This Redditor already had a taste of what it’s like to babysit for her aunt. So, now that she’s asking for another favor, she adamantly refused!
While OP (Original Poster) was finishing high school two years before this story was posted, she had to live with her aunt. Thankfully, her aunt allowed her to do so.
During that time, OP’s aunt had two boys and an infant.
She said, “I raised the baby pretty much for those two years I lived there.”
No Other Choice
When Hurricane Ian came through, OP’s aunt’s home was absolutely destroyed, and she had no other choice but to move back in with her mom.
She added, “I had already finished high school by this point.”
Unfortunately, because of some domestic violence issues at her mom’s home, she had to move into her boyfriend’s house. She just couldn’t live in that bleak household and had to move out!
Then, a couple of months before this story was posted, in May 2023, OP’s aunt asked her if she could babysit her two little kids. OP explained that before she had moved out, her aunt had given birth to two daughters—the first little girl being two years old now and the other turning one.
OP immediately said no because she “didn’t like” it when she was “raising” her aunt’s middle child.
She was only in high school then, and balancing childcare and her studies was already so hard. Right now, she was in college, so she couldn’t imagine how hard it’d be.
Source of Funds
When she babysat her aunt’s middle child while she was in high school, OP didn’t get paid. So, she thought she wouldn’t be compensated this time, too.
So, to help herself get on her feet, she found a job and now has a great schedule. She shared, “For some extra background, I work two jobs, and I get benefits with one of them, and I can take off whenever I want for however long I want.”
Bombarded With Questions
The night OP posted this story, as she was leaving for work, OP’s aunt kept asking her questions about her company.
She’d ask things like, “How much do you make?” and more.
An Innocent Mind
OP answered all her aunt’s questions, thinking she was only asking because she was also going to apply for the same job.
She explained, “I thought she was going to apply with them. She’s been trying to go back to work for a while.”
However, unlike what OP had thought, her aunt ended up trying to get her to babysit for her again. This time, she told OP she’d pay her “more than” what she makes right now.
Again, OP told her aunt no.
She wrote, “I don’t like the conflict of interest. I don’t believe in mixing my work life with my home life. I also know she doesn’t have a good financial situation, and what would happen if she wasn’t able to pay me for a week? That’s my profit I’d be losing out on.”
This time, when OP refused, her aunt was “p*****.” This made OP feel guilty because, as she said, she’s a “people pleaser.”
Even so, she’s still firm on her decision, stating she’d already raised one of her kids before for free, and she believes that’s what would happen again.
OP was not alone in this situation, as there were people who supported her decision. However, she can’t shake off the guilt eating at her.
She wrote, “My mom and in-laws support me saying no, but I feel like an a**hole for denying her.”
The Community’s Two Cents
Users flocked to the comments section to give OP their thoughts on the issue.
One said, “Not the a**hole. No is a complete sentence. Don’t let her bully you into it, as you’re right. She probably would start being short on payments. It would just lead to trouble, plus you can’t really use her as a reference when you start working for real after school. But the bottom line is that you don’t want to, and that’s a perfectly valid reason.”
“Also, if you quit being her nanny—when you eventually do need to go back to work—you’ll have a big gap in your resume instead of those years of experience. Her request is selfish; don’t feel guilty for a moment,” commented another user.
The Worst Kind
Others zoomed in on the fact that OP’s aunt is the parent here. So, she should be the one responsible for her kids—not OP.
A woman wrote, “Not the a**hole. Not your circus, not your monkeys. It definitely seems like she is trying to take advantage of you. You did well standing up to her! Focus on yourself and your happiness.”
Another said, “Not the a**hole. If your aunt actually had any intention to pay you properly, she would have no problems hiring another babysitter, but she doesn’t intend to pay you. Stand your ground. Otherwise, you will find yourself being taken advantage of and out of pocket.”
What would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? Do you have any other advice for her?
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This post first appeared as She Refused to Babysit Her Cousins, Fearing She Won’t Be Properly Compensated Like Before. Now Her Aunt’s Trying to Bribe Her, Attempting to “Take Advantage” of Her! Was She Wrong? on Quote Ambition.