She Refused to Relinquish Her Childhood Home and Share Her Hefty Inheritance With Her Estranged, Jobless Brother. His Family Is Struggling, but It’s Not Her Problem! Was She Inconsiderate?

Her brother suddenly contacted her asking for help, but what he really wanted was to have her money and house. Who was he to demand things when they hadn’t seen each other in years?

Just Two Orphans

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OP (Original Poster), a 19-year-old woman, and her 32-year-old brother became orphans 10 years prior to posting this story because of an accident their parents were involved in.

Come What May

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Before passing away, OP’s parents were always paranoid and had a plan just in case they died. So, they left a significant amount for each of their children, and OP was supposed to inherit their childhood home.

OP wrote, “They specified that we would have access to our share of the will when we turn 18. Since my brother was already old enough, he took his money and cut all contact with me.”

Reaching Adulthood

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Since then, OP has lived with her grandparents. Then, a year before she shared her story on Reddit, she finally received her share of the inheritance.

Her Master Plan

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Afterward, she decided to move into her house and use the money to fund her education since she was in her first year in the field of medicine, and it was costly.

At that time, she estimated that when she finishes medicine in five years, she would still have a lot of money left to continue with the specialization she wants and still have some left after.

Grandparents’ Help

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Her grandparents knew about her plan and even offered to help with her living expenses so that her inheritance would solely be meant for her studies until she graduated. She accepted, and that’s been their arrangement for a year.

Brother’s Life Updates

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On the other hand, OP’s brother already has a wife and three children aged nine, seven, and four. He spent his inheritance money on a house, his wedding, cars, and expensive things that a person doesn’t necessarily need.

Besides that, OP’s sister-in-law is a stay-at-home mom, so her brother was the breadwinner in their family.

The First in Years

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Upon posting this, OP’s older brother recently lost his job, and his family was struggling and needed a place to stay. So, he contacted OP and asked her to meet up with him.

When she arrived at the restaurant where they were supposed to meet, her brother and sister-in-law were already seated at a table.

Outrageous Demands

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They opened up to OP, sharing how much they were struggling. Then, they suddenly told her that they expected her to give them her house and her share of the inheritance so that they could get back on their feet.

The Nerve!

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OP was incredibly annoyed with her brother’s and his wife’s demands.

She wrote, “We have barely talked or visited each other since the accident, and they were just demanding me to pay for them.”

No, No, No!

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So, she told them she wouldn’t comply with what they asked for. OP then reasoned that she already had a plan for her money and was living in her house.

Dictating Her Actions

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But her brother and sister-in-law wouldn’t give up! They told her she could just move back in with her grandparents and even lashed out at her and called her “selfish.”

On Her Brother’s Side

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After the argument, OP decided to leave. She was so sure about her decision, but everything changed when her cousins questioned her actions.

They said that she’s an “inconsiderate a**hole” and that she should help her family out.

Wavering Thoughts

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So, now, OP is questioning her decision because her brother’s kids are involved, and she doesn’t want to hurt them. Aside from that, they really need her help.

She asked, “I really need to know if I’m in the wrong, so am I the a**hole?”

Redditors’ Opinions

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People on Reddit believe that if OP decides to help her brother, he will waste her money, just like he wasted his. Aside from that, he was really bold to contact her after he left her when their parents died, and she was only a child.

The top commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. He squandered his money. He will squander yours, too, and then you’ll both be broke. Be responsible with your money. At least one of you will be financially solvent.”

Another person replied, saying, “Not to mention the fact that OP’s parents died, the entire world turned upside down at nine years old, and then the brother leaves as well. Now said brother is calling OP a selfish a**hole. Wow. You’re not the a**hole, OP.”

Only by Blood

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Although they are siblings, OP is not obligated to help her brother and his family. He cut contact with her many years ago, and just because he’s struggling doesn’t mean she should give in to his demands whenever he says so.

One Redditor said, “Not the a**hole! Girl, you shouldn’t even be here. He cut contact with you and now expects your help. No way. I am begging you not to hand over a cent. He sounds like the type to be given a step and then suddenly take a mile. You owe him nothing! His family is not your responsibility in the slightest. Do not allow him to guilt you.”

The same person added, “Biologically, you’re related, but they’re not family, and your brother made that decision a long time ago. People love burning bridges, not realizing they’ll regret it.”

What He Should’ve Done

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Others pointed out that this might not have happened to him if only OP’s brother had made different life decisions. But it already has, and that’s not for OP to worry about.

“Not the a**hole. Tell him to figure it out. He’s basically a stranger and an entitled one at best. Maybe he should have spent more time finding a job or should have married a wife who had one or not had three kids or blown his inheritance on depreciating assets. None of that is your problem,” a commenter wrote.

Cheer Up, OP!

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Redditors wished OP all the best and hoped that she would enjoy her school life and living in her house.

Someone said, “Not the a**hole. Now go get those degrees!”

Another one wrote, “Not the a**hole. Enjoy medical school and enjoy your house.”

What do you think of OP’s story? Do you have any opinions on her brother?

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