He was surprised to discover that he was his grandfather’s sole inheritor. But now he’s just conflicted about whether he should give anything to his aunt, who’s been rude since knowing she wasn’t getting anything!
In Loving Memory
OP (Original Poster) is a 22-year-old man whose grandfather passed away about a month before he shared his story on Reddit. He’s an only child, and his mother has a 40-year-old sister named Alicia, who has no children.
Hidden Agenda
When OP’s grandpa sold his house to move into a retirement home two years prior, he informed no one that he updated his will. He changed it from dividing the inheritance between OP’s mom and aunt to OP being the sole benefactor.
A Hand-Me-Down Process
Everything was unexpected, as OP never really thought about inheriting from his grandfather at all. He only assumed it would be divided between his children and maybe, hopefully, in the future, OP would inherit from his parents.
Enough to Be Comfortable
The inheritance is not the kind of money that would allow OP to live his life without working, but it’s a great advantage that would let him buy a home without a mortgage if he chooses to. He also wouldn’t have to worry so much about finances.
For Grandpa by Grandpa
OP’s grandfather’s funeral was pre-paid for by himself, but there were a few legal matters that they needed to sort out, which OP’s mother and aunt paid for. OP did repay them out of his inheritance.
Giving Back
Aside from that, OP also paid off his mom’s car, which she bought a year ago, and gave his parents a small amount of money as well.
He wrote, “They’ve always been supportive of me and paid for my college, so I figured it’s the least I could do.”
Well-Deserved Treat
For the past several years, OP’s parents have been stressed, so he wanted to ease some of that and give them the opportunity to go on a nice vacation.
OP added, “I look at this more as sharing my good fortune versus doling out my grandpa’s money.”
Partiality and Biases
However, Alicia thinks OP should also give her some money. For her, the entire thing is unfair, saying she’s being “discriminated against” for not giving her father grandkids.
To the One Who Needed It
But OP doesn’t think that’s true, as his mom didn’t inherit anything either. Rather, he believes his grandfather figured his adult children were fine and stable and just wanted to give OP a leg up.
Another Side to Consider
Because Alicia is coming off as completely rude and entitled, OP doesn’t really want to give her anything. But his dad assured him that his aunt was just grieving and wanted him to be “graceful” about it.
OP added, “He doesn’t necessarily think I should have to give her anything but thinks it might be a nice olive branch to give her something.”
Which Would Tip the Scale?
Honestly, OP has been considering it, but some of the rude things Alicia said before are making him really not want to. Plus, the money was left to him, so it feels as though he shouldn’t have to.
OP asked, “Am I the a**hole if I stick to my guns and not, or should I be giving her part of it?”
The Community’s Take on the Matter
People advised OP to make wise decisions from now on about his inheritance and keep the money safe and sound. He should give himself some time to figure out his plans.
A Redditor wrote, “You are making big decisions fast. I’m surprised you already have access to the estate in this short a time. Slow everything down. Tell your aunt that for now, you are going to keep the money out of respect for your grandfather. That the best thing she and everyone else can do is just back off. Then put the money where it is safe and give yourself time to know what you want to do. Maybe in the end, you’ll sincerely want to gift her something for all the right reasons, not because you are being guilted into it. Maybe you won’t. Time is your friend now.”
“Not the a**hole. Grandpa left you that money, not them. Do what you want with it. I strongly suggest you stop giving handouts and open a retirement or investment account with an investment firm,” someone else suggested.
There’s an Answer to Every Why
Some pointed out that if OP’s grandfather wanted Alicia to have the inheritance, he wouldn’t have changed his will. People believe that OP’s grandpa did this for a reason.
A commenter wrote, “Not the a**hole. Your aunt is laying a guilt trip on you. Ignore it. The inheritance is yours to do with as you please. Grandpa knew what kind of person she was and acted accordingly; respect his wishes.”
Another person said, “Not the a**hole. Your money, your choice. If he wanted her to have something, he would have left her something. If anything, there’s probably a reason he didn’t. You don’t owe her anything, so don’t give in.”
Completely Understandable
Although Redditors understood what everyone in the story was going through and how they felt, they still think OP has every right to do what he pleases with his inheritance.
A Redditor commented, “Not the a**hole. It’s your money to use as you see fit. You covered all costs associated with the funeral. Anything else is entirely up to you. Your aunt is allowed to feel how she feels but has absolutely no reason to demand anything of you.”
Someone else wrote, “Not the a**hole. It was given to you. You gave some to your mom. She is feeling very left out and cheated. I totally understand everyone’s emotions in this story.”
What do you think OP should do? Should he give some money to his aunt or not?
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This post first appeared as He Refused to Share the Inheritance He Received From His Grandfather With His Aunt. But Now She Says It’s Wholly “Unfair” That She’s Being “Discriminated” Against Just Because She’s Child-Free! on Quote Ambition.
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