This woman’s fiancé claimed he had a right to OP’s (Original Poster) inheritance. However, she believed otherwise and refused his request. Was she right to do so?
OP is a 32-year-old who recently lost her mom. With her passing, OP inherited her assets.
However, since she was her only parent, for OP, it was “beyond devastating.”
A Small Fortune
For OP, the money she received could “barely be called an inheritance” because her mom and her maternal family didn’t have much, to begin with. Even so, it was still better than nothing.
You Deserve It!
After hearing about her inheritance, OP’s fiancé immediately said she deserved it. He also told her she had the right to do whatever she wanted with the money.
However, at the same time, her fiancé spread the word about the inheritance she got.
OP mentioned that he had told his whole family about it, and suddenly, his brother and his wife pulled him aside for a private conversation.
After OP’s fiancé’s conversation with his brother and his wife, he talked about how he “wanted” or “needed” a nephew or a niece. He then started hinting about his brother’s wife’s fertility issues.
Then, her fiancé blatantly asked her to pay for his brother and his wife’s IVF treatment using her inheritance. OP was taken aback, but after recovering from the shock, she declined.
A Selfish Decision
Her fiancé then got mad, accusing OP of being “selfish” because they had no issues with fertility, and OP had “nothing to lose” if she gave them money.
He even referred to her inheritance as “easy money” that she didn’t work for!
A Couple’s Argument
This infuriated OP so much that she lashed out at her fiancé. She told him to “stop bothering and guilting her” about it.
Her Final Decision
OP was adamant about not using her inheritance for her soon-to-be in-laws’ IVF. However, her fiancé got “even more agitated.”
What Is He Trying to Do?
OP noted that her fiancè had started “shaming” her for treating him as if he were “not her future husband” who “has a say or right” to her inheritance.
He also accused OP of not giving a “single crap” about his family issues.
Was I Wrong?
Now, OP is at a loss for what to think.
She said, “I might be the a**hole for saying no to his request and not considering it. He’s upset with me and thinks I’m being selfish, choosing money over family.”
What the Community Has to Say
Redditors want OP to open her eyes to her fiancé’s true colors.
A top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. And please, please do not marry this man. He’s showing you his true colors. Get away now.” Another agreed and said, “I think the inheritance was another blessing from your mother, showing you that this man is not meant to be your husband. Maybe take a mini vacation by yourself, away from the drama. Who knows, you may actually find your soulmate there. Not the a**hole.”
Serious Red Flags
People also pointed out that her fiancé had so many red flags.
This woman wrote, “I agree. Not the a**hole! This is a serious red flag moment!” Another commented, “Not even married yet, and ordering her around.”
A Blessing in Disguise
Though OP was heartbroken by her mom’s death, people said it might be a blessing in disguise.
This person wrote, “Your mother gave you more than you realized. Not the a**hole. Please reconsider the engagement, as I get the feeling he’ll just take the money once married.” Another user said, “I couldn’t imagine making a request like this from my family, let alone a future in-law. The level of entitlement here is beyond the pale. This, ‘I want it, you have the money for it; therefore, you need to pay for it attitude’ confounds me.”
What do you think about what OP’s going through? Should she start thinking about breaking up with her fiancé?
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This post first appeared as She Refused to Pay For Her Fiancé’s Brother’s Wife’s IVF Using Her Inheritance. Now Her Fiancé’s Furious and Calls Her Selfish for Not Sharing Her “Easy Money!” on Quote Ambition.