His dream of living free and alone was crushed when his brother and sister-in-law moved in with him. Now they’re having a baby, and it’s time they move out before they take over his place!
OP (Original Poster), a 27-year-old man, has dreamed of being a homeowner for as long as he can remember. When he was 18, he started saving for a house.
Dream Finally Fulfilled
Three years prior, he bought a three-bedroom and two-bathroom house, and while it’s not the best, OP is beyond blessed to own one.
He wrote, “Homeownership is everything I always hoped it would be.”
High on Liberty
He could come home and have everything exactly where he left it. He could also play video games all day without anyone nagging him.
OP said, “It feels like I am free and in control of my own life, which is all I’ve always ever wanted.”
The Cheapskate Couple
A year before OP shared his story, his 36-year-old brother and 30-year-old sister-in-law asked to move in with him. Although they could afford rent, they were unwilling to pay $2,000 monthly for an apartment.
Barely Said Yes
Even though OP didn’t want them under the same roof as him, he reluctantly agreed because he couldn’t tell his brother he couldn’t live with him when he had two empty rooms available. OP also knew his sibling would take him in if the tables were turned.
The Lucky One
Aside from that, OP was fortunate enough to have a family to live with back when he was saving to buy his own house.
Just a Little Extra
Although OP doesn’t charge his brother and sister-in-law rent or ask for anything, they would still give him around $400 a month to help.
Bun in the Oven
OP’s brother and his wife have been trying to have a child for so long, and now, they have finally succeeded and are expecting to have the child born in a few months. OP is happy for them but doesn’t want them to live with him.
Time to Take Back What’s Mine
He didn’t buy his house for them; he bought it for himself, and he certainly did not sign up to have his living room filled with baby toys and have his gaming room turned into a child’s bedroom. He also doesn’t want his fridge to be full of milk for a kid that isn’t even his.
How Dare You Kick Us Out?
On the day he shared his story on Reddit, OP asked his brother and sister-in-law to move out before their child came. Both of them were incredibly offended and hurt by what OP told them.
OP added, “My family also seems to think it is wrong of me to ask them to find their own place when they are expecting a child.”
Am I the Problem?
Now, OP wonders if he might be the “a**hole” for asking his brother and his pregnant sister-in-law to move out of his home.
The Community’s Perspective
OP has every right to feel uncomfortable and ask his brother to move out of his home, especially now that a baby is on its way, which can change everything.
The top commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. Your home is your sanctuary. You have been generous to let them live with you and save money for their own place. A baby completely changes everything in the house. They are loud. Things will have to be baby-proof eventually. Parents will tell you to be quiet and not wake the baby, etc. You could have given them a warning that if they had a baby, they would have to move out. But it is your home, and you have every right to control what happens in your home.”
The same Redditor added, “It somewhat sounds like they are planning to spend years living with you. I wouldn’t want a baby invading my space. It is kind of disrespectful of them just to assume you would be okay with them having a baby. Plus, they shouldn’t have been trying to have a baby when they don’t have their own roof over their heads. Plus, if people are upset with you asking them to leave, then those people should house the soon-to-be family of three.”
From the Vault
People think OP’s brother and sister-in-law have saved enough for their own place after living with him for so long. They also think that since OP’s family is already getting involved, they should offer to take his brother and sister-in-law in.
A Redditor commented, “Not the a**hole. They’ve had the ability to save $1,600 per month since you let them move in, so they should be in a good place to secure their own place. This is your home, not theirs. If your family is so upset, let them open their doors.”
Someone else wrote, “Not the a**hole. You have been more than generous to them, and they should have had time to build up savings. Did they really think this arrangement would be permanent? ‘My family also seems to think it is wrong of me to ask them to find their own place when they are expecting a child.’ Guess what? Mature people usually have housing arranged before starting a family.”
Delay and Delay and Delay
Redditors believe that OP should have just told his brother and sister-in-law the truth from the very first time instead of putting it off for so long.
One person said, “Everyone sucks here. You should have told them as soon as you knew they were trying to conceive. They should not expect to just stay with you forever. What was their plan?”
Another one agreed, saying, “OP is less at fault than his brother. But this was a 100% predictable result on both sides. Both OP and his brother had time to talk about what should happen if they actually got pregnant but waited until after his sister-in-law conceives to have the conversation. I assume they avoided it because it would be an uncomfortable conversation. Well, congratulations, you’ve put it off and have an even more uncomfortable conversation and reality to deal with. The only way I can think OP shares no blame whatsoever is if his brother or sister-in-law withheld the information that they were trying to conceive.”
What can you say about the matter? Was OP wrong for kicking his brother and sister-in-law out while they were expecting a child?
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