This Redditor’s sister refused to be walked down the aisle by their dad. Now, their father is punishing her by excluding her and her kids from anything related to money!
Their Very Own Super Dad
OP (Original Poster), a 36-year-old woman, and her twin sister, Amanda, a lawyer, were stereotypical “Daddy’s girls.” They were very attached to their “super dad” because he’d always been there for them and wasn’t controlling or annoying in any way.
A Very Wealthy Family
Their father came from old money, so he is “filthy-rich,” with a fortune that was “close to billions.” Because of this, OP, Amanda, and their two brothers were spoiled a lot growing up.
OP added, “We came from a very privileged family.”
His Sweet and Romantic Dream
One thing about OP’s dad is that he really loves weddings. He’s a romantic and very traditional in this aspect.
OP wrote, “Growing up, we always remember him saying that ‘he couldn’t wait for the day to walk his little princesses down the aisle.’ It was a pretty huge thing for him.”
An Extravagant Wedding Anniversary Gift
When OP’s older brother celebrated his first wedding anniversary in 2011, their father gifted him a huge, expensive house, which cost around $3,000,000. This started a tradition in their family, and OP’s younger brother received the same thing on his wedding anniversary.
Anything for His Daughter
When OP got married in 2018, her dad was so excited that he gave her a blank check for the ceremony, similar to what her brothers got for their wedding.
OP wrote, “It was beautiful. He walked me down the aisle and was really emotional about it; one of the few times I saw him cry. I received a house on my first wedding anniversary.”
There’s Nothing Traditional About Her
OP’s father felt the same excitement when her twin sister got engaged. However, that went away when, one week before the wedding, Amanda told them she’d be walking down the aisle alone.
I’m Not an Object!
Their dad was heartbroken with his daughter’s decision. Still, Amanda stuck to what she said and reiterated that she “wasn’t anyone’s property to be given away” and was an “independent, grown-a** woman.”
Amanda also said it’s a “misogynistic tradition she wouldn’t want to participate in.”
Giving Her What She Wanted
Their father begged her, but Amanda didn’t give in. Despite that, their dad still paid for the whole wedding.
OP added, “She offered him the traditional father-daughter dance, but he refused. His logic was, ‘If you don’t want me to act like your father in a traditional way, I won’t.’”
Donating Her Share
A year after the wedding, OP’s father didn’t give Amanda anything, unlike OP and her brothers. When Amanda confronted their dad about it, he gave her a receipt for a donation of $3,000,000 to the National Women’s Law Center in her name.
Amanda tried to argue, but she couldn’t say anything.
Setting up His Grandkids for Life
Then, when OP’s and her brothers’ kids were born, their father started a college fund for every one of his grandkids. It is supposed to reach $2,000,000 by the time they turn 18.
Pulling the Reverse Card
A week before OP posted this story, Amanda, who has three children, found out about the college funds and asked their dad about it. She was confused as to why her kids didn’t have one, but it turns out that their father has been donating the money that was supposed to be for her kids to the National Women’s Law Center to help other “independent, grown-a** women like her.”
OP shared, “Amy is furious at our dad, and they are currently not speaking right now.”
Let’s Just Share
After her argument with their dad, Amanda asked OP and her brothers to share their children’s college fund with her kids. She accused their dad of being a “mean c***” who was “punishing” her kids.
However, OP and her brothers refused, as their kids weren’t getting Amanda’s children’s supposed share of the money. Amanda has, since then, given OP and her brothers the silent treatment, too.
What Should She Do?
The situation has caused OP to doubt whether what she did was wrong. She asked, “Am I the a**hole?”
Redditors have mixed opinions; some agree with OP’s father’s behavior, and some think he’s wrong. However, most people believe that the father is the “a**hole” and that OP and her siblings should also do something about the situation.
A Redditor wrote, “You and your siblings are not obligated to share, but it would be nice if you did. However, she is right; your dad is being a petty jerk. Getting walked down the aisle is a very personal choice, as for some people, it does have strong connotations of being given away like property, whereas the father-daughter dance is a celebration of the relationship. And it was cruel of your father to reject dancing with her. The only spoiled one here is your father.”
“Not the a**hole, but are you and your brother going stay quiet about your father being an a**hole? He’s punishing his grandchildren over something so petty. I imagine it’s not the only time he’s been incredibly petty, either,” another commenter said.
Petty Move, Dad!
Some Redditors also pointed out that what OP’s father is doing might negatively affect his grandchildren.
“Your dad is a petty a**hole. He is punishing his grandkids for a decision their mom made. Her decision was reasonable and actually pretty common in today’s world. So he sucks. Your sister is acting entitled to his money. She is not. But I get her hurt about this very long-term punishment for something petty. You suck because no child needs $2,000,000 for college. Splitting some of your kids’ funds with their cousins would in no way affect their ability to go to the best schools available. So, while you may legally be in the ‘right,’ you are being an a**hole and greedy. It’s your twin sister. Helping won’t hurt your kids. But it may help hers,” someone commented.
Another person added to the previous comment, saying, “The problem I have is the grandkids are the ones most affected by all this bulls***, and no one seems to care. Like they don’t realize the resentment that will build from this. Yes, no one is entitled to the dad’s money, but when you treat family members differently, resentment always brews, which creates even bigger problems.”
What do you think OP should have done? Should she have agreed to her twin sister’s request?
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