This man would go to any lengths to protect his fiancé, including uninviting his entitled and insensitive sister from his wedding after she deliberately hurt his fiancé’s feelings.
Scars From Her Past
OP’s (Original Poster) fiancé has a noticeable, permanent scar from an accident that caused her mother to pass away. She had had a long recovery, and it had been seven years since it happened.
The scar is on her collarbone, which goes down her chest but isn’t necessarily showing unless she wears scoop neck or square neck tops.
All the Good Things About Her
OP is happy that his fiancé is more confident and at peace with herself. However, she still covers up the scar using makeup at times.
Even so, OP absolutely adores her. He said, “She’s pretty, smart, ambitious, and the list goes on.”
She’s Loved by His Family
Aside from OP, his family also loved his fiancé dearly.
He shared, “My family loves her. How can they not? She’s a member of the family. My mom makes sure she takes part in every family function and things like shopping and decorating other things.”
His Sister’s Unsolicited Opinions
However, unlike the rest of the family, OP’s sister seemed to have an issue with his fiancé’s scar. She’d made comments about her scar several times, and OP had asked her to stop doing so.
He said, “I’ve called her out on her behavior several times to get her to stop because she was hurting me before my fiancè with her backhanded and insensitive comments.”
Too Forgiving
OP also told his fiancé that she could cut her future sister-in-law out and “not deal with her bulls***,” but his fiancé didn’t want to.
He said she had always been forgiving and respectful of his entire family.
Where Everything Started
He shared that their wedding was in February, so his fiancé went shopping for a wedding dress. This is where the issue started.
Getting a Glimpse
OP’s fiancé showed her future sister-in-law her dress. He said he didn’t see it but knew it had spaghetti straps since his fiancé liked those kinds of dresses.
She Had a Lot to Say
When OP’s sister saw the dress, she “went nuts” and started criticizing his fiancé’s dress choice.
OP shared, “She said that she should’ve gotten a high neck or a jewel wedding dress to cover up the scar. She argued with my fiancè about it.”
Confrontation Between Siblings
Immediately after finding out about the issue, OP went to his family’s house to confront his sister. He yelled at her after she told him his fiancé needed to return the dress to get a “proper one” so guests “won’t focus on her burn scar and use it as the topic of conversation and gossip.”
Uninviting His Sister
OP ended the argument by telling his sister she wasn’t invited to the wedding anymore.
He wrote, “She isn’t welcome to my wedding with this entitled attitude of hers and her insensitivity and disrespect.”
His Family’s Pleas
Exactly an hour after OP left, his mom and dad called and berated him. They said his sister was crying after he had uninvited her; they also told him he “had no right” to uninvite his sister.
His parents told him his sister “was just trying to help out and give advice and avoid any ‘unnecessary’ drama at the wedding.”
You’re Not Helping, Mom
Then, his mom suggested that OP’s fiancé keep the dress, but she must wear a shawl as a “neutral solution” or a compromise.
This didn’t make things any better, and OP stopped responding to his mom’s calls and texts after the suggestion was made.
We Care About Our Reputation
The rest of OP’s family was upset that he had banned his sister. They wanted him to invite her again because “it will make the family look bad in front of outsiders and guests.”
OP shared, “My family says what I did was disrespectful to the whole family and its reputation, and I needed to fix it.”
The Community’s Take on the Matter
Redditors were angered by the fact that OP’s family thought they could dictate what the bride should wear on her wedding day.
A great comment was, “Not the a**hole. Uninvite anyone who insults your fiancé, in my opinion.” Another exclaimed, “Also, I physically cannot believe that she had the nerve to suggest a shawl as a compromise. Like, a compromise? As if the mother is concerned that her daughter is genuinely so upset over having to see the fiancé’s scar that they need to find a solution to the problem. It’s mind-blowing.”
Don’t Bother With Them
Like the top commenter, other Redditors told OP that he wasn’t wrong to do what he did, and others who felt the same as his sister should be uninvited, too!
One said, “Mom sucks in a big way, too. OP, you are very much not the a**hole. There is a simple solution for anyone who is worried that catching a glimpse of your fiancé’s scar will ruin their enjoyment of your wedding—they can stay the f*** home.”
What would you tell OP’s sister and mom? How would you comfort OP and his fiancé?
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This post first appeared as He Banned His Insensitive Sister From His Big Day After She Forced His Fiancé to Wear a “Proper” Wedding Dress That Covered Her Scar. Was He Overreacting? on Quote Ambition.
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