give It a Rest Already
Sue didn’t stop asking and trying to compromise with OP, who finally had to tell her that her decision was final. OP didn’t think Sue was even qualified to take the trip but didn’t tell her coworker that; instead, she focused on the fact that it might compromise Sadie’s Thanksgiving.
Off They Go
OP heard from coworkers that Sue had invited her husband, and he had to drive their children over an hour to her parent’s house because OP had refused to help. That made some of her coworkers call her “cold” because they said Sue had “only wanted to experience” what OP does.
The Boss’s Point of View
OP asked her boss what he thought, and he agreed with her. He didn’t know it would be suitable for OP to compromise her trip, which she had planned for months due to an emergency trip for Sue.
Her Girlfriend Speaks
Sadie, for her part, wasn’t entirely on OP’s side. She remained split, saying it would have been fun to travel with the kids, though she knew Sue got under OP’s skin.
A Different Experience
Still, Sadie did think that they could’ve done the trip without any issues. Having the kids along would have changed things up, and now OP is wondering if she was an a**hole to Sue.
What the Community Thinks
The Redditors who commented were all on OP’s side. Many of them found fault with what Sue was trying to do initially, especially pawning her kids off on a work acquaintance for an entire week.
One of the top commenters pointed that out, saying, “Obviously not the a**hole. Who the f*** asks a coworker to look after their kids, and who the f*** tries to pass it off as a favor? The joy of kids? Sue is badly out of line, so thank goodness your boss agrees.”
Most Redditors kept returning to the same point, with the following most popular comment being, “Not the a**hole. I think her asking an acquaintance to take care of her kids while traveling for an entire week is a completely out-of-line thing to do. I don’t know if it’s a lack of social awareness or entitlement, but it is ridiculous. She continued to press you when you clarified your position, which is extremely rude. She asked. You said no. That should have been the end of it.”
They Had Other Options
Given that Sue and her husband could take their kids to a grandparent, it also means they had other options from the beginning.
One Redditor pointed this out, saying, “Not the a**hole. It is way less inconvenient for her husband to drive an hour to her parents to drop the kids off than for you to take responsibility for her kids for a week at the last minute.”
Do you think that OP was wrong to stand her ground? Why would Sue want her kids to travel with an acquaintance at work instead of leaving them with grandparents?
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