OP (Original Poster) suffered multiple miscarriages but is now blessed with her rainbow baby. Sadly, her attention-seeking sister stole the names she originally wanted, so she banned her from her baby shower!
Years of Unanswered Prayers
OP and her husband had been trying to have a baby for several years now. Unfortunately, they’ve been having a tough time conceiving.
First Failed Pregnancy
After a few years of trying, they finally got pregnant and told their family the news. They also told them about the baby names they had picked: Violet for a girl and Carson for a boy.
Unfortunately, the couple lost the baby in the second trimester.
A Season of Nightmares
OP got pregnant two more times but lost both babies in the first trimester. After this, they went through a couple more rounds of IVF.
She wrote, “It was a very difficult and traumatic time for us.”
A New Baby in the Family
In 2022, OP and her husband visited her family for the winter holidays. During that time, her sister announced that she was pregnant.
OP was genuinely happy for her sister, that is, until she announced the names they’d chosen.
Name Thief!
OP’s sister said they’d name the baby Violet if it were a girl, and they’d name the baby Carson if it were a boy. She essentially stole the names OP has always wanted!
Insensitive Replies
She took her sister aside and told her she was happy for her. Still, she was “hurt and confused” that she’d choose their baby names, especially after everything OP and her husband had been through.
Sadly, OP’s sister didn’t understand her pain. She said, “Don’t try to pull the miscarriage card on me; you can’t call dibs on a name.”
Hurtful Comments
Since then, OP has tried to talk to her sister and convince her otherwise. However, each time, she’d tell OP hurtful things like, “You might never have kids; you can’t just keep those names in reserve forever.”
Keeping the Peace
OP was angry and hurt, but she decided to stop bringing it up for the “sake of keeping the peace.” After a few months, OP’s sister told their parents she wouldn’t use either of those names.
However, she wouldn’t tell them what she’d chosen and what she’d name her child.
Getting Backstabbed
Then, a couple of months before this story was posted, OP’s sister gave birth to her daughter.
But to OP’s surprise, she named her Violetta Karsyn, which was still so close to both the names she’d wanted for her own kids. She wrote, “I’m just so hurt.”
Her Good News
Then, the spring before this story was posted, OP got a miracle, and she discovered she was pregnant again. She’s far enough along now that her doctors feel “pretty good” about everything, so she and her husband told their families a month before this story was shared.
A Long-Awaited Baby Shower
Because of OP’s mom’s excitement, she wanted to plan a baby shower for OP and her baby.
OP agreed but told her mom she didn’t want her sister to be there.
Mom’s Accusations
OP’s mom immediately got mad at her for saying so. She told OP that she was being an “a**hole” for not inviting her sister “over a baby name.”
Much More Than That
Despite her mom and others thinking so, for OP, the issue was much more than just baby names.
She wrote, “At this point, it’s not even about the name to me anymore. It’s the malicious comments, the lack of compassion, and the overall pettiness.”
Getting Worse
Before OP ended her story, she explained that she and her sister were on “decent terms” before all of this had transpired. Her sister had always been “competitive” and “attention-seeking,” and she’d always find ways to one-up OP or whatever special occasion she might be celebrating.
Even so, it was “never” to this extent, so OP’s confused and dumbfounded with what was happening. She asked, “Am I the a**hole for not inviting my sister to my baby shower?”
What the Community Has to Say
Redditors think OP’s sister deliberately chose both names because she wanted to spite her. For them, OP’s not wrong in not wanting to invite her sister to her baby shower.
One said, “Not the a**hole. I’m usually on the team ‘You can’t call dibs on a name,’ but the fact that she chose both names you had picked and is completely dismissive of the pain caused by a miscarriage makes it seem like this is more about hurting you than choosing a name she really likes.”
Another Redditor wrote, “I’ve never wanted to punch someone in the face that I’ve never met and don’t even know more than OP’s spiteful sister! Ugh, that’s just being petty but evil. Not the a**hole, OP.”
It’s Incredibly Petty!
Users also agreed with OP, saying what her sister did proved how petty she was.
One user wrote, “Major d*** move. She changed them just enough to find a loophole but not enough that the sister could still use the names she wanted. So incredibly petty.”
“Just similar enough so that OP can’t use either of them. It wasn’t enough just to use Violetta; she had to take the boy’s name, too! That’s not just liking the name. That’s malicious. Not the a**hole,” wrote one woman.
What do you think of OP’s sister? Do you think she deserves OP’s forgiveness?
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