This Redditor is tired of supporting her older sister and her family. Now that she got pregnant by a new guy she just met, she’s had enough and will not give her a cent more!
OP and Her Irresponsible Sister
OP (Original Poster) is a 22-year-old with a 25-year-old sister, Mia, who had just given birth to her 7-month-old son. Unfortunately, her son’s father is not in his life.
Pillar of Financial Support
She explained that he “basically dipped” the week the baby was born. Since then, OP has been supporting Mia and her son financially.
OP planned to do so until Mia got back on her feet, held down a job, and could pay the bills on her own.
Exciting News for One, Dreadful for Another
However, two days before this story was posted, Mia called OP excitedly. She told her that she had “big news.”
OP wrote, “Deep down in my heart, I already knew what she was about to say, and my intuition was confirmed when she said she was pregnant again.”
What a Nice Guy!
Mia then went on and on about meeting a new guy—whom she hadn’t told OP about—who was so “nice” in how he treated her and the baby.
She also told OP that she feels like he’s “the one” and that she can’t wait for the family she was “supposed to have.”
Making Her Face the Truth
After this, OP “basically laid it out to her.”
She told OP that she hadn’t been dating the guy long. Yet, she’s already pregnant and wants to marry him—simply because he treated her and the baby “nicely.”
Not Enough to Sustain Them
Apart from this, the guy wasn’t helping her sister with bills or providing for her in any way.
She added, “This was not likely to last, and she’ll be a single mom of two. Not to mention how dangerous it is to get pregnant this soon after giving birth.”
A Furious Sister
When Mia heard what OP said, she got angry. She told OP she was being “fake” and she “wasn’t acting like family.”
Mia also told her she should support her just like their mom did.
OP found out that their mom was actually “kissing her a**,” and she was “enforcing the rose-colored glasses” that Mia had on the situation.
Their mom was apparently telling her stories of how their stepdad only knew her for two months before he married her.
The Final Straw
For OP, this was where she drew the line.
She shared, “I told her that I can’t support her or any other children should she decide to go through with this.”
You’re on Your Own!
Furious at how irresponsibly her sister acted, OP told Mia that she would no longer support her and her family.
OP wrote, “I essentially said, ‘I’m not pressuring you into anything. This is your choice, but I refuse to be financing this choice. You’re on your own, Mia. I can’t enable you digging yourself further in holes you can’t climb out of the ‘cause of irresponsible unplanned pregnancies, and I refuse to.’”
At this, Mia started crying and getting upset. She didn’t take it well and said OP didn’t want her to be happy!
Sister and Mom’s Hurtful Words
Mia also told OP she was a “b****” and then hung up on her. Now, her mom’s also angry, making her feel bad about what she said.
OP wrote, “I do feel bad. I don’t think I worded it the best, nor should I have called her irresponsible. I’m just at my breaking point. Am I the a**hole?”
The Community’s Pieces of Advice
For Redditors, OP did nothing wrong. The only thing she could have done better is be gentler with how she said it.
A top commenter said, “Not the a**hole. You could have worded it better, but you’re on the money; it’s an irresponsible decision, and she should know better. She’s not entitled to your financial support, and you have the right to cut that off. Also, it makes me laugh that she calls you fake because you’re the only one being real with her.”
“Not the a**hole, and honestly, I don’t think she should have been nicer with her words. Her sister is an irresponsible, entitled leech. What does she expect OP to do? Provide for her for the rest of her life while she gets repeatedly knocked up by every ‘true love’ she meets? Let’s be honest; no one thinks this one will last. The mother is also delusional; it’s nice that her own quick relationship actually worked out, but if she wants the same thing for her daughter, she should be the one providing for her. I assume that’s why she’s angry at OP; she’s eager to support Mia emotionally—because that costs nothing—but she doesn’t want to spend her money on her,” commented one woman.
Her Entitlement Is Through the Roof!
Others think her sister is entitled to believe OP owes her anything.
One woman wrote, “Not the a**hole, and she is pretty entitled to think other people have to finance her life.”
Another said, “You are not the a**hole. Tell your sister she’s not the only human on Earth and that the planet is on fire because of human overpopulation. It’s stupid and selfish to have so many kids, especially when you can’t provide for them. Do not keep paying for her. She will drain you dry and then blame you for it. She’s already emotionally blackmailing you. Tell your mother to support her if she’s so keen on ‘family support.’ She’s gross, too.”
What do you think of OP’s predicament? Do you think she owes Mia anything?
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