After a week in the hospital, she and her daughter came home, discovering that her nieces used her child’s room and toys. But her sister’s to blame for it because that wasn’t supposed to happen!
Too Early, Too Young
OP (Original Poster) is a single mother to her six-year-old daughter Emi, her only child. Emi has been sick since she was 2, and if OP’s going to be honest, it’s possible for Emi not to make it until she’s 10.
Compensating in His Own Way
When she got sick, Emi’s dad left her and didn’t want to be involved. However, he sends a little over double the required child support so OP can spoil Emi and be available for her.
No Time for Academics
For a week, Emi is at the hospital, and the next, she’s at home. Due to this, she can’t attend school, and the last time she went was two years prior.
Back then, she could do preschool for three hours per day and two days a week, and they still wore masks. Now, the only time Emi’s around children is when she’s in the hospital.
Non-negotiable for Emi
According to OP, Emi hates sharing her toys, so she tries not to make her do it. Usually, when they see her daughter’s cousins, OP will buy something like a big pack of chalk and a gallon of bubbles and tell Emi that it’s meant for everyone, and that’s the only time she’ll share.
Taking Them In
In the meantime, OP’s sister and her five and seven-year-old daughters are living with them due to an issue with her sibling’s stepson, who can’t be around the girls at the moment.
Here, There, Everywhere!
Their living arrangement has been difficult for everyone. At first, OP switched rooms with Emi, putting all three girls in the master’s bedroom, but Emi hated sharing the same space.
Emi said that her cousins were constantly touching her things, so they switched back, and OP put the two girls in the spare room with their mother.
OP’s sister then complained that the room was too “crowded,” so she stayed on a cot in OP’s office. However, it turned out to be uncomfortable as well, so she wanted the three girls to share one room again.
OP noted, “My sister does not pay any rent.”
Your Help Is Not Needed
OP’s sister’s husband sends $500 every month to help pay for their groceries, and she also helps with Emi while OP’s working. But OP’s job is quite flexible, so she’s able to watch Emi while she works.
She wrote, “They’ve also been complaining that I take Emi on day or weekend trips without them.”
A Mess and in Distress
Then, Emi had spent a week in the hospital, and they came home on a Saturday. When they arrived, OP found that her nieces’ beds had been moved into her daughter’s room, and her toys were scattered everywhere.
Why Can’t You Understand?
So, OP confronted her sister, and she reasoned that Emi was not using her room or her toys half the time and that “little girls should be sharing with each other.”
OP then told her that Emi had already clarified that she didn’t want to share and that her room must be the way they left it by the end of the day.
Emi Comes First
With that, OP’s sister said she was being “unfair,” and that’s when OP snapped at her, saying she’ll be prioritizing her child over her “ungrateful” sister and her kids.
OP added, “If she can’t get over my kid not sharing, she needs to find somewhere else to live.”
Eventually, they fixed Emi’s room but haven’t talked to OP and her daughter since then.
She wrote, “At this point, I’m thinking about kicking them out anyways. Am I the a**hole for telling her she needs to get over my kid not sharing or move out?”
The Community’s Thoughts
Redditors were appalled by OP’s sister’s behavior, given that she’s living in OP’s house without pay. People suggested OP kick her and her kids out.
The top commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. They’re not talking to you? Really, in your house that they’re living in rent-free? The cheek. Kick them out. Also, I’m very sorry that your daughter is so unwell.”
Never Let It Get Taken Away
It’s bad enough that Emi’s ill and can’t do many things, and she can only control so much. Is it so hard to comply with an ill little girl’s wants and preferences?
A Redditor said, “Not the a**hole. If your daughter is chronically ill and in and out of hospital, she has very little bodily autonomy or control. One of the few ways she can assert control is over her belongings and her room. Don’t let someone take that from her.”
The same person suggested, “Set out clear rules that need to be followed for your sister to stay in your home. Do it in writing, have her read and sign each paragraph, and lay out the consequences for non-compliance. Get a lock for Emi’s door with a key code so that keys aren’t an issue, but they can’t get in when you and Emi aren’t home. If she doesn’t follow the rules of the house, she can leave.”
A Mother’s Nature
One Redditor said that OP and her sister are both mothers, and the two of them just want the best and are trying to protect their own children.
A commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. I’m sure I am going to be downvoted to oblivion on this one. Both of you are prioritizing your own kids in a hard time. Your daughter is sick—very sorry you are both going through this—but it doesn’t seem that your sister is in a great place either. The kids are being moved around, and both of you are trying to make the best situation of what’s going on. Your nieces aren’t in a good place either. It must not be easy to know there is a room full of toys that they can’t touch for days on end. You are trying to make it as easy as possible for Emi. This is temporary, and I think you and your sister need to talk about what’s the best course of action for the short remainder.”
What can you say about this story? Was OP’s sister way out of hand?
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This post first appeared as She Threatened to Kick Her Sister Out After She Selfishly Took Over Her Sick Six-Year-Old’s Room. Her “Ungrateful” Sibling Says It’s “Unfair,” but She’ll Always Prioritize Her Daughter Over Everyone! on Quote Ambition.