This Redditor didn’t have the best relationship with her dad or stepmother and didn’t want to spend a cent of her grandfather’s inheritance helping them buy baby stuff. Is she being selfish?
Not Exactly the Picture-Perfect Family
OP (Original Poster) is a 27-year-old woman who is a recent college graduate. Her parents have separated, but both are still in her life.
Her father also re-married, choosing a 29-year-old to be OP’s stepmother. But OP’s relationship with her stepmom, Amy, was destined to be awkward from the start, given how close in age they are.
Just Say No
OP admitted she had “no relationship” with Amy and wasn’t interested in forging bonds. She even would go so far as to avoid any family events at which her father and stepmom might be.
A Family Fraught With Problems
Even OP’s father and grandparents never had a good relationship. His marriage to a new, young wife only added fuel to the fire.
So, it didn’t surprise OP when her grandfather said she’d receive most of the inheritance and the camp they owned.
Over the Rainbow Bridge
Sadly, OP’s grandfather soon passed away from a heart attack and died two years before this story was posted.
Time continued on, and OP managed to graduate from college. She then cared for her sickly grandmother, who later died of cancer.
As her grandfather stated years before, OP received her grandparents’ estate and camp. She decided to keep the camp precisely as it was under her grandparents’ care.
Life Moves On
After some time, she invited her 28-year-old girlfriend to move in with her since she was now much more financially stable.
From there, OP used some of her inheritance money to help pay off “debt and student loans.”
Savings for Two
OP was wise with her money and still had plenty in savings. One thing she wanted to do with it was spend it on a trip with her girlfriend to Australia, as she’s originally from there.
She said, “She is from Australia and hasn’t been able to see her family since she moved here.”
Meanwhile, OP’s father blew his own inheritance fast. He spent all of the money he had received on Amy.
A Baby on the Way
Then, OP’s father announced surprising news: Amy was pregnant! On top of that, OP’s father stated they were struggling to “afford stuff for the baby.”
Trophy Wife Status
This wasn’t a surprise, as OP noted that her father had a job, and Amy wanted to remain unemployed. Although they struggled financially, Amy seemed content with being a trophy wife.
And, even with a baby coming, it seemed she had no intentions of trying to find a way to support their family.
Alms for the Poor
Instead, OP’s dad and stepmom assumed she would help them out if they asked. Unsurprisingly, it wasn’t long before OP’s father approached her, asking for money.
Her father wanted OP to give some of her inheritance to Amy so they could “purchase baby clothes and other necessities.”
Not a Team Player
However, OP was not giving in. OP responded to her father, saying, “The money I received is mine, and I have no interest in giving Amy anything.”
This was her right. After all, her grandparents had left most of the inheritance to her for a reason.
OP noted that her biological mother was aware of the situation and fully supported her decision not to help her father and Amy. She didn’t need to feel guilty over what she’d done.
OP’s dad, however, hasn’t talked to her since their initial conversation about the money. It’s like she doesn’t even exist to him!
On top of that, Amy is spreading lies about OP to the entire family. She started tarnishing her name—all because OP said no.
Redditors quickly jumped on OP’s side and told her she shouldn’t feel bad for keeping her inheritance.
One top commenter said, “Not the a**hole and your dad is super weird for marrying someone like the same age as you and your girlfriend. They’re grown adults. They should be able to plan for a baby if they want one, and it was your grandparents’ decision to give the money to you; enjoy it! Go scuba diving in Australia, take your girlfriend to meet her family, and do whatever you freaking want with it. It sounds like you’ve earned it!”
Other users were also quick to point out how disturbing it was that OP’s father married a woman so close in age to his own daughter.
Someone said, “I totally missed the ages there at the start. Two years older than his daughter? Mega barf!”
Get a Job!
Even more Redditors felt that Amy needed to get a job and help pay for her own baby’s stuff.
One commenter summarized the sentiment succinctly with, “Not the a**hole. Sounds like Amy needs a job.”
What do you think? Should OP have helped her father and Amy buy baby stuff, or should Amy get a job and use her own money?
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