This Redditor’s relationship with her mom has never been smooth sailing, so she didn’t expect to get the bulk of her estate when she died. Now her half-sister’s pressuring her into giving her more money!
A Not-So-Smooth-Sailing Relationship
OP (Original Poster) is a 20-year-old who never had a good relationship with her mom, Stacy. Her mom and dad were married for just two years before they divorced, then her mom went on to marry three more guys after him.
Her Family Life
On the flip side, OP’s dad married a “lovely woman,” Kaylee, and she was the one who raised OP. Unfortunately, OP’s dad passed away when she was 16.
Because she was still a minor, she had to move back and live with her mom.
A New Family
OP wasn’t her mom’s only child. She had Jenna with her third husband, Jason, and she’s OP’s half-sister.
Unfortunately, Stacy and Jason’s marriage didn’t last either. Their divorce was “messy,” especially since Jason cheated on her, and she posted a “revenge s** tape of her and Jason.”
A Daughter’s Resentment
Jason was then awarded custody of Jenna, and Jenna grew up resenting Stacy.
OP wrote, “Jenna even called her a s*** and a w**** to her face multiple times. She never spoke to our mom unless it was absolutely necessary.”
Mom’s Unacceptable Move
Though OP didn’t call her mom names, she never got along with her either. However, the last straw was when OP’s mom turned down her “full-ride scholarship to an Ivy League” without her knowledge.
She explained, “I just say it’s a full-ride scholarship, so it doesn’t sound so complicated, but it wasn’t from the college itself. It was a combination of a scholarship program from my town that covered a good chunk of the tuition and a grant that covered almost the rest of it. I would’ve only had to pay for housing.”
OP explained that the only excuse her mom had for this was that she hoped that OP would go to her alma mater.
She wrote, “I was so mad at her and still am, so I left and never visited.”
However, sadly, Stacy passed away a month before this story was posted. She got hit by a car, so her death was “pretty sudden.”
She added, “When I heard she died, I expected a funeral within a week, but her next of kin—fourth husband—wanted to wait until the will was read.”
A Family Congregation
Because of this, OP, Jenna, and all of OP’s living ex-husbands showed up. However, none of them knew what to expect!
Stacy was pretty well off since she was a doctor, but none of them knew “quite how much money” she had.
Specifics of the Will
Stacy left some money to each of her living ex-husbands. Because OP’s dad is already dead, she left some for Kaylee on his behalf.
Jenna then received a one-bedroom and one-bathroom apartment and a college fund. OP explained, “The fund could only be used for college, and the apartment could only be used or sold if she graduated college.”
Her Hefty Share
Surprisingly, though, OP was left with most of Stacy’s assets.
She wrote, “To me, she left the bulk of her funds, which totaled to over a million dollars after taxes.”
Disliking Stacy’s Plans
To put it simply, Jenna was “p*****.” After all, she had no plans of going to college.
What’s more, she was expecting more money from her mom!
Chaotic Family Gatherings
Jenna didn’t talk to OP until the wake. When she did, she was “rude” and “abrasive.”
Then, at the funeral, OP asked her half-sister what was wrong, and Jenna “blew up” at her. She told OP she didn’t even talk to their mom for two years, so she didn’t deserve the money!
At some point, Jenna’s dad approached OP and told her to split the inheritance with his daughter. He reiterated that OP didn’t talk or visit Stacy in two years.
Then, he started berating OP for “ruining” the funeral by “provoking” Jenna.
No One Deserves It!
OP’s not keen on giving Jenna a share of her inheritance. However, she felt terrible because, while she felt like Jenna didn’t deserve it, she believed she didn’t earn the money either.
She asked, “Am I the a**hole for ruining the funeral and not splitting the inheritance with Jenna?”
For users, OP should stop thinking about who deserves the will and who doesn’t. What matters is that she uses the money she now has wisely.
A woman advised, “Not the a**hole. Forget about what other people say. A will is a will. She left you a million dollars. Period. You don’t owe your half-sister anything since she didn’t have a great relationship with your mother either! She already has funds for college, so what more could she ask for? Just save the money and use it wisely.”
Another commented, “Not the a**hole. No one ‘deserves’ that money. The money was your mom’s property, and it was up to her to decide how it should be arranged after her death. She decided. Your lack of visiting was a factor for your mom to consider alongside other factors, which she did. It has been decided, and now the money is yours. You owe nothing to your half-sister and even less to her dad. Her dad’s behavior is especially inappropriate.”
Entitled and Greedy
People are also calling Jenna out for how badly she acted. For the community, she should be grateful for what she received!
A woman shared, “Most definitely not the a**hole. You didn’t ruin anything; Jenna threw a hissy fit over money and then blamed you for her bad behavior. I grew up with a sibling whose angry outbursts were always my fault for ‘triggering him.’ That’s manipulation at best and abuse at worst. Don’t tolerate it; block her and direct them to relay any other communications via your lawyer. Jenna can go to college and enjoy the house. That’s an amazing gift, and to be so dismissive about it because it comes with strings is incredibly entitled. Don’t even entertain her bulls***.”
“Not the a**hole—regardless of your relationship. I’m sorry to hear about your mother. You didn’t ruin the funeral; their greed did. Your mom at any time could have updated the will. She didn’t because that’s how she wanted it. It was her money, and she could choose to do with it however she wanted. If they try to guilt trip you by saying, ‘Yeah, but—,’ remind them that at any time, your mom could have changed the will to reflect what they are saying. There is a reason she didn’t. She didn’t want to. All of the best, OP, and again, my condolences.”
What should OP do now? Do you think she should keep the money to herself?
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This post first appeared as She Refused to Share the $1,000,000 Inheritance She Received From Her Estranged Mom With Her Equally-Estranged Half-Sister. They Started Criticizing Her, but Her Sister’s Just a “Greedy, Entitled” Jerk! on Quote Ambition.