A woman was getting married and invited her family. When her stepsister found out, she got angry because it was one month before her baby shower, accusing her of trying to “steal her thunder!”
A Long Time Coming
OP (Original Poster) is a 30-year-old woman who was getting married to her 32-year-old boyfriend, Matt. They were excited to plan their wedding, as they had been together for a long time.
The two decided to have a small, intimate wedding with only friends and family. One of the family members OP would invite was Emily, her 28-year-old stepsister.
The two of them, OP and Emily, had never had a great relationship. Despite this, OP didn’t want to create any drama, so she sent an invitation to Emily and her husband.
There weren’t any problems until OP shared the wedding date with her family. When she did, her stepsister reacted negatively and said it was too close to her baby shower that would be taking place the following month.
OP’s stepsister claimed that because there was only a month between events, OP was trying to “steal her thunder.” However, for OP, it was absurd as it was her first time hearing about the baby shower’s date.
News to Me
What shocked OP most was that no one had discussed the baby shower with her. She had no way of knowing the baby shower date when she scheduled her wedding.
For the Record
OP tried to tell her stepsister that she didn’t know when the baby shower was. For this reason, she couldn’t have scheduled them close to each other on purpose.
Emily didn’t want to hear it and said she found out somehow and should have changed her plans to accommodate her.
As if things couldn’t get worse, Emily called a family meeting to discuss the issue. She said that it was because of OP’s “selfishness” that they had to discuss the wedding and baby shower date.
During the family meeting, Emily accused OP of being “inconsiderate” and said she was “trying to overshadow her life events.”
Their family was torn by the discussion, with some agreeing with Emily and others siding with OP.
The Last Straw
The meeting only made OP feel unfairly treated. Then, because Emily kept making unreasonable demands, she decided to just take back her stepsister’s invitation!
OP reasoned that nothing good would come if she did invite Emily. If she were present at her wedding, then there’d only be more tension and drama, and she didn’t want that during her big day.
Standing With Conviction
OP’s family became divided following OP’s decision. Unfortunately, some sided with Emily, who insists that OP is “selfish and inconsiderate.”
So, now, OP asks, “So, Reddit, am I the a**hole for not inviting my stepsister to my wedding after she accused me of trying to ‘steal her thunder?’”
The Community’s Two Cents
Redditors were aghast at Emily’s behavior, and they let OP know that she wasn’t wrong.
The most popular comments clarified this, with the top commenter saying, “Not the a**hole and stealing her thunder, how? She’s having a baby shower with her friends and family. How much overlap of guests could there be? A wedding and celebrating the pregnancy and upcoming birth are two different events. Hopefully, she’ll calm down, apologize, and possibly get invited again. But if she’s going to harp on and on about this mythical thunder stealing, by all means, she can stay uninvited and pretend it never even happened. Sheesh.”
Others suggested a more passive-aggressive approach, with one saying, “Not the a**hole. ‘Emily has an issue with an event one month before her baby shower. I’m sure she’ll be busy planning it and won’t have time to attend. We have a no-children policy, and she’s acting like a child. I respect her wishes to keep away and not ‘steal her thunder’ at my wedding.’”
The Show Goes On
While it was clear that OP would stand her ground and continue the wedding, Redditors kept jumping in to provide emotional and moral support.
One of the most direct comments was, “Not the a**hole. Uninvite anyone siding with Emily. She’s being completely unreasonable.”
Another said, “Not the a**hole. Tell Emily there’s no thunder to steal. She’s having a baby, not curing Ebola.”
What do you think about Emily’s reaction to the wedding planning? Is OP being unreasonable, or is it her stepsister who needs to reevaluate her perspective?
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