He was left with a hefty inheritance from his grandparents, but his mom is asking him to share it with his “sister.” However, he’s not even sure if she’s really his family!
No Longer an Only Child
OP (Original Poster) is a 20-year-old only child. However, just over a year ago, he found out he had a sister, Lucy.
Per his mom, she got pregnant and had a child with her first boyfriend in college. Because they weren’t ready for a baby, his mom opted for adoption at birth; OP’s dad was also aware of this.
Around a year ago, Lucy contacted their mom for the first time. The two have gotten along well, kept in touch, and had lunches together.
More of an Acquaintance
OP had also already met Lucy, and while they got along well, he didn’t see her as his sister—not even his friend.
He said, “We’re different people, so not friends, so I sort of see her as an acquaintance or friend of the family, I guess. It’s a little odd because I know we’re closely related, but at the same time, she doesn’t feel like ‘family,’ if that makes sense.”
When OP’s grandparents passed away, they left everything to OP because they considered him their only grandchild; his mom was their only child.
OP’s parents didn’t have an issue with this, as they both had great careers. His mom is a nurse, and his dad is a doctor.
Access to the Money
When OP turned 20, he got access to his inheritance. However, he never expected to receive a whopping six million dollars!
It was such a life-changing sum, and OP didn’t want his friends to know about it. Therefore, he couldn’t ask them for advice regarding his problem.
His Mom’s Instructions
A few weeks before this story was posted, OP’s mom sat him down and told him to share some of his inheritance with Lucy. However, OP never even considered it.
He wrote, “Now, here’s the thing; like I said, to me, Lucy is essentially an acquaintance. I know we’re related by blood, but I don’t exactly feel the type of connection to her that would merit giving her such a large sum of money, or any money at all for that matter.”
OP tried to explain how he felt about his mom’s request. However, she wasn’t happy with OP’s answer.
She told him he was being “extremely selfish” and that Lucy could benefit significantly from the money because she was still a college student and was in debt.
Not My Problem
OP thought he might be the a**hole because he didn’t see Lucy’s situation as his problem.
He said, “I believe family is who feels like family, not who shares your DNA.”
What His Grandparents Wanted
He also said that his grandparents knew about Lucy’s existence before they passed away. Even so, they didn’t include her in their will.
OP also mentioned that Lucy was not struggling. It seemed to him a lovely family had adopted her.
He wrote, “It is not as though Lucy grew up poor in the foster system or anything; she was adopted at birth by what seems like two great people. Her adoptive parents are an accountant and a teacher.”
OP then clarified that he didn’t plan on hoarding the money. He was in law school and planned on using the money to establish his law firm after graduating.
At a Loss
OP is still trying to figure out how to move forward.
He ended his post by asking, “Am I being a selfish a**hole here, or am I justified in thinking that simply being related by blood doesn’t merit any claim here?”
The community tried to comfort OP and said he was doing the right thing. They reminded him that he was following his grandparents’ wishes.
One commented, “Not the a**hole. Your grandparents were aware of Lucy’s existence, and they chose not to leave her an inheritance. I am guessing since she was legally adopted, your grandparents didn’t feel it was necessary.”
She Has No Legal Right
People also mentioned that Lucy had already been adopted and therefore had no legal right to OP’s inheritance.
“Yeah, the adoption took away any legal right—at least where I’m from—to the inheritance. Mom tries to make up for giving her daughter away by giving away OP’s money. Though I get the sentiment, this will only divide the family; really hope she didn’t tell her ‘daughter’ about the inheritance, as that could’ve set her up for a lot of hurt and fighting. Also, depending on where OP lives, he should refrain from giving even a small amount of money, as that could be counted as admittance if the ‘sister’ ever should try to sue,” advised a Redditor.
Easy Way Out
Redditors also called OP’s mom out for trying to take the easy way out.
One said, “If mom is so concerned about Lucy’s college expenses, she can chip in as Lucy’s parent, just like many parents do. She wants to make it painless by taking from OP’s inheritance.” Another wrote, “I think mom is just feeling some regret and guilt now and trying to overcompensate.”
Do you think OP’s mom is just trying to take the easy way out? What do you have to say?
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This post first appeared as He Refused to Share the $6,000,000 Inheritance His Grandparents Left Him With His So-Called Sister Because She Doesn’t Feel Like Family. His Mom Got Mad, Calling Him “Extremely Selfish!” on Quote Ambition.