This mom was shocked to discover how her husband treated their baby behind closed doors. What should her plan of action be?
New Parents
Both OP (Original Poster) and her husband are in their 30s, and they welcomed their baby in September of 2022.
They wanted to become parents so badly that her husband was “over the moon” when she told him she was pregnant.
The Best Father?
Since their daughter was born, her husband had just been the perfect father to her.
She wrote, “He’s been super involved. He longs for any opportunity to hold or feed her. He’s the one bathing her in the evening as part of her bedtime routine.”
Baby Monitor
The couple had a baby monitor. So even when she was alone, she was never without supervision.
OP mentioned that they usually turned on the baby monitor once she slept.
Muffled Voices
The day before this story was posted, OP’s husband put their baby to bed and sat beside her crib. All this time, OP was in the living room.
Then, she heard some talking and realized the baby monitor was already on.
Volume Up!
Curious as to what her husband and their daughter were doing, OP turned up the volume.
The volume was originally so low that she couldn’t make out any words. However, she froze at what she heard once she turned it up.
Couldn’t Believe Her Ears
OP was listening to her husband “insulting” and “cursing” their baby.
She wrote, “This sweet man sat next to the crib saying things like, ‘I hate you so much; you have no idea. That’s right, you heard me, you little f***.”
What’s Happening?
OP mentioned that there were other mean and disgusting things her husband said, but she didn’t want the post to be deleted, so she left it at that and didn’t give too much detail.
Still, she’s lost as to why he would do that.
Are You Good?
After some time, her husband left their baby’s room and went to the living room. He came to join OP, and she asked him if he was alright.
Cleverly, she didn’t mention anything about what she had just heard. She wrote, “He was completely normal—the sweetest guy.”
It Happened Again
Because she already knew what was happening, OP paid more attention to her husband. The night she posted this story, she listened to them purposefully, and he did it again!
Horrifying Developments
While listening to her husband talking to their baby, OP was completely confused and frozen in shock. She said, “The way he speaks to our baby is horrifying.”
I Need Help
OP doesn’t know how to handle this situation.
Should she be worried about her daughter’s safety? What should she do?
The Community’s Two Cents
Redditors, like OP, are horrified by what her husband is doing. However, they advised her not to confront him alone for safety purposes.
One said, “In confronting him, do it publicly—go for lunch with him. If your in-laws or parents are supportive, bring them, too—and stay with them for a day or two afterward.”
Is He Depressed?
Some people also pointed out that her husband might be mentally unstable.
This person wrote, “I have seen some people suggest reaching out to a psychologist or lawyer before confronting him. I don’t necessarily agree unless you plan on doing either of those things within the next few days. I wouldn’t sit on this too long, OP. You have no idea if these are just cruel words or if he wishes to harm your baby, and the longer you sit on this, the more chances he has to be around her or alone with her.”
Collect Evidence
People also advised OP to record her husband the next time it happens.
“This is such a terrible situation to be in. I agree with a lot of comments saying that you should record this when it happens again if you’re able,” suggested one user. Another Redditor, who’s also a dad, said, “As a dad of a three-year-old girl, I’m really sorry to hear this. I agree with the advice to record and not confront alone.”
Is It Hacked?
For Redditors, there also might be a slight chance that the baby monitor had been hacked, and an AI tool might be copying her husband’s voice.
One said, “I’m always skeptical when weird s*** like that happens, though. So after reading this, the first thought that came to mind is, can a baby monitor get hacked, and is someone messing with you? Not sure how you’d rule that out, though. I’m aware that she’d know her own husband’s voice. Yet, with AI and voice sampling, tons of people are getting scammed out there, thinking their loved ones just called them in distress and need emergency funds. Same tech, different bulls*** tricks.”
What do you think is happening here? What should OP do?
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