This user was attending her brother’s and his fiancé’s wedding when she heard a baby fussing. She asked the mother to take the baby outside, and now her relatives are extremely upset!
A Joyous Occasion
(Original Poster) attended her brother’s wedding with their extended family. However, her brother and his bride were adamant about the occasion being child-free.
The Only Child
They would allow their 10-year-old cousin to attend because she had always been well-behaved. She was also one of the only children in OP’s extended family.
Family’s New Kid
But all their problems stemmed from one of OP’s cousins who had an infant.
OP shared, “My cousin has an eight-month-old son that she brought with her to the area for the weekend, but she also brought a nanny to watch him while we’re all at the wedding.”
A Tiny Wedding Crasher
No one expected that she would bring her eight-month-old to the wedding ceremony at the church—without informing anyone beforehand! She had decided to just have the nanny watch the kid for the reception.
Everything was fine until the baby started making noises in the middle of the ceremony. He wasn’t screaming or crying, just babbling and wouldn’t stop trying to talk.
Though the baby had never cried, he was being loud and disruptive. It was so bad that even the bride began to look back and glare at the baby, “visibly angry” at the altar.
Enough Is Enough
Since no one else had said anything, OP decided to handle the situation. After about 10 minutes of the baby’s babbling, she asked the baby’s mom to step outside with the baby.
Thankfully, she didn’t make a fuss and just stepped outside.
However, once the ceremony ended, OP realized that half of her family was angry with her. Her aunt said she “made her grandson miss the wedding.”
Never Let Go
OP’s family continued complaining and criticizing her actions, even during the wedding pictures. They believed he had been okay because he hadn’t done anything but mumble, as babies are known to do.
Though OP agreed, it wasn’t really the point. She was only sticking up for her brother and her sister-in-law!
Rally the Clan
Sadly, OP’s family prided themselves on being family-oriented. This meant they looked at OP’s actions as some sort of betrayal—something to be angry about!
A Helping Hand
Everyone made her feel terrible, but she thought her actions were justified because it was her brother’s wedding.
She had seen how angry her sister-in-law had gotten at the interruptions while she was at the altar, and she was happy to have been able to help.
Left Her Out to Dry
In fact, OP’s brother and sister-in-law did acknowledge her actions after everything had transpired. They thanked her briefly and didn’t speak of it again to avoid any more drama with that side of the family.
What Redditors Think
Though many of OP’s family are angry at her, a lot of Redditors came to her defense, with many calling her a hero or the best sister-in-law ever.
One summed up the general mood on Reddit nicely, saying, “Not the a**hole at all, and your cousin f****** sucks. They ruined the audio of the ceremony, ruined the bride’s moment, and had no respect for anyone else. The couple was very clear about what they needed, and your family just decided their wedding wasn’t theirs to control. This is why so many people have child-free weddings. The baby had absolutely no reason to be in the church during the service and should have been whisked out at the first sound. The nanny and the cousin all failed the couple, and your family is being ridiculous, thinking the baby’s experience was ruined but not the couple’s. You were the only person with the guts to fix it. Thank you for doing that.”
Another echoed this point, saying, “Not the a**hole. They requested no kids, and your cousin said ‘f*** you’ and brought her child anyway. And the comment about making ‘My grandson leave the wedding,’ he’s an eight-month-old potato, ma’am. He won’t remember s***. This is about OP’s brother and fiancé. Not the whole family and their wants.”
Villain or Hero?
Redditors made it clear they thought that the OP was not the a**hole and were thankful she had the strength to step up and assist her brother and sister-in-law.
One Redditor even pointed out, “Not the a**hole. If they were ‘family-oriented,’ they would’ve respected the invitation they received for a child-free wedding from family.”
“Not the a**hole; this is why it was ‘child-free’ and that part of the family is way too entitled. You stepped in and acted. The fact the bride and groom are on your side is the only thing that matters,” said another user.
The Real Culprit
Others pinned the blame on OP’s cousin. She’s an adult and should have clearly understood what “child-free” meant.
One woman wrote, “Not the a**hole, but your cousin is. She seemed to think the ‘no kids’ rule is so adults can have fun at the reception when it’s really so there are no distractions during the ceremony. Glad you had the guts to say something.”
Someone else said, “Not the a**hole. It is funny how they claim to be family-orientated and then intentionally ignore their family members’ requests for a child-free wedding. Just because a child isn’t crying doesn’t mean it’s not disruptive. The second he made noise, they should have popped up and taken him out, even if children were welcome at the wedding. We had child-free except under 12 months, and every single parent was prepared with a plan of what to do if their baby needed to be taken away. But clearly, they already broke the rules, so they’re not going to care to have proper etiquette. I’m sure your brother and his new wife appreciate that someone was willing to be the ‘bad guy’ to solve something that was surely upsetting to them.”
What do you think about what OP did? Was she right, and her family was hypocritical, or should she have stayed quiet and not gotten involved?
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This post first appeared as She Kicked Her Cousin and Her Babbling Infant Out of Her Brother’s Child-Free Wedding. The Bride Was Getting “Visibly Angry,” and She Just Wanted Everything to Be Perfect for Them! on Quote Ambition.