This spoiled bridezilla thinks it’s only right that her brother helps her pay for her wedding. He already offered to gift her $6,500, but it’s not enough for her!
OP is a 23-year-old who has a 4-year-old daughter. She will soon get married to her fiancé, who’s 27.
In her post, she shared that she couldn’t finish university because she had to raise her daughter.
Even so, she’s making an effort to finish her degree. She was currently studying history online and planned to become a history teacher.
Though it’s hard to balance studying and raising her child, having a supportive fiancé and family really helped.
She wrote, “Since my fiancé works in a research lab, we have enough money to live comfortably, but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years.”
On the flip side, OP’s older brother is a doctor and is married to a doctor, too. She said, “To say they are well off would be an understatement.”
To top it all off, OP’s brother never experienced the struggles of raising a child because he and his wife decided not to have any kids.
I Know They’re Rich!
OP doesn’t have an issue with her brother’s choice of being child-free. However, it was because of this that she knew for a fact that he had been able to save “a lot of money.”
A Sister’s Request
OP asked her brother if he could help her pay for her wedding. She noted that having him contribute to their expenses would help “make it a magical moment” for OP.
Wanting to help his sister, OP’s brother offered to gift her $6,500.
Her brother’s offer surprised OP, but not in the way you would think! It was anything but positive.
She wrote, “I might be wrong here, but surely, as a hospital doctor, my brother should be able to contribute more to my wedding. I told him that I’d really appreciate it if he could give me $26,000 for my wedding since it would really mean a lot, but he refused.”
A Selfish Move
OP’s annoyed with her brother’s refusal. She told him that him not giving her the money she asked for was “selfish.”
She even told him that if he didn’t contribute more, he wouldn’t be able to attend her wedding!
An Argument Between Siblings
This caused an argument to blow up between the two, and OP hasn’t returned her brother’s calls since.
She said, “The rest of my family is helping to contribute to my wedding, which makes his refusal even worse.”
Their Dad’s Thoughts
Even so, OP’s dad thinks OP is “too harsh” on her brother. He said that OP not inviting him to her wedding would be “upsetting” for him.
Now, OP asks, “Am I missing something here? Am I the a**hole?”
The Community’s Pieces of Advice
People can’t believe how entitled OP is acting.
A top commenter wrote, “You’re the a**hole. He offered you money, and he didn’t have to. You’re entitled!” Another commented, “Exactly. In what world would OP not be the a**hole? I struggle to take this one seriously and am leaning toward this being a troll post. Surely no one could be that unaware? A wedding is the bride and groom’s problem, not their family’s. OP is not an a**hole for asking for help, but for kicking up a tantrum when they weren’t happy with the answer.”
Why Be Extravagant?
Some users also questioned a lot of couples’ choices to get married with a lavish ceremony even when they couldn’t afford one.
“I would say troll, but I had a friend who got married who had basically no money, and they asked their friends and family to pay for all of it, including soliciting money for the cake, flowers, the groom’s suit, and money for a new apartment. And then they still complained that people didn’t give them enough when they spent literally no money on anyone other than themselves,” shared one Redditor.
Another person wrote, “How do people always spend this much and think it’s normal? Especially when they can’t afford it? So many people in this sub pay, like, $50,000 plus for a wedding. It honestly does not need to cost that much.”
Even when OP thinks her brother is the selfish one, in reality, she’s the one who should rethink things.
“It doesn’t matter how much her brother earns. OP is an a**hole for thinking she has a right to any of it. What gall to call him selfish,” wrote one user. Another agreed, saying, “With you all the way here. Their earnings have zero to do with this entitled brat’s demand for their money. To be honest, $6,500 was already a great offer!”
I Hope You’re Joking
Some users called OP out for seemingly blaming her child.
One woman wrote, “This has got to be a troll. I love that she says it wasn’t her ‘fault’ she couldn’t go to college in the traditional way. Uh, that sounds like she’s implying it’s her kid’s fault that she got pregnant. OP, I hope this is a joke, as you’ve got to be the single most ungrateful person if it’s not. You are unequivocally the a**hole.”
What would you tell OP? Do you think there’s any sense in what she’s asking for?
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This post first appeared as She Expected Her Well-Earning Brother to Fork Out $26,000 for Her Wedding. He Offered $6,500 and Refused to Give Her More. She’s Livid and Won’t Invite Him to Her Wedding! on Quote Ambition.