This Redditor was surprised to discover her estranged biological mom left her a life-changing sum of money when she died. Now her dad and stepmom are pressuring her to give them some of the inheritance!
OP (Original Poster) shared that she was never in her biological mom’s and dad’s plans. Her birth mom was a wealthy woman who never planned to marry or have kids.
However, she met OP’s dad at a work event and they saw each other casually. Little did the two know, however, that pills and condoms would fail them.
Planning an Abortion
When OP’s biological mom was pregnant with her, she planned to have her aborted. However, OP’s dad begged her not to do so.
He was already married, but his wife, OP’s stepmom, only had a one percent chance of conceiving a child.
OP’s biological mom accepted her dad’s request “only on the stipulation that she can give me up, no visitation, no parenting, nothing but child support.”
Her dad and stepmom agreed, and they started a ruse that OP was her stepmom’s biological daughter. She said she never met her birth mom, but the problems did not end for her there.
A year after OP was born, her stepmom had a miracle baby—a son. Thankfully, her brother looked to her as his biological sister.
She shared, “My brother has never treated me any different, and I love him dearly.”
Her Parents’ Abandonment
Even though her brother loved her, the same could not be said for her dad and stepmom; they had basically abandoned her.
OP wrote, “I could always tell I was never my parents’ priority. I more or less just kind of existed to be seen, never heard or really acknowledged unless it was something for the ‘family.’”
Her Maternal Grandmother
When OP turned 13, she got to meet her biological maternal grandmother. She had no idea OP existed, and when she found out about her, she petitioned for visitation.
Moving in With Grandma
OP loved being with her grandmother, and at some point, she asked her if she could move in with her. She got permission from her dad and stepmom and said, “My dad and stepmom seemed happy to be rid of me and accepted.”
Her biological mom still didn’t visit her, as she had a rift with OP’s grandma about not wanting to settle down. All this happened six years before this story was posted.
Her Mom’s Passing
OP’s biological mom passed away a month before this story was posted. Surprisingly, she left everything to OP with the situation that she goes to business school and “better” herself.
Her biological mom left her a multimillion-dollar inheritance. It was literally enough to change her life.
OP’s grandma left everything to her as well, but it was a far cry from what she received from her biological mom.
Greedy for the Money
OP’s dad and stepmom somehow found out about the money and are now on her case. She doesn’t know how they heard about it, as her grandmother had already passed away a year prior, and the only person she talked to was her brother—whom she hadn’t informed about the inheritance.
We Need It
OP shared that her dad and stepmom told her they needed the money so they could send her brother to an ivy league school.
However, when she confronted her brother about it, it turned out that he didn’t even want to go to an ivy league school. He wanted to go to art school instead.
I’ll Take Care of You
Their parents didn’t want OP’s brother to attend art school, so they threatened that they wouldn’t pay for his education. When OP found out about that, she told her brother that once she finished studying business and she got a hold of the inheritance, she would cover his expenses for art school.
She shared, “He graciously accepted and told our dad, and it did not go well.”
When her brother told their dad, he threatened to disown him. She said they wanted him to be a doctor or a lawyer so he could have a high salary and “take care of them.”
Her brother and dad had a big argument, and now, her brother is moving in with her. She said, “I’ve been driving him to and from school while still working until I can register for business school.”
OP also made an appointment to meet with her biological mom’s lawyer and trustee, and they reiterated that she would have to study business before the money could “truly be hers.” So, she couldn’t give her dad and stepmom the money right now, even if she wanted to.
Am I Ungrateful?
She doesn’t want to share her inheritance with her dad and stepmom. But OP asked whether she was an a**hole for thinking so.
After all, though she wasn’t treated well, they still raised her for 13 years.
Redditors’ Pieces of Advice
Users advised her to talk to a lawyer and a therapist before she decided what to do with her money.
One wrote, “Not the a**hole. It was left to you, not to them. Do whatever feels right to you, and don’t let them guilt you into it. Now might be a good time to chat with a therapist and get solid support for yourself set up. Family placing financial guilt and pressure on you can be really hard to deal with.”
They Don’t Deserve It
Some Redditors told OP not to feel guilty, as her dad and stepmom didn’t deserve a cent of her inheritance.
“Please don’t share money with people who abandoned you. Block them and be blessed,” said one user. Another wrote, “They have not been good to you from the sounds. If they love their other son so much, they’ll make some sacrifices to figure out how to afford the ivy league school they want him to go to.”
What advice would you give OP? What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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