She struggled most of her life with disabilities, yet her sister says she “has it easy.” Not wanting to deal with her any longer, she uninvited her from her wedding!
A Difficult Condition
OP (Original Poster) is marrying a man “she doesn’t deserve” a week after this story was posted. She is incontinent and has limited mobility, both of which she is in control of.
She needs to take some precautions, but she tries not to let them limit her at all. She’s had these issues for over half of her life and nearly all of her sister’s.
It’s Been Way Too Long, Sis!
A year before this story was posted, OP and her sister, who’s a single mother, had a disagreement. At that time, she was a guest at OP’s home with her triplets, aged three.
However, OP’s sister was overstaying her welcome, with OP saying she was with her for an “ostensibly long stay.”
Turning Her Issues Into a Joke
A normal person would have been grateful for OP’s help, but the same could not be said about her sister.
OP wrote, “She threw my kindness back at me, outed my incontinence to her triplets, giving them a cruel nickname to use for me in order to scare them into toilet training. This did not have the intended result.”
Patching Things Up
OP’s sister accused her of “playing” on her issues for sympathy and special treatment when it’s clearly “no big deal.” She did all this while intentionally disregarding the one and only simple request OP made to accommodate her issues.
She wrote, “This eventually got resolved after a few months by her delivering what I felt was an adequate apology and much mediation by our family.”
Because she and her sister were back on good terms, OP invited her to the wedding, as well as her kids. OP adored them and believes that weddings are better when kids are running around hyped on sugar.
Her sister accepted the invitation, and everything was good.
It’s in Their Genes
However, the wedding wasn’t OP’s only good news. Another great thing is that OP will be about seven months pregnant on her wedding day.
By the looks of it, she won’t be entirely exempted from her family’s “tradition” of multiple births. OP shared, “I’m the only singlet out of seven.”
In the weeks before OP posted this story, OP has been experiencing the difficulties of carrying children, and it’s starting to cause her additional issues. She can’t handle the pressure of walking more than a few feet, so she uses a wheelchair 90% of the time.
Despite that, OP says that she and her babies are all pretty healthy and that her doctors are amazing and are taking care of her completely.
Again With the Complaints
So, even with her uncomfortable state, OP went on with planning the wedding. The day before this story was posted, OP was making some final alterations to her dress to make it easier for her size and mobility since the dress kept getting caught in the wheels of her wheelchair.
Unfortunately, this was when her sister started to bring up issues on OP’s disability again. OP wrote, “She dragged up how I’m playing on my disability and pregnancy for sympathy and how it’s easier for me because she didn’t have a partner to help her when she was pregnant.”
Uninviting Her Sister
OP reached her limit when her sister made a comment about how her life was so “easy” and that all she does is “complain.” After that, OP told her sister she was no longer invited to the wedding and didn’t want to see her there.
She shared, “I’m tired of her thinking I have it easy because she struggles and I ‘don’t even break a sweat.’”
Why Is She Envious?
She doesn’t understand where her sister is coming from since the only good things she has are her relationship and her babies.
OP said, “The rest of my life isn’t exactly glamorous. I work in an office, pushing paper around. And I struggled walking without crutches before I started looking like a blimp.”
No Need for Her Presence
OP and her sister argued even more since she was upset that she had already bought a gift and new dresses for her kids. Her sister tried to guilt-trip her by showing that all that effort was wasted because she was uninvited from the wedding.
But before leaving, OP made it clear that her nieces were still invited, as long as their “b-word mother” wasn’t there.
Can They Mend Their Relationship?
OP regrets many things she said in their argument. In her defense, she just wanted to have a good, peaceful, and happy wedding day.
On the other hand, her sister tried calling her multiple times to try and apologize, but OP’s just not sure if she wants to hear what her sister has to say.
Redditors seem to have the same opinion about OP’s sister: that she’s envious and cruel, and it’s not OP’s fault if she wants to have a good wedding that is free of negativity.
“Having someone in your life who is constantly envious and resentful is soul-crushing and, frankly, exhausting. You have every right to have a happy, stress-free wedding. If that means not having your spiteful sister there, so be it,” a Redditor said.
Another person commented, “So, you’re having a wedding in a week. Your sister has already been an a**hole over your disability before. She picks now to bring it all up again when you’re trying to prepare for the wedding. And it didn’t cross her mind you would get upset? What was she trying to accomplish? You’re not the a**hole. Your and your babies’ health is priority one, and your wedding is priority two. You do what you need to take care of yourself. Your sister can sweat for a while.”
She Wronged Her
A lot of people also said that OP’s sister treated her badly in many instances, and it would probably be best to be away from her sister for a while.
A commenter wrote, “I wouldn’t want someone who minimizes and is cruel about things I can’t control and am insecure about present at my wedding either. She literally turned you into a ‘cautionary tale’ for her kids when your situation is not even a little bit the same.”
“You got tired of someone mocking things you have to deal with every day, someone who is supposed to be family, and decided not to bring the raging drama llama to your happiest day. No issues there. People will defend her because people always seem to defend a**holes when someone stands up to them. I say don’t give in because she’s the one who blew her second chance. Actions have consequences,” another person said.
Got More Than Enough Issues
Some Redditors mentioned OP’s condition and that it’s just unbelievable how her sister can accuse her of such things despite obviously seeing what OP has gone through.
Someone wrote, “You literally need a wheelchair. I’ve never heard someone describe that as ‘easy’ before. Not the a**hole, and I’m confused.”
Another Redditor commented, “Not the a**hole, but let’s stick a pin in that. You are pregnant with multiples, you have mobility issues, and you are incontinent. Why is this person even in your life? Don’t you have enough to deal with?”
What would you do if you were OP? Would you still invite your sister to your wedding?
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This post first appeared as She Banned Her Sister From Her Wedding After She Accused Her of “Using Her Disability for Sympathy” and Mocked Her for “Having It Easy.” She’s Had Enough of Her Bullying! on Quote Ambition.