This Redditor dreams of traveling the world, and now that she has the money for it, she believes it is time. But her kids are holding her back, asking her to pay off their debts!
OP (Original Poster) got pregnant with her first child right out of high school. However, unlike others who experienced the same thing, she was lucky that the child’s dad didn’t run off.
Instead, he wanted to be in their child’s life.
Making Things Work
So, OP’s partner went to college to finish his studies while she stayed and worked an office job.
She shared, “We continued to date throughout the whole thing and got married when he graduated from college.”
Making Ends Meet
Though it was not without struggle, they combined their incomes. Then, after a while, OP could say they lived a “decent” life in a middle-class household.
She also has two more kids with her now-husband.
Their three kids are now all adults. The eldest was 26, and the younger ones were 22 and 21.
The younger two were still in college, while the eldest had already graduated. OP mentioned that her kids had a college fund of around $50,000.
When OP’s dad died due to the pandemic, she became instantly richer. Additionally, it was a tradition in their family that inheritance is passed down to kids, not grandchildren.
The will stated that OP was to receive “a lot of money and property.” She said that if she sold the properties, she would have enough to retire right now.
What to Do Next
OP talked to her husband, and they decided to sell the properties. With the combined money, they would put three-fourths into their retirement fund.
Then, they planned on using the rest to explore the world!
Finally Fulfilling Her Dreams
OP has never left the country before, and her dream has always been to see the world. She mentioned, “We are making plans to keep working until 2023 and then go explore the world for a whole year.”
We Want You to Help Us!
Unfortunately, when OP and her husband discussed their plans with their kids, no one cheered for them. Instead, they were upset because their mom and dad weren’t using the money to pay for their full college tuition and debts.
OP’s kids had debts since the $50,000 college fund reserved for them didn’t cover everything. Because of this, they each had to take out loans.
Volatile Family Dynamics
This issue caused an argument in the family. However, OP put her foot down and told them no.
She said she was finally going to get to do what she had always wanted to do. OP told them she had “sacrificed enough” and would not be giving up on her dreams again.
Her husband supported her decision. She said, “My kids aren’t happy, but my husband and I are.”
However, OP still wanted to share her story to gain a new perspective on the issue.
Redditors told OP that she did enough for her kids and it was high time she prioritized herself.
A top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. What? No! You did your job as a parent and gave them a chunk of change for college. They have zero right to your inheritance.” Another commented, “That is far more money than my parents gave me for college, and I’m not b****ing when they do things for fun. OPs kids are entitled!”
It’s Your Money, and It’s Your Choice, Too!
Users also advised OP to follow her dreams, no matter what!
“Not the a**hole. Your money, your life, your choice. Your kids are not entitled to money from you just because you are their mother. You already did more than some parents I’ve seen and gave them each a chunk of cash to help with college. They can whine and moan all they want; don’t let them change your mind,” advised one Redditor.
They’re Lucky Enough
People also noted how OP’s kids were already so lucky compared to thousands of others to get a $50,000 college fund. After all, most people don’t get anything.
One said, “My parents gave me zero money for college. Sounds like the kids need a reality check.” Another wrote, “My parents weren’t even providing a roof over my head at 16 years old, let alone handing me tens of thousands for education.”
What do you think of how OP’s kids are acting? What would you advise her to do?
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